spanking child for punishment? are you for or against?

Question

I think a spanking not a beating ofcoarse is a healthy way to disapline children and gets best results when all else fails.

Answer 1

I am 100% for spanking a child for punishment, grant it, there are times when only talking or time out works, but some times that still don't work. So if time out and what ever DON'T work, well it is time for a spanking.

I was spanked when I was growing up and it sure didn't damage me in the least bit. There is a big difference in spanking a child and beating one. If more people out their spanked their children enough when they acted up, they would stop acting that way.

Case in point, when you go to Wal-Mart or any other stores, or restaurants, how many times have you saw the kids that acted up so bad in those places? Mine would not DARE act they way anywhere!!! I don't even like going in any store where a child does not know how to ACT respectfully or right.

Answer 2

After a certain age, there are other ways to punish your kids. Yes my kids got spankings. There is a difference between spanking and beating. I think that is the problem now a days with kids. Parents are too busy working or some just don't care. Everyone wants to be there kids friend, which is just nuts. Or they don't want to hurt their self esteems. Well I got a spanking and so did my brothers and sister, we turned out just fine. Children now a days have no respect and some of them need a good spanking.

I didn't fear my parents. I new the difference between right and wrong. I respected my parents. These people who say their kids are afraid of them, whatever. Children need discipline that is what make them productive healthy adults. Next time your kid is swearing at you, you just go ahead and explain to him why he shouldn't do that or give him a time out. And he will not learn from it, they learn they can get away with it.

Answer 3

I totally agree that spanking is a healthy way to discipline.. I was spanked.. I wasn't abused, it wasn't mean, it didn't turn me into an angry abusive adult. Where do they get all the info on why you shouldn't spank your child anyway.. You aren't doing it to hurt them.. thats why our butts are padded. My best friend was abused as a child (as in held down and kicked, getting things thrown at her, beaten with a vacuum cleaner) and even she thinks spanking is ok. I know first hand that sending your child to their room or setting them in time out is bull crap. My mom could set me in time out and I would sit and stare at the wall and day dream for an hour if she left me there, and then I'd forget why I was there, and get up and go do whatever I wasn't supposed to be doing all over again.. so what's the point. If you give your kid a good swat on the butt it startles them, it doesn't hurt them. It gets their attention and lets them know what they are doing wrong.

I would also like to add that my brother and I were both spanked as a form of discipline and we turned out fine. We are not violent people. We are not angry and abusive. We are 28 and 26 and we are perfectly normal. We both were honor roll students and were involved in extracurricular activities at school and at church and we both had lots of friends who would come over to our house every weekend and spend the night, and now we are both contributing members of society both with jobs that we love, both in committed relationships, both with great relationships with our parents, both with very active social lives.. so I ask you, what is the harm in spanking.. it doesn't turn you violent or angry or make you a social outcast.. it teaches your kids that you are in charge and it teaches your kids a respect for you. A child should have a healthy fear of their parents.. it is a fear that breeds respect. I respect my mother more than anyone else I know..and she spanked me every day.. I was a naughty little kid

Another thing.. you can tell a 2 year old that the stove is hot a million times and they will still keep reaching for it.. but if you tell them it is hot and you spank them.. how many 2 year olds will still keep trying? Almost none.. why?.. because reaching for the stove hurts!! I'd rather teach my kid this way than have them actually touch the stove and then have them find out how much it really hurts!

For everyone here who doesn't have children and wrote that they are against it.. I'd like to hear from you all when you have children and they are out robbing liquor stores because the only form of punishment they know is being talked to.. when your kid is in prison for killing someone.. then let's talk.. I know a kid who wasn't spanked.. and I watched him, when he was 8, ride over his infant brother on his bike.. and he got a time out for it.. these are the kind of kids we are putting into society by not spanking our kids.. and when they're in prison, they'll learn things the hard way

Answer 4

Being a child that was relentlessly beaten, I feel bad when all else fails and I give my child a swat on the wrist and they cry. Kind of funny because my kids listen to me a hell of a lot more often that I did my dad. I think the reason for that is
I just talk to my children calmly and explain the reasons why they cannot do things that harm themselves or others. My dad just made me fear him... Until I was about 12. I stopped really caring about spankings around then and did whatever I felt like.

Answer 5

In a certain extent yes. However, the child shouldn't be exposed to these spanking all the times. If the child goes out of control or disobeying and disrespectful, this should discipline the child. It should be the last option and explaning the situation with the child will help him/her understand and prevent him from doing it again. If done properly, this will be healthy for the child.

Answer 6

Spanking is not necessary. I'm 17 and my mom used to hit me. Not a lot but she did hit me...and it leaves more of an emotional scar than anything. I think that children have to learn to respect more than anything and w/ respect comes the obidience. Of course they r gonna act up once in a while, and time out is not always gonna work, but every child has a weak point and a parent should be able to identify it in order to learn how to discipline. I have a 6 year old brother and fortunately my mom doesn't spank him, cuz me and my older sister basically raise him since my mom is always at work. He listens to us and he is obedient. And that shows, that spanking is not necessary. Hope this changes ur point of view at least a lil' bit.

sorry if I wrote too much.

Answer 7

I try other methods of punishment first and if it doesn't work then yep they get their butt busted but always with the hand and not belts and things like that. It doesn't have to be hard to get their attention and their is a big difference in spanking and beating. There was 5 of us growing up and my momma would pop us quick and we all turned out fine and were a lot more respectful than the kids now adays are.

Answer 8

Well, since you asked...
I have the two best kids in the world. Daughter is 18 and son is 22. By the time they were about 5 years old, I figured out that giving them a "time out" was having a lot better effect at changing behavior than spanking them. Spanking just makes kids mad. Time out makes them spend time thinking about why they are being punished without being all mad about it. For us, it worked a lot better, so I quit spanking them, and look how they turned out ...


PS: However, after reading the posts, I would be happy to give Mella a spanking, since she likes it! LOL. Call me on the PHONE Mella! ROFL

Answer 9

I am against spanking. I see it as beating and I see it as bad parenting.

My mom only spanked me once when I was very young. For a 6 year old, I had the mind frame of if someone hit me then I have the right to hit them back. Eye for an eye. Fair is fair.

When I hit her back. She realized how much of a hypocrite and how much she conflicted her self. She always taught me if someone hit me, I hit them back. She also said that a person who hits another is in anger and nothing justifies hitting. My mom was beating by her ex husband and was trying to explain to us why people hit etc.

If I hit my sister and my mom says "don't hit your sister". Then how is that justifiable my mom is allowed to hit me for the same reason I wanted to hit my sister for? Talk about a hypocrite of a parent if they tried to do "ok for me not for you".

she never laid a hand on me and I grew up a well adjusted person in society.

So when all else fails, then you haven't tried everything and haven't learned all can about parenting.

I will never hit my kids. Spanking is hitting.

Answer 10

I'm against it. I don't think it really teaches a child anything, except to fear their parents. Also, if it was really effective you would only have to do it once.

*And for those who say they were spanked as a child and turned out just fine, well my dad has been smoking for over 30 years, and he's fine too. That doesn't mean that smoking isn't bad for you.