ive had an ex before who never laid a finger or even called me a B*tch ever, the guy im with now, he's different. i know he's a good person, but when he gets mad he cant control his words and sometimes his body. lets say a cheated on him (for example) not on purpose but because i'm confused and mixed up for feelings for another guy, is this an excuse for him to hit me, because i hurt his feelings? did i deserve a beating from him, because of my actions? or is a man really not supposed to hit a girl under (regardless) of any circumstances?? what should he have done, instead of hit me? why do men hit, talk hurtfully to their wives, or girlfriend? please provide me w information, all the men and women out there! thank you!
2006-08-07 11:51:34 · 20 answers · asked by crysthy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well 1) you are a sl ut probably (cheater)
2) "great" guys dont hit girl, not even if they cheat on him
you + him = whitetrash couple
congrats!!!
2006-08-07 11:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by afsaenz9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't EVER allow someone to put their hands on you. I suggest you tell someone about this, a teacher, principle, family member, anyone. Things could get worse, do it for your own good and safety. 2. If he honestly loves you, he wouldn't be treating you like this, he wouldn't be hitting you. If he loved you, he would treat you like a queen, and do everything just to make you happy, etc. He's a player, and this is all just a game to him, something to amuse him. 3. He's getting with other girls and making you look like a fool. He has you cleaning and cooking for him when he treats you like complete sh*t. Why would you waste for time on someone who supposedly loves you yet is with other girls? 4. He's should be supporting you in the things that make you happy, your dreams. Not telling you that you can't be in dance, when he knows how much you like it. I know it'll be hard to get out of this relationship because you love him but you could do so much better. You're in an unhealthy and dangerous relationship. You're better off without him
2016-03-27 02:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you know the answer to your own question which is that it is never acceptable under any circumstances for someone to be verbally or physically abusive t oanother person. If you did cheat on him and made a mistake, he has the choice to forgive you and stay or to not get past it and walk away. He does not have the choice to beat up on you. You need to leave now as it will only get worse the longer you are together and he will NEVER let you forget it.
2006-08-07 12:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Analeigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, obviously you think this is wrong or you would not have posted this question. They do it because they have a problem. He might care for you, but he does not know how to show it any other way. He possibly has some anger deep inside that he continues to take out on you, because you are close to him. If you truly want to be with him I suggest you talk about getting him some help, or therapy. You and his family, or your family, whoever is closest to him should form an intervention. Give him an alternative...either you get help, or I will leave you. Because, you do not derserve to get treated like that, expecially if you love him, and care for him. If he is willing to change then give him a chance, because even if you leave him, he will find someone else and possibly treat her worst. If you continue to stay with him, and allowing him to treat you like this, he could possible end up killing you or someone else. I know you think he would never do that, but people do a lot of things when they are angry, without meaning to. If you need to find somewhere near you that can help, use the yahoo search engine. Ok...your not just doing it for yourself, your doing this for him too, because you care about him and you do not want to loose him to jail...or worst.
2006-08-07 12:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man has a right to hit on a woman.You need to get out of this relationship fast.I was in a very abusive relationship and when i wised up i got out of it.You can never do anything to justify a man hitting you.Real men do not beat on women.He should have left you,or went some where until he could calm down and talk to you.You can never be safe in a relationship that you are being abused in,get out of it before it is to late.
2006-08-07 12:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok miss, r u retarded? Freakn leave him. No guy should hit a female regardless of how 'good' of a person he is. U shouldnt have 2 put up wit that an ur retarded if u still want 2 b wit him if that has been going on 4 quite awhile. But if u refuse 2 listen 2 me an all the other people who feel u should leave him, thanx 4 the 2 points...BOO-YA!!!
2006-08-07 12:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by bL@cK lUsTeR sOlD!Er 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to wake up and grow up. Your allowing someone to assault you. Do good people physically and mentally abuse people. No.
Your too immature to be in a relationship. Your making him out to be a monster; which he is; but you have an issue to; your a cheater.
Just date people casually. You did the wrong thing for sure by cheating (I'm sure the guy you cheated with tied you down, roped you and forced himself on you; take responsibility for being a cheater; it's your fault) but you didn't deserve to be assaulted and be victimized by him for it.
Dump this guy like a hot potato and just go out and have fun. You dont' have the maturity to be in an intense relationship yet and need to get away from this dangerous guy. Don't even be friends with him. Tell it like it is instead of telling it like it might be. Good luck!
2006-08-07 12:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he's not that great if he is verbally or physically abusive he has issues and doesn't need to take it out on you or anyone sweety. don't put up with it because this will become a habit that you will put up with after a while and think its ok when its not. you should abuse anyone at anytime its show a great weakness on there part by doing this and no respect for the person they do it to. he has anger problems he needs sorted and until then you should really leave him to it. more on relationships and other issues in this article that might help you more
2006-08-07 11:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not a good person. Of course what you did was sinfully bad also. No man or woman has a right to put there hands on you. Get away from him and stay that way. You should not be in a relationship, when you don't know who you want to be with. He needs some anger management.
2006-08-07 12:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get some anger management and you need to leave before you get hurt. No man should ever raise a fist to a woman. There is no excuse for violence.
You cheated and he should have left you. Next time get yourself under control. There is no such thing as cheating by accident.
2006-08-07 12:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not ok to be in a relationship where u feel sad, depressed, lonely, neglected, or hurt. any of those things are a bad sign. sure maybe he is a great guy. but if he cannot control himself, he has a major problem that has to be worked out BEFORE he even gets in a relationship w/ ANYONE. if u disrespect him, he should communicate and try to work it out with u. if u continue to disrespect u, he should leave you. nowhere is it ever right to hit or abuse someone... fighting and speaking harshly is hard to control, yes sometimes verbally u try to hurt someone.. but never is it ok to physically or verbally abuse to control someone or take ur anger out on them. do u want kids w/ a guy like that?? i don't think so. try to get him help. if he doesn't want to, get out of it.
2006-08-07 12:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋