Whenever my 5 yr old comes home from a weekend w/ his dad, he insists on sleeping w/ me. He says there are monsters in his bed. He never used to do this. He panics when I tell him it is time for bed. Whenever I put him in his own bed, he clings to my neck and will not let go. This usually lasts for 2 days. I have tried to convince him that there are no monsters. Sometimes I take him to my own bed.
2006-08-07 13:01:34 · 14 answers · asked by Jenifer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
He is probably afraid of you leaving. I am sure he misses you terribly when he is at his dad's and wants to be sure you will be there when he wakes up.
Take him to your pediatrician for a check up to make sure he is OK physically, tell the doc what's going on and see if you can get some short term counseling for your little guy to help him learn to cope with this.
2006-08-07 13:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let a 5 year old insist anything!
Get a can of air freshener and put a label on it that says "monster spray." He can spray it in te closet and under the bed to kill the monsters. Let him do this every night or whenever the monster problem pops up.
2006-08-07 20:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be consist. Begin with the same bedtime routine so he has an idea of what to expect. It gives him control. Get him settled into bed read a story then tell him its bed. You can stay in the room, but sit away from him. No eye contact and no talking to him. Every night move further away until you are no longer in the room. If he gets up, put him back into bed, and tell him it is bedtime. Follow above directions. it might take a couple nights, but it will work.
It would be ideal for dad to follow a similar bedtime routine.
2006-08-07 20:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there can be several factors--dad is harming the child---physical, verbal, psychologically and if so these Will cause the child to endure a very stressful situation which will lead to separation anxiety and can eventually cause adult separation anxiety. Not to cause you any further stress or anxiety but have your child checked. Also sit down and just talk with your child about what he saw or did at dad's house---apparently something is going on and now a days it is not easy to trust others---ex or ex' friends. Two of my students were mentally abused whenever the father would get stoned at their house---one was 17 years and she wanted to get married to escape the situation and take her younger sister---the older girl was terrified of the many "friends" the father brought to the house and get stoned with---she feared that her father would get so messed up and the friends would take advantage of them---it is possible. So ease the child and have him tell you want he is doing with dad and that there are no secrets between friends, monsters can represent trauma.
2006-08-07 21:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That could be a lot of things. The first thing that came to MY mind was some sort of abuse from your husband. I don't know what, but it COULD be a possibility. Interrogate your child more when he gets scared and ask him why he thinks there are monsters under his bed.
2006-08-07 20:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously something is scaring him at his Dad's house.
Talk with your ex and find out exactly what happens over there. See where he sleeps, is the room far away from everything else? Explain to your ex what happens upon returning home, and maybe figure out a way to not have him be so frightened.
2006-08-07 20:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could be wrong but i'm a girl that loves lifetime and if this one happens when your child come from his father then that could be a problem talk to the dad and see whats going on when your not around to mother your child
it could be sometime bad but then again he's a kid who's into t.v, books, and any other media that can have a kid cring to his parents
look just check it out
2006-08-07 21:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has separation anxieties. The monsters under his bed could be his excuse to stay close to you.
You know what they say, "Daddy's little girl, and Mommy's little boy".
2006-08-07 20:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Catz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell dad to stop telling the kid about monster. dads like to scare kids. lie to your kid: tell him that monsters attack because nobody is nice to them. so say "good night" and "good morning" to the "monsters" and do something nice for them. your kid will sleep in his own room soon.
2006-08-07 20:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by sugarcakecrust 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him monsters r not real. try laying next 2 him in his own bed.tell ur ex 2 stop scaring him. or buy ur son something new and tell him it fights away monsters
2006-08-07 20:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by singwthstars 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋