we are having sex does he just want me for sex? He asked me to be his girlfriend I said yes but he's never around he lives down the street... I am so confused and I 've asked everyone and it's not clear enough for me...a week went by he didn't even call but he swears he likes me and I keep holding on cause he needs time. But I am getting unpatient.
2006-08-07 12:09:54 · 11 answers · asked by thought 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to say this hun, but he sounds like he is using you OR he is just too immature and unsure of himself to have a real relationship with you right now. You should probably move on for your own good. By doing this, you empower yourself, and who knows- the guy may even come around! (People always want what they can't have, and men are attracted to independent, confident women.) You can't force anyone to be with you when their heart just isn't in it, and from what you describe, it sounds like this guy is just not that into you. I know it is painful, but it will hurt even MORE if you stay in denial and drag this out. There are plenty of good guys out there, you just have to be open to them, and learn from your past mistakes. If it is meant to be, then this guy will come back to you and be pursuing YOU. Let go, and let God! (or fate, if you aren't religious.) Best of luck to you.
2006-08-07 12:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you both are young. Maybe you should talk with him
and ask what his idea of being a boyfriend is. He might thing that
being bf/gf means getting together twice a week, while you want to hear from him every day. Have a talk with him- tell him you need more. Maybe he'll just be glad to give it to you. You shouldn't
just drop him unless he is unwilling to compromise. He just may have had a different role-model.
If he's on the prowl.. then definitely dump him!
Good luck!
2006-08-07 19:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you holding on for? He doesnt call so hes not that into you. He is stringing you along because you are sitting there waiting by the phone. He knows when he calls and asks you to do something you will jump at the chance. You need to move on to someone who wants to be with you. Try not having sex so quickly.
2006-08-07 19:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner week women get wise, the sooner the domination of A*S*S*H*O*L*E men will be over. YES he just wants you for sex. If you were a member of the intelligent part of the human race, you would have realized this and found someone who would cherish you. I looked for 8 years for a good looking intelligent woman to date, and I could find NONE in the USA. They all wanted the guy who abused them, or just wanted casual sex from them,,,, meanwhile, I met and married a woman from Costa Rica who had had enough of men using and abusing her. We are very happy, and you all lost,,,, SUFFER your decision or decide to do something about it.
2006-08-07 19:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is more time with yourself. Look at yourself. Your are worthy of a guy who will give you the moon in the sky if that's what your heart desires. Look at yourself in the mirror. Who do you see? A live person with all your strengths and passions. Give yourself a chance to know more about yourself. What do you like to do. What do you like to eat. Where do you like to go? Take time for yourself. Don't waste time with people who are self absorbed and only think about their own pleasures. Think about yourself and spend time loving yourself. Give yourself some ME Time. And pretty soon you will realize that you deserve someone as Beautiful, Strong And Wise as YOU!
2006-08-07 19:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone or live with settling for less while he still is trying to experience the world.
2006-08-07 19:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by snowflake9540 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find someone else that has more attention to give you. If you don't act like you are interested, he will notice and maybe appreciate you more.
2006-08-07 19:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you are not involved in any aspect of his life but his penis...you are not his girlfriend.
He is using you for sex.
2006-08-07 19:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this modern life and sex syndrome.
2006-08-07 19:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go girl. it's obvious he is there/if at all for one thing. save your time and emotions.
2006-08-07 19:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by ari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋