I have an old friend who is coming to visit me. I am away at college and the dorm I live in requires $60 PER each night that a guest stays. On top of that, they want a $60 deposit to make reservations for a guest to stay. Is it rude of me to ask for the $60 (deposit that I have to pay) back from my friend, as I am a broke college student- or- should I just pay for it and not ask to be reimbursed? *hope this makes sense*
2006-08-07 13:12:28 · 16 answers · asked by Apple Pie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would not hesitate to ask my guest if they were able to provide some assistance in view of the arrangements you must adhere to in your dorm. (Things sure have changed - I've had 4-8 visitors in my room without a thing being said - of course, that was 1970's....smile) Additionally, your guest might consider a motel nearby - Motel 6 - is usally very cheap for one night - AND they will leave the light on for ya! (smile)
2006-08-07 14:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your friend aware of the expenses you'll incur by having her stay with you? If so, I think she should offer to at least pay half. If she doesn't know, it might be a good idea to tell her. She may not have a clue, and probably thinks she'll just be sharing a dorm room with you at no cost. She shouldn't be offended if she knows your financial circumstances and your dorm's guest policies. How long is she planning to stay? One night? Two? A week? That could add up to quite a bit.
Maybe from now on you should limit your visits with her to the times you'll be on winter or spring break, so you can put her up in your guest room at home for free.
2006-08-07 14:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd explain the situation to the guest. Then decide if the guest should stay there or a hotel.
Is the guest a fellow broke student? Look in to a youth hostel in your area. Split a hotel. Split the room fee.
If the guest has some means they will probably go for a hotel room anyway.
If it were me I'd be sneaking the guest in and out. Tell them that they couldn't take meals with you at the cafeteria.
2006-08-07 14:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend know this? It might work out better if she stayed in a B&B near the college. That would be cheaper, and would still give you a little free time, as you will probably continue to have classes and assignments while she is here.
If you can afford to pick up the tab, and feel that's the thing to do, then do it, but don't pay for it if it's going to aggravate you and put a strain on the visit and your friendship. Better to let her know the situation, and the options, and see what she suggests.
2006-08-07 13:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is bad etiquette to make your guests pay for rent or anything like that. I understand that it is $60 per night, and I know you are "broke"--but perhaps you should tell your guests to "wait"...Or maybe you should talk to your Dorm Manager to waive the fees for your guest. I mean, thats a stupid rule, and I never had to pay for any guests when I was in college in the mid-late 90's. In the end, its poor etiquette to make your guests pay, sorry.
But if its your "boyfriend", tell his as$ to pay--after all, any woman who "pays" for a man to sleep with her is just plain stupid--or has very, very, very LOW self esteem.
Peace
2006-08-07 14:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money for a deposit, go ahead and pay it. You can help your friend cleanup to make sure you get it returned.
You can also tell your friend about the required deposit and ask (if it's a really good friend you can confide in just about anything) if your friend can advance the $.
2006-08-07 13:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by CheriDonna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you sneak them in or something? That is just ridiculous. I don't see how they could tell that they were just visiting you for a little instead of all night... or can't they just slip in like they are a part of the university???
Ugh! How annoying that they charge you so much? You pay to live there, you should be able to have whomever you want stay with you. I think though that you guys should split it. They'll probably just offer to pay it all. OR!!! If you have a friend who lives off-campus, see if you can crash there or if your friend can for free?
2006-08-07 14:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be up front with my guest, telling her I would love to see her, but explain about the accomodations and the cost. Suggest this person visit you at another time when you are at your home and not away at school. If she is any kind of friend, I am sure she will understand.
2006-08-07 13:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just let them stay without telling anybody. Just don't do anything obvious, like haulding up a bunch of bedding. That is just a plain rip to pay to have a friend stay for a weekend. You wouldn't make them pay to stay at your house, would you?
2006-08-08 13:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for it or ask for some help, i'm sure your guest will understand if you explain it to them. It might be cheaper to get a hotel room!
2006-08-07 13:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋