Why do 2 year old kids not listen and do things they aren't supposed to do?

Question

my 2 year old daughter always flushes stuff down the toilet and she puts everything in her mouth. She also licks people. UGH.

Answer 1

that's why it's called the terrible two's...

Answer 2

2 year olds are still learning and exploring the world. They often are still orally fixated; which is how babies gather information about objects in the beginning. They take everything to their mouths to feel its texture, tell about its shape and its taste.

2 year olds require constant supervision. Just because they can walk, have a few words and/or sentences, can assit with dressing themselves and may be potty trained doesn't mean they should be left unattended for periods of time when they could get into mischief or cause harm to themselves or damage the household innocently.
I suggest a parenting or human development class for you. I do not mean this as an insult. You need to know how to take better care of your child by learning developmental milestones and behaviors. It will make you a better parent and your toddler a happier one. The benefits will last you both a lifetime.
As for the licking, s/he does it for the reaction it elicits. Children will take attention however they can get it; positive or negative. Explain that this is not acceptable behavior. Give a two minute time out (timeouts should be 1 minute per year of age until 7) where you sit the child apart from activity and stay with them explaining why the timeout is being given the next time the child continues the behavior after being asked to stop.

Answer 3

It's because she is two years old that she is doing all this stuff. They are not called the terrible twos for nothing! Imagine how exciting it must be for her, all the new things shes learning and seeing. They are a handful, that is for surel The more patient you are the better you both will get through it. I have a grandson who just turned 3 and a grandson who is 2 1/2 and I watch them all the time. I notice that on the days that I say the heck with everything else and just do stuff with them, teach them stuff and just let them help me with whatever it is I have to do, the better they are. But on days when I really have so much to get done, they don't behave as well. Of course, that tells me that maybe I just don't behave as well on days that I am too busy. It's too easy to get stressed out when you have so much to get done, and you tend to get a little bit annoyed with them. Of course then they can see they are getting your attention, so we are just teaching them that bad behavior will get them lots of attention. I try to do as little as possible when I have them, and that pretty much solves my problem. Of course, I am the grandma, I don't have all the daily work and responsibilities as when I was the mom. I feel for all you over worked moms, but you at least can dream about being a grandma someday and that's where all the real fun is. I don't spoil them rotten, but I do spoil them. I just have the time that was so hard to find when I was a working mom. So hang in there, it does get better. Good luck.

Answer 4

It's curiosity she's learning how things work wether it's what she hears, sees, tastes, smells... keep her busy and she won't keep you so busy. I have four kids plus used to babysit about 10 others. One day we had the guinie pig out and of course i realized the time we had to run for some more kids and so were racing out the door (i forgot to make sure the guinie pig was put back in it's cage before we left) We came home and of course the kids wanted to get the guinie pig but she was nowhere to be found. We searched high and low. In the process i had to tinkle and when i lifted the toilet seat i found the guinie pig dead. one of the kids i babysat thought he'd like to go swimming... Hope this make you feel 10X's better... sadly enough it's true... i think i may need counseling...lol Next is the trying threes... i think four is there most adorable age... they have a memory and they look up to you highly and they'll tell you why they can or can't do things... hang in there.

Answer 5

The terrible two's will go away and then become the teenager from blank syndrome. I am a grandfather of nine, with a degree and 18 plus years on the job. I never became so stupid until my young son's turned 15 and 16. There was nothing I knew how to do they could not do better. No answer I gave to their questions was sufficient enough to quell there thirst for perfect answer.
My two year old used to laugh and giggle after they had put my tennis shoes in toilet and made it over-flow.

Answer 6

OH MY GOSH........WELCOME TO MY WORLD. All I can say is that you are not alone. From the articles, suggestions, and past experiences of others, I hear this DEFIANCE is all normal. I'm outta my mind these days and flew off the handle this past weekend when I had to leave a picnic (that I couldn't wait to attend) because my (almost) 2-yr old is soooooooooooooo busy I literally did not stop for a straight hour and a half chasing him. The house was not child friendly (built in pool, fish pond, and 5 sets of stairs throughout the back yard) and all anyone can say to me is just that "Its his age & it'll pass". After working a 40-hr work week and being a single parent, I couldn't take anymore, it wasn't worth it. I didn't have a morsel of food, drank 2 bottles of water on the fly, and had not more than one sentence of conversation with another adult. He looks at me straight in the eye while I tell him "no, No, NO, NOO, NO!" then he cries when I've hurt his feelings. I hear its all normal and I only pray that I don't pick up a one way ticket to the funny farm before I get thru it!!!!!! You're 'doing your time' just like I am..its easy to wish them to grow up faster but I keep trying to remind myself that I will look back on these days and wish him little again..

Answer 7

Because she is two years old, however you can talk about this to a doctor to find out if there's anyway to help you daughter. On the other hand, she might have seen what you and your husband do and copy like flushing down the toilet and stuff. She might also copy that on what she sees on TV. Get her some toy that she can press and might keep her attention to her toy instead

Answer 8

putting stuff in toilet is normal for a 2 year old. putting things in her mouth is a pretty normal thing also, licking people probably gets her alot of attention. i would not worry too much about it she sounds like a normal 2 year old.i have 3 kids of my own and work with 0-3 year olds i come across that kind of stuff alot.

Answer 9

lol i have a son who will be 2 next month he also flushes the toilet and fills it up with things and yes licks a lot too!!!! its just their way of getting attention and seeing how far they can get before they get in trouble...my son usually gets really bad and does things he normally doesnt as soon as the phone rings! he hates when im on the phone....just be persistent in your actions and punishments and it should be ok,,, but if your childs anything like mine it gets soo hard!!! there are days when i am in tear because he wont listen and just does everything and anything to make me mad...just think when they were little babies though, it goes by sooo fast and we will be looking back at this and laughing...good luck with the "terrible 2s"

Answer 10

When your children don't listen don't be afraid to punish them take away something that they are really attached to,like a bike or a favorite toy. If that doesn't work make sure you set down the law, everytime your daughter does something they aren't suposed to give them a time our, if these things don't work it might be good to watch the television show NAnny 911 there are a few different names for it but it gives helpful hints to parenting

Answer 11

Same reason adults do. She sees you flush stuff down the tiolet.
Maybe sees mon and dad kissing.
Maybe he kisses you all over when she sees it.
They are mirrors of mommie and daddy
Just isn't want you expect. Get use to that.
Hang on because one day she will be a teen ager and you will really have something to complain about.