If you are a military wife do you always travel with your husband? if not where do you stay? when do you see

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your family(mom and dad)?

Answer 1

The old saying is that.."If the Military wanted you to have a wife, they would have issued you one". There are numerous opportunties for military spouses to travel with their mates. Notice I made it gender neutral because now there are many women in the military who have civilian husbands.

Mil assignments come in many flavors and depend on the service you're in. Accompanied Tours are the one's where the family is allowed to go with the service member and are usually 3-4 years long, whereever they are, be it some stateside base or some base in Europe or the Far East. Un-accompanied Tours are ones where the family/spouse are not allowed to go, and are usually only a year in duration.

The military is the only place I know where everybody, regardless of rank or grade, get the same number of vacation days every year, earned at the rate of 2.5 days per month. You save up those days until you have enough days to go where you want, then apply for "Leave". You see your family during the time you take leave(vacation) IF you are somewhere close enough to afford the trip. The military can deny your request to take leave if it interferes with an ordered deployment or planned exercise, but they canNOT force you to lose accumulated leave. A service member is allowed to accumulate up to 90 days vacation time (it takes three years of no vacations at all to get to that point), but at the end of every Fiscal year, you must take the amount of vacation/leave time you've accumulated over 60 days (in other words, a mandatory vacation) or you lose it. And the military also observes 14 paid holidays a year. The congress passed a resolution that most Federal holidays are allowed to be "moved" to coincide with a weekend, so you'll get three day weekends. The one exception to that rule is Veteran's Day, always celebrated and commemorated at the 11th minute of the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month of the year. If November 11th lands on a Fri or Mon, OK, but if it's on a Tues, Wed, or Thurs, it will be still be a day off (unless your unit has been tasked to be in some parade or ceremony, then you gotta work on the holiday).

Answer 2

I have been a military wife for 10 years and no I don't travel with my husband unless we are stationed somewhere else. Right now we are in IL. and our family is in La. we see them about once or twice a year and it is very hard to be so far away. That is life in the military. My husband is a E-7 and in Iraq right now so it is especially hard be so far away from family now.

Answer 3

I am active duty but I have a lot of friends that are spouses. Here is what a lot of them do.

When their spouse deploys they ask for a ERD (early return of dependents) and go home until he gets back.

When they move to a different state with their spouse they go home every couple of months to see family. Their spouse can't always go but at least they get to see their family. Others just go home when they can. Some people don't mind.

Otherwise if their husband is there with them they stay on the base generally. Some people move off but most feel more comfortable on base.

Answer 4

When he was on a ship and they would go underway for a month or a few weeks, I would go meet him in whatever port they pulled into. The ship was home-ported in Norfolk Virgina, so it only went to the East Coast States and it was easy for me to just drive or fly and meet up with him. Of course I didn't meet him anywhere when he was on his six month deployments because he was over seas. He's no longer on a ship, but he still has to travel and if he's gone more then a couple weeks, the kids and I meet up with him. We live in Italy, so now it's the European countries we get to see!
I never stayed with anyone when he leaves. I like being at home because it makes me feel closer to him, and I think that when he goes away, it's already hard on our kids, so I try to keep everything as normal as possible.

Answer 5

Yes. I travel with my husband. Unless he deploys or goes to a school. Then I can't. Then I'll just stay wherever we are stationed til he returns. I get to see my family about once a year. It's really not a vacation though, because it's always rush here,rush there, just to be able to see both sides of our family. Sometimes it gets rough. But I really wouldn't have it any other way. lol

Answer 6

my husband is in the canadian navy, and the only traveling i do with him is when we are posted somewhere. when he goes off to sea i dont go, unless he is in post somewhere for a while then i get flowen down to spend time with him. when he does go out to sea i stay at home, go see my family for a bit and wait from him to get back home.

Answer 7

No you don't. It depends on where he/she is sent. If they are deployed, you stay wherever you bought your house, if they PCS, you go with (unless you don't want to).
I am stationed 3 hours from my father, sister, and some of his family, 23 from my mother, and the rest of my family.
You get used to it though.

Answer 8

I get to go with my husband wherever he goes as long as it's not a field exercise, a hardship tour (Korea), schooling that is for less than 90 days, or into combat (Iraq or Afghanistan).
If I can't go with him, I stay home, wherever that happens to be at the time. Right now, home is Baumholder, Germany, which is where we've been for nearly two years.
I haven't gotten to see my family at all, because MAC flights (military flights) are pretty undependable, and flights to and from Germany are too expensive.
I'm supposed to be flying home for three weeks tomorrow or sometime this week though, if everything works out. I'm taking a MAC flight. I'm in no hurry this time.
Other military personnel have leave a little more often than they have it here. Soldiers here are only allowed to take "block leave", which means that they can't request leave, as compared to other posts, like in the US. Soldiers here are given a choice twice a year to take no more than two weeks leave. It's pretty dumb, I think.

Answer 9

at home