Help, is it ok to have sex?

Question

My friend and I or debating on rather or not its ok for someone to have sex if they or waiting on the right person to come alone. My personal beliefs are you have sexual needs that have to be taken care of , so take care of them. If the right person so happen to come alone you stop and focus your attention on them, but untill that happens have fun. My friend disagree, she thinks if you are active with other people you might miss a good thing so she prefers to be nonactive while searching. To end this debate can I have others opinion.

I am married and 27 years my husband and I are separated and I have been with him since I was 17 yrs old. I am having fun right now I am a very sexual person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

wait til you know it's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. anything you do with anyone else just takes away from the value/meaning of sex

Answer 2

This is a question that should be put to your parents, mother or father. When my daughters were growing up peer pressure was no different then it is now. Both of my girls were very good looking in today's modern world. When my oldest girl was of an age to go to a school dance, she argued with her mother and I quite awhile. Finally we gave in and allowed her to go, provide we met the boy and she was in the house by midnight. No excuses or changes in the plan. I was getting ready to go looking for my daughter when they pulled up to the curb in the boy's Trans-Am.
The time was 1:35A.M. she would argue it was not 1:00 A.M. yet.
Her dress was a mess, I could smell alcohol on her breath and
she raised her voice to me in front of a stranger. (Something my children had been taught was total dis-respectfull too anyone.)
The conclusion? The youngman was never seen or mentioned at our house again. She was grounded and did not have a social life till she turned 18. Now, she is 32 happily married to a great guy for 5 years now. With no plans for children.

Answer 3

im personally not an advocate for waiting till after marriage. some people swear by that, and thats their belief, they are entitled to it. but i wouldnt marry someone unless i knew we were sexually compatible because that is a facet of a relationship. you dont want to marry someone and find out theres something not 'clicking' between you and your partner. but you also have to realize that the sexual playground is more dangerous than ever. 8 out of 10 adults have an STD, and most dont even know theyre infected. i would never commit to giving yourself to someone physically unless you really know the person, their history and you feel confident that theyre are honest about it. im not saying ask them for a doctors letter sayin theyre clean, but short of that, you need to know who your with before you ever commit to the act. having sex lasts a little while. having a sexually transmitted disease lasts a lifetime and some will take your life. you need to think long and hard before you consider having intercourse. coming from a guy whos engaged now, its a lot better having a monogamous partner and not having to worry. thats just my 2 cents. hope it helps

Answer 4

I under stand both views but ask her this: She is just sitting around waiting for Mr. Right to come along...how is she going to find him if she isnt willing to at least casually date others or go out and look or anything? She'll never find him by sitting home on Friday night. You dont know he's Mr. Right until you meet him and I'm pretty sure he dosen't already have her number or he would have given her a call by now. Just something to think on.

Answer 5

I suppose it depends on the kind of person you are. I personally couldn't see myself having sex just for the sake of it.... I can only see myself having sex with someone I'm going out with, someone I love. But I think it's fine if thats what other people want. Some people stay the rest of their lives with someone who was just meant to be a fling or a one night stand, so you never know,
Each to their own I say!!!

Answer 6

i agree totally with u. see, loser virgin guys like me are so desperate we're thinking of prostitutes already. how can anyone wait till the right person comes along? if u have some fun along the way, im sure its all cool. doesnt make anyone cheap or nasty. its all good. if only i can have sex, if only a woman would sleep woth me, i would do it in an instant! so, u go girl, u find that guy and u sleep with him! but i hope u sleep with a 'nice guy'.
maybe someone that doesnt drive, wears glasses, is a bit shy. u'll be doing him a favour, trust me.

Answer 7

If YOU want to feed your sexual needs do so, your friend has the right to do what is right for HER. You have no right telling her what is right for her or not. What you have going is NOT a real debate, you want her to agree with you, you want her to be like you. She's not, either you accept your friend as she is or you're not much of a friend.

Answer 8

Wait until it's someone really special. Sex without emotion is boring and unfulfilling. Trust me.

When it's with the right person (and by that I don't necessarily mean Mr Right who you will instantly marry, but someone special who you have a real connection with) it is absolutely mind-blowing.

Don't waste your time with meaningless sex.

Answer 9

Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Sexual desire is not a NEED, it is a WANT. And a selfish one at that. Chastity before marriage is the ONLY way to fully enjoy sex at a time when it is appropriate.

Answer 10

think your friend is right. I wish there was a law that if you got married more than once it should cost you two times as much and i think a person that is married should be able to sue that person who cheats both party. too many cheap people that want to f...around like dogs

Answer 11

well, how old r u aniwaise?? if you're under 15 or 14 that's not a good idea foe you is that all I know about foe now cuz i'm even not or sooooo NOT ready foe sex yet, even though i got a boyfriend. It's up 2 u.