I have met a guy, and we have had computer sex more than once, and we are both good Christians too! We are "friends with benefits" and this week we are going to try out phone sex. I really like him, but I don't feel right doing this. It's total lust, and our horomones are just talking. We barely know each other, and I told my friend this, and she doesn't think it's right AT ALL! He loves it, and so do I, but him, my friend, and I only know about this, and everytime we see each other at church, it's hard not to think of what we always do over the computer. (at church, nobody knows that we even know each other!) What do I do?! I wanna do this with him, but it just doesn't feel right. Help!
2006-08-07 12:49:09 · 9 answers · asked by hello. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, take it slower, hang out, and foreplay, and everything else, and even tho you both are good christians your hormones are going to take over you because you had sex over the computer, just dont do anything that YOU are going to regret later, and if you both end up having sex... then you both can go confess to God, and you dont have to confess to anyone particular, you can do it in your home while you are alone so no one will have to know that you both had sex together, and you both can confess together if thats how you are going to feel more comfortable confessing to him...
2006-08-07 12:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that you can have a great relationship over the internet or the phone. Why don't you both just start talking to each other in person and forming a real face-to-face relationship. It is juvenile to start out a relationship with sex.
2006-08-07 20:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by guitargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like doing that stuff, then do it. its not against the law. you only feel wrong about it because everyone tells you that its wrong to feel that way. why is it wrong to be in tune with your sexuality? you have to face the facts at one point or another. you cant just ignore all the feelings you have until one day you decide to get married, then realize you have no idea what you're doing.
2006-08-07 19:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't feel right then it's probably not right. Just listen to your gut. Maybe just try being friends for awhile and see what happens. Take it slow.
2006-08-07 21:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like its not right then you need to talk to him about it and tell him that you feel its not right and that you don't want to do anymore ... just try and explain to him how you feel about the issue... and if he doesn't respect you for it then maybe you should talk to him at all anymore ... good luck
2006-08-07 19:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by proud army wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try this you will eventually move on to other types, and if ur a christian, i'd try to avoid it and tell him how you feel
2006-08-07 19:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Britt Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's when you have to stand strong and fight against the temptation. Pray to God about it. Ask Him to help you with this situation.
2006-08-07 19:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by shouldibe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't feel right, don't do it!
2006-08-07 19:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide and not your friend.
2006-08-07 19:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋