My boyfriend is very clingy, and said that if I dumped him, he'd die (he said this to my friend), and then theres this other guy I'm TOTALLY in love with. Everytime I see him, my heart stops, my face flushes, my pulse RACES...and then my boyfriend is holding me back from him, and the guy I totally love is kinda hating me because I told him the terrible truth about something. What do I do? I've tried to talk to the guy I love (I'll call him Mr. T) to get him to forgive me, but he won't. Everyone says that a real relationship is one where the couple can fight, and me and my boyfriend (Mr. B) NEVER fight, and me and Mr. T do like, ALL THE TIME. Help me!!
2006-08-07 12:44:30 · 13 answers · asked by Khrys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Me and 'Mr. B' have been dating for 4 months, known each other since Christmas 2006, and 'Mr. T' and I have known each other for 7-8 years.
2006-08-07 12:55:02 · update #1
u should totally dump the boyfriend. i don't mean to break up with him all rude or anything, but the sooner the better or else he'll start thinking about ya'lls future together. about the other guy,...i'd say give him some time to cool down and then try to talk things out in person (that way he can't hang up on u) and just tell him how you feel. if it's meant to be it'll work out.
2006-08-07 12:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by docssweetie08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once had a very clingy bf who said the same thing ~ he still kinda says it now to this day and we broke up 1 1/2 years ago ~ anyways, you can't stay with someone because THEY want you to... you have to want it yourself. yes, there may be no fights, no drama, you could potentially live together forever in this dull existence ~ but if you're saying now that you don't fit, why make yourself try to? A real relationship is not defined by people fighting, but it is on the connection that two people have and it seems like Mr. B doesn't have the right connection with you. It also doesn't sound too much like Mr. T has that great of a connection, but hey, you never know ~ as someone said to me for my question, life is too short, and it is. Do what you need to do, no matter how hard it is, it's easier than the thoughts of "what if" running through your head all day long....
2006-08-07 12:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you need to end things with Mr.B before you do anything with Mr.T, cause that's not right. Mr.B will be hurt, yeah, but he'll move on, you shouldn't prolong it if you don't want to be with him, it will just get harder for you, he deserves your honesty, especially if you guys never fight at all. Make sure you tell him why you don't want to be with him so that he knows where you are coming from, and that way when he sees you with Mr.T, he wont be as upset, thinking about how fast you move on and that. All couples fight, and you are right, the ones that stay together are the ones that can work it out, but you aren't a couple yet. Honestly be with the one you want to be with...be honest to both of them, if you and Mr.T fight all the time, make sure there is good communication between the two of you, and you'll fly through all those fights you have
2006-08-07 12:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If your do not think you and your BF cannot get along, then you don;t have a relationship. leave.
2) Mr T. is not for you. If he cannot forgive you, then why plead for his love? Have some self respect and ignore this guy, no matter how he makes you feel, he is not worth it.
2006-08-07 12:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by blah_in_az 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, honey when he says "hes going to kill himself" dont believe it, my friend went threw this had 4 guys say they would die if she dumped them and they are all still alive. An if your not in love with him, and crushing on someone else, dump your boyfriend and explain to him that you have no feelings for him anymore, and then talk to the other guy, and let your bf know that you are going to talk to other guys.
2006-08-07 12:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow this is quite complicated...I know how hard it must be telling your boyfriend that u love someone else. however it is better than lyting to him and making him think u love him! the feeling of love should be mutual and obviously he is the only one who feels the love! I hope u figure things out! good luck! and I hope I helped..somewhat @ least
2006-08-07 12:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest! Don't be guilted into staying in a relationship.
2006-08-07 12:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well! you have to stop this game immediately for the sake of other two guys and for yourself.just decide whom you want and concentrate in him. its hard i know and you have to take this hard decision....otherwise you would spoil your life in deep depressions..... in the long run...
2006-08-07 12:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are one of those girls who likes drama
why do you want to fight to be in love?
2006-08-07 13:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love the other guy you will leave your boyfriend to be with him .. thats how you know you love him!!!
2006-08-07 12:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lady D. J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋