why do men cheat?

Question

i have been with my b/f for over 3 years and he just recently came clean with me a couple of days ago about his cheating habits, and how he doesn;t want to stay in a commited relationship
and i just dont understand why,i am good woman i have a good head of my shoulder ,the sex is good , i take care of my man like any good woman should and he says this too all the time , am pretty and very sexy i am not too clingy like most women are as i understand guys dont like this ,i mean what did i do wrong ?

the funny thing about the whole thing is that he doensn't want us to break it off, he wants me to still be him

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with you. The question I have, is why do men cheat on us with ugly girls? Have you ever noticed that? We are always so much better looking than the ones they cheat with. So why do they do it all?
Maybe they are trying to satisfy all the ugly girls out there before they want to settle down with us.

Answer 2

This is just a guy's perspective but I have a couple of things to say.

1. I don't think you did anything wrong. Its obvious to me that this guy just wants variety or he is not ready to settle down. You could be anybody and he'd still feel that way.

2. Think of yourself as lucky. You found out now instead of a marriage and one or two kids later. Although you may feel hurt, in the long run you are so much better off. Count your blessings.

Too bad I'm married and love my wife cause you sound like a sweetheart. Some dude will be very lucky when he finds you.

TX Guy

Answer 3

Not all men cheat, there are guys out there who actaully have some morals.

You have done a lot wrong. You obivously don't know about how to keep a long-term relationship. It has nothing to do with how beautiful you are on the outside. Things like that are limited, subject thus this guy finds something "better" and moves onto the next girl. If you based your relationship on somethine infinite i.e. God you would find guys that would stay commited.

Answer 4

Like they say there is two sides to ( Every Story ) and then there is the truth.
There is a saying that ( Good People ) can't find any one decent. The fact that your boyfriend of 3 years came clean on cheating on you is a major issue. With Aids and sexually transmitted diseases out there on the rampage, is not were you want to be.

You mention you take care of him and the way you describe yourself you are from a culture that have raised women to treat their men good, as well as to be good wives.

Some men and women don't appreciate any thing good you do for them as some people are just bent on cheating and lying.

You are not the first or the last to be in such a situation as a lot of good men and women are going through similar situation like yours or worse.

All you can do is your best and if things is not working out is to move on. You don't want to be in a situation of having (Aids Test ) every so often as a result of him cheating.

For when you have sex with him you don't know the history of his out side sex partners, and don't want to get any thing which his out side lovers pass on to him.

There are good men out there you know. You just happen to be with the wrong man as some men would be kissing your feet as well as the ground you walk.

There are so many reasons people cheat and women as well also cheat as well.

Hope the above help you out

Answer 5

Well, to be fair, not just men cheat. I've come across my fair share of cheating women. Cheating is a symptom of a larger problem,. If he is really sleeping around that much, better cut out quick before he gives you a souvenir you don't want. A good friend of mine got herpes from her cheating bf..

As I have told my bf in moments of fond exasperation - When the balls drop, the brains go with them.

Not all men cheat. You did nothing wrong. It's him. He's obviously not ready to settle down and may never be.

Answer 6

He could be scared of committing to a relationship with you for the rest of his life and he wants to fool around a little first, or he could be tired of the relationship and he wants to see what's out there before he decides to break it off.

Remember that men are biologically programmed to want to spread their seed as widely as possible. There is a Darwinian explanation for this, which is that the type of men who are most likely to reproduce are of course the type that fool around the most. So of course men who fool around have perpetuated more of their genes than men who stay home. The same is not true for women. The women who procreate the most and whose children are more likely to survive past infancy, are those who want to stay home, feel secure, and protect their child. So women perpetuate those traits. So it is true that men are pigs, but that is part of what made our species successful. There is nothing you can do about this except understand how men are. You did not do anything wrong.

Answer 7

You mentioned "cheating habit" so I guess he's a chronic cheater? Do you understand why he cheats? If he cannot be committed in a relationship, maybe he should not be in a relationship. It's time to leave him and find someone who will commit if you want to be in a committed relationship. If he still wants to be with you and he doesn't really understand why he cheats, maybe it's because he has sexual addiction. Check the sexual addiction link and see if he has other symptoms. If you love him enough, ask him to seek counseling and make sure he is doing it for himself and not for you.

Answer 8

Let him go. he isn't worth your time. I know it's hard but you need to detach yourself from him and know that there is better for you.

What he did was disgusting, you aren't worth so little. Respect yourself and know that If he was any worthy a man he would not of lied to you and kept you on the side as he did for so long.

Some men are just like that, they want fun. So do some women. Just accept it, I know you feel used and hurt but something much better will eventuate, give it time. Women like you and I need and crave for more and we will get it some day! We just have better standards.

There is no biological explanation for human stupidity.

Answer 9

Girl you didn't do anything wrong. Baby girl just keep being yourself leave his selfish butt and find you somebody who appreciate you for you for you not just your body. Men cheat because they are selfish and in considered. some men cheat because they are afraid of comment others have been hurt by women so they don't trust them and you have that are just dogs and use women for what they can get. since he told you about his cheating and you think you was his main girl how many of those other women you think feel the same way you do?

Answer 10

I asked a similar question, " why do women imply her man is cheating". I a lot of cases the man does cheat reasons, 1) they feel they wont get caught. 2) the want to see if they still got it. 3) they're constantly accused of it. and 4) They're not happy in the relationship.