I am dating this guy. We are in our 20's and sexually active with eachother only. Last night I asked if he would return the favor, and I hope you know what I mean by that. Well he said NO...I was a little caught off gaurd so I asked him why NO. He said that it was against his "Morals". Then he just went on saying that he just can't do it. He has never done it before and just don't want to to do. I asked him to think about for down the road. So what do I do. I love it and he won't give it to me.....any ideas? I mean if he doesn't want to do it then fine I understand but yet I feel torn because I love it and I can't get it. Oh yeah I know that I can stop giving to him until he changes his mind, but i enjoying giving it to him so I dont' want to stop so please don't suggest that.
2006-08-07 13:08:30 · 5 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him that since it would be his first that I would totally guide him in the right direction......I also mentioned how I do him...like the double standard that was mentioned. He knows that. I think it could be an uncomfortable thing since he hasn't done it before....
2006-08-07 13:21:11 · update #1
So it's against his "morals" to do it to you, but not for you to do it to him? Sounds like a double standard to me.
He's either lazy, scared, or doesn't care about your pleasure as much as he does about his own.
Ask him why he won't do it, and if he persists with the morals angle, ask him why, and why it's okay the other way around.
If he doesn't want to because it makes him uncomfortable, that's different, and you should respect that. You might try asking him nicely, telling him that it's something that would bring you a lot of pleasure.
2006-08-07 13:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by kolvirbleys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what I am seeing is that you are in a relationship which does not give you everything you need. You have to think about whether you can live with that for the rest of your life? Would that drive you to cheat down the road? Revenge is never a good idea. You may stop giving him but he may still not give in. He would only get upset and the relationship will just turn south. It will become a lose-lose situation. Think about what you want in a relationship and if this is important to you, move on and find someone who would.
2006-08-07 20:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Chicagoan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get him to think about you know is to stop you Know to him.Sorry I am a guy and that would get his attention. I know its not the answer you wanted but it is an honest answer.
2006-08-07 20:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by kevin w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG he doesnt know what he is missing... for most guys it is wonderful.. and i am sure it is also wonderful for all thegirls... nothing better ... you need another guy.. your missing out girl... and by your question you go down on him??? my god... dont do it again for him...
2006-08-07 20:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by fred Flintstone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, life sux some times! Or doesn't...
2006-08-07 20:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋