we having sex only on weekend and this is was our fouth time,and this time i'm gonna to have a dinner and watch the movie,and then tell him that i'm not about sex today.He spending around 2 hours to get here.I need an honest answer,please!!!
2006-08-07 12:24:55 · 37 answers · asked by V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the main reason he is willing to drive two hours to be with you is because he wants sex, then dump him asap. He's not worth the trouble. AND, then you might take a bit more pride in yourself than "renting" out your body to guys. It's called self-respect.
Chow!!
2006-08-07 12:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you open the can of worms it is difficult to close. He may take it as a form of rejection if you don't explain what is on your mind. He may already respect you anyway. It sounds like you have allowed him to "disrespect" you and now you want to see if he will respect you. This is confusing to guys. You should let him know that you want to be affectionate but not go all the way and that you are very interested in him but don't want to over complicate things too much. If I were a betting man, which I am, I would bet that you end up having sex with him anyway. Let me know if I was right by giving me Best Answer. LOL!!!
2006-08-07 12:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a friends with benefits relationship. They're fun, but they can be difficult to manage.
Anyway, let him know before hand that there will be no sex involved with this date. He may refuse, two hours is a far drive. But have him find out at the end of the date (he'll be trying the whole date that's my guess, since you've always did the sex thing) is pretty lame.
Honesty is a good thing.
2006-08-07 12:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with a date with out sex, but if the poor guy thinks that he is going to get some, and then you tell him later on after he drives for two hours that he is not getting it, then he has a right to get mad, if he thought that he was. You need to let him know before he leaves to come see you that there is to be no sex on this next date. If he is okay with that, and still comes then keep him, he will be a good man to have.
2006-08-07 12:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should have told him this in the first place so he knows where you stand on the issue.... maybe you should tell him before he makes the trip to come and see... let him know that your not only about sex.....and see where it goes from there and if he doesn't agree then move on and find somebody that will respect you on that..... GOOD LUCK
2006-08-07 12:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter how long it takes him to get there, never ever feel prssured to have sex, cause you need to have respect for yourself and he needs to have respect for you. No means No and if he can't see past that then he can drive 2 hours back with one of either 2 things, blue balls or sore balls from kicking the crap outta them.
2006-08-07 12:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by t_kleitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie no means no.. And it is always okay to say that you don't want to have sex, if and when you don't want to. Sex is an act of love, not something you do to pass the time. Or to be used as an act of trading favors.
2006-08-07 12:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by firecracker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he could probably get sex without driving for 2 hours, if that's all he's looking for. My guess is that he likes you enough that not getting laid just this once won't be a problem. Just make yourself clear.
2006-08-07 12:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Ranavain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the night out, I'm pretty sure that he will wanna have sex, since you have done this before...Just be honest and tell him before hand. That way he doesn't think that you are leading him on...
2006-08-07 12:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may feel like something is wrong. If there is a reason why you don't want to have sex, then explain it to him. If he's a decent guy, he will understand. Besides, he shouldn't be expecting sex unless he's paying for it.
2006-08-07 12:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋