What is the role of a Christian Wives?

Question

I'm Christian and I was wondering what everyone else thought?
I know theres a great definition in Proverbs 21 and feel that's good guide lines. But I think I remember that the Bible also says wives should teach their children, does that mean they have to homeschool their children or be devoted to them in such a fashion. Please use biblical verse(s) to support your opinion.

Answer 1

A great question, and one that I've never seen on here before!
A Christian wife should be like the one in Proverbs 31.
Also, check out 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, 1 Corinthians 11:3-16, Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3:18-19, 1 Timothy 2:9-15, Titus 2, 1 Peter 3:7.
To me a Christian wife is a homemaker, homeschools her children (because how could she possibly teach them the right things if they're learning in public schools?), and is appropriately submissive to her husband. I don't mean she gets herself beaten every night, but that she has respect for husband's authority, and that he has a mutual respect for her, but in the end....the husband will have the final say on anything.
In my home this is dificult as my husband isn't saved. So I've just tried to explain to him why I think men should have some sort of authority over women, and he agrees. Putting it into practice is the hard part though lol. I stay home with the children. Their ages are 8, 6, and 4. (We plan to have more soon.) I cook at least one meal a day as a service to both my husband AND my children. I provide healthy alternatives for the other two meals. I keep our house clean because I think my children and husband deserve to have a clean place to live. I homeschool my children for several reasons. Because of the horrible things being taught in schools, because they have different learning styles (one is developmentally disabled), because ALL children should be able to have an education catered to their own needs, and because I feel it's my God-given duty/PRIVILEGE to educate my own children. My husband and I feel so strongly that my place is in the home, that we've been through some pretty bad financial times, and at times he's worked three jobs just to allow our family the privilege of having a stay-at-home mom. We discuss things together, but if there's ever a conflict, he makes the final decision. His decision is usually some sort of compromise because he doesn't wish to make me feel inferior to him.
I've been blessed with a wonderful husband huh? : )

I don't think the Bible specifically mentions homeschooling because there was just no other option then. It was the mother's duty to teach her children. Families were much closer then as a result. Now we start handing our babies over to strangers as soon as they're born (think hospital nurseries, daycare at 6 weeks old, preschool, school, etc.). And look what's happened to families because of it? (Other things played a part too though, of course.)

I also think a wife should LOOK pleasing to her husband, unless he wants her to dress like a prostitute like most women do these days. I believe a woman should dress modestly, but attractively. Not so attractively as to have other men googling their eyes at her, but so they'll say, "Oh, she's neat, clean, pleasant to look at, and I don't have to cover my children's eyes when she walks past! And I hear she's a great cook too!!"

I do have long hair.........the Bible says a woman's hair is her glory. I do trim the ends when it starts to look messy. I wear it either in a twisty bun thing, or down, or pulled back on each side, or braided, or any other way I want, as long as it wouldn't call too much attention to me.....because modest women don't do that. I wear loose fitting clothing, long (but pretty) skirts and dresses, blouses that cover at least to my collar bones, and halfway to my elbows. Call it frumpy-dumpy if you want, but at least I know that men aren't looking at me and licking their lips. If they smile at me I know it's because they appreciate something else about me. Something more important than how much I'm showing. I think a woman owes it to her husband to dress modestly so that he doesn't have to worry about her faithfulness (or the intentions of other men.)

Answer 2

A Christian wife is to stay in the anointing and let the Holy Spirit guide her. If both the husband and the wife stay in God then it is like God is there all the time in their midst. Both people are one with God in a true marriage so if He is being included in the marriage then it has to go perfect or almost perfect most of the time. The wife will do what women do that are under the anointing and men will do the same. With the mind of Christ they will complement each other in everything. The submission thing is automatic because of the divine order. It is voluntary so as to have each partner doing what makes it work best. God is not asking the woman to submit to an idiot, He is asking for submission to His will. This should be done in the marriage and before the marriage, when the people are saved. Bottom line is, to serve the husband as though you are serving God, because it is the God in the relationship that you are loving in your husband and the God in you that He is loving in you. When held to this level the old nature has no place to go but out the door.

Answer 3

Paul lays it out for the family pretty plainly in Ephesians chapter five. start in verse 14 go though to chapter 6 though verse 4. I translate things like this. 1. Husbands love wives as Jesus loves church(and gave Himself for it) 2. wives respect husbands. 3. children obey parents. 4. Fathers do not provoke children. in other words if the husband loves his wife like that and is good to her children she should do the things that make her husband happy. This is not a blanket men rule with iron fists and women have to just take it. Women should be IN the home if at all possible and IF they live within the means of the husbands income and don't try to have the biggest and best of everything then the wife can stay at home with her family.

Answer 4

My pastor and his wife home-school their children (all 5), but I have spoken with him at length about such things, and as he says: all parents are teaching their children, whether it is formally (home-school) or outside of school hours. And no matter where a child is schooled, the parent has the job of teaching their child about Jesus, sin and repentance, redemption, and salvation. Some families simply do not have the means to have a parent home full-time with the children, and as long as they are not neglecting their duty as a parent, that isn't so awful. Personal experience, though, when I worked outside of the home I took home $6 a DAY after paying for childcare, taxes, and necessary items/objects for my job. And, my children were not taken care of properly by my husband in my absence. Stick with Proverbs as a guide, but know also that it is virtually impossible to have every quality listed as a bar to reach. Use it as a guide, but remember not to expect perfection. And also remember, a man's job it to sanctify his wife just as Christ sanctifies the Church.

Answer 5

I don't believe the "role" of a Christian differs for men and women. The role of all Christians is to seize every opportunity (and you cannot have opportunity without "unity") to fulfill God's mission. His mission is our mission (written in John 3:16).

Marriage, after all, unites two human beings in the most intimate and passionate relationship possible. As such, it mirrors on a human level, the relationship we enjoy with God. The Bible often describes God's relationship with people as marriage. Ephesians 5:21-33 says the relationship between husband and wife is like the relationship between Christ and the church. Both relationships require commitment, faith, forgiveness, etc.

It is the role of both parents to teach their children. Marriage is a union, and a union uses the strengths of all to meet their goals. If the wife has a stronger understanding of the Bible, she teaches that. If the husband can better teach his xhildren respect and compassion for others, that's what he should do.

Answer 6

I do home school but I am not saying this is right for everyone. All women and men home school their children even if only for the first years and along with school later.I do feel that for a Christian wife and mother husband and family must be prime in our lives. It is an important vocation. In the Catholic Church we consider the home the Domestic Church.I do believe in husband and wife sharing much of the decisions but I also believe the husband has the resposibility as leader and head of household. A wise husband will pay attention to his family and their needs and wants.

Answer 7

this is the main verse i

The Virtuous Wife
10 Who] can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31

Answer 8

You may not like my opinion, but I don't like the idea of assigning a specific ROLE to either sex. Personally, I wouldn't mind if the Wife took my shovel and laboured for a bit. I love teaching and wish I could be a stay at home Dad. Nothing against Christians at all, I used to be one for near six years. It's too sexist for me.

Answer 9

READ EPHESIANS 5:22-33.
PROVERBS 31 DESCRIBES THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN - A GUIDELINE ALL WOMEN SHOULD FOLLOW.
IF YOUR WIFE HAS TO WORK FOR FINANCIAL REASONS (NOT TO KEEP UP WITH THE JONESES - BUT TO KEEP THE NECESSITIES & BILLS PAID) PUT YOUR KIDS IN A GOOD CHRISTIAN SCHOOL - HOMESCHOOLING IS THE NEXT BEST OPTION TO THAT (IF WIFE DOESNT WORK). HOWEVER, I DO THINK KIDS NEED TO EXPERIENCE SCHOOL OUTSIDE OF THE HOME. IF THE WIFE HAS TO WORK, I THINK SHE SHOULD ONLY WORK HOURS THE KIDS ARE IN SCHOOL & BE HOME IN THE MORNINGS TO GET THEM READY & DROP THEM OFF & ALSO TO PICK THEM UP AFTER SCHOOL & BE HOME WITH THEM & HUSBAND THE REST OF THE NIGHT.

Answer 10

Oh Crap! Proverbs 31 was written by men for men. No woman could live up to all those expectations, and if she adhered to half of them, no man would be fit to kiss her feet.
Like wise the rules for husbands.
I see a lot of Pentecostal women in ugly clothes down to ugly bobby socks and ugly shoes, never made up and many who never cut their hair and wear it in scraggly buns or stringing down their backs..proper for Christian wives.
Not allowed perfume or jewelry either. Seems to me the damn rules are made for mans benefit.

Odds are you don't want a real answer to your question as you pretty much know the exact way you want women to answer. So it is only an affirmation of what you believe and you don't want to hear anything else!