2006-08-07 12:44:58 · 19 answers · asked by sydney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
take time its a big shock to the system
2006-08-07 12:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time in between, unless the 2 kids are biological siblings, then you need to take them in at the same time. If you are adopting kids that are not related, you need time for yourself and the child to adjust to the new life together. If you take in 2 kids at the same time you may feel overwhelmed and you wont be able to spend enough quality time with each child. In addition you may end up adopting a child with a severe learning disability, emotional problems, or another type of disability (challenge). Therefore you may not want to adopt more kids later if you have to spend so much time and money on the 1st child you adopt and because any problem they may have is a serious challenge to live with/ deal with.
2006-08-07 19:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time. My friend's realized 5 years ago that they wouldn't be able to have children. They are in the process of adopting their third child (female chinese orphans if you're looking for something charitable as well). They are putting two years in between each child. Did you know that it is unsafe to have two children without less than a year or more than 5 years in between the births? It only makes sense to adopt in the same fashion, if children are experiencing things at the same pace they won't learn from one another, however if they learn at similar or distant paces they can share their knowledge and learn more from eachother.
2006-08-07 19:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by scoty_dosntno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the children are siblings you should adopt them together. If not, I think one at a time is best so that you can give each child time to get close to you. Plus kids are hard work.
2006-08-07 19:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the ages of the children. If they are both small I would say wait and allow yourself to adjust to the changes. If they are older it might be better to do it together and then you can all blend as a new family together and they will always have someone there that can relate to how they are feeling. No matter what though make sure you take time to bond with each child and establish a sense of family with them.
2006-08-07 19:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it was me doing it, I would try to get them both at the same time so that they would have some one to play with and wouldn't feel alone. They are going threw a great shock and their whole world is turned up side down for them as it is. So why not a have someone that is about their size or age to be with them. They would feel a lot more comfortable with a play mate.
2006-08-07 20:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted along w/ my biological brother to the same family, we had a wonderful experiance, granted there were hard times for my adoptive parents but all together it was a wonderful experiance, go w/ how you feel, no one else can tell you how you feel
2006-08-07 19:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by snowball24life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i would take a break in between so you can bond with the first adopted child before introducing it to his/her sibling
2006-08-07 20:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. You need to get to know the first child first as it needs to get to know you. Unless of course you are adopting siblings, then they could be there for each other.
2006-08-07 19:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you know you want to adopt two children, perhaps you could be a saint and adopt siblings who've lost their parents?
2006-08-07 19:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and I were both adopted. He is 5 years younger than me and it has worked out fine. I can hardly remember an instance where we even fought.
2006-08-07 19:49:23 · answer #11 · answered by brandon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋