Why do people cheat in relationships even though they don't expect or want to?

Answer 1

TEMPTATION

But usually the temptation only wins out when there is something wrong in the relationship in the first place. It may not be something that you even realize is wrong. And temptation usually only wins out when someone is weak. You know it is wrong, in your mind you don't want to do it, put temptation wins out anyway.
If you and your relationship are strong then it can be over come, you just have to make a conscience choice not to give in to the temptation. Concentrate on your relationship instead and find ways to make your relationship stronger. Find new ways to spice up your own relationship..........You will be glad you did.

And then there are those who believe that the grass is always greener on the other side so they give into temptation to find out. And usually they find out ( alittle to late) that it isn't. That the grass on the other side usually turns out to be manure.

Answer 2

That is a BS question. people cheat because they CHOOSE to. They choose not to tell their partner what they need from them, and when their needs don't get met, they look for it elsewhere. This is a passive aggressive way to get back at their partner for not fulfilling their needs. If they have no conscience, they will rationalize it to themselves (to make it "right" in their minds) by blaming their partner for their dissatisfaction.
If people are unhappy, too afraid to say so, and have no conscience, they are easily swayed.
People cheat because they want to "try something else on" before ending their committed relationship because they either can't take being alone, or are too cowardly to confront the issue. With men mostly, when they feel inadequate with their wives, it gives them a feeling of power to have something on the side. it reaffirms their prowress, their manliness.
Cheaters lack integrity, and have problems with true intimacy (trusting someone enough to be vulnerable and revealing their secret fears, doubts, and desires). If they had any, they would turn to their chosen partner to resolve the issue, not turn away from them.
Cheaters usually repeat their behavior, unless they acknowledge the real reasons why they cheat, and what it does to themselves and the people they have betrayed.
Cheating indicates low self-esteem, and cheaters end up feeling ashamed of themselves. Cheaters don't feel like the can ask for what they need, so they just go out and take it, regardless of who gets hurt.
Does this give you some insight?

Answer 3

This is my theory: When people are together often they form a bond. They begin to have feelings for someone that they would never intend to act on. The feelings grow stronger and eventually they can no longer resist the temptation. Especially if one person is coming on strong. Kind of like the man who cheats with his secretary or sister-in-law.

Answer 4

I don't believe that someone is going to cheat if they "don't want to" be real. There are a lot of reasons that a person would "cheat". But,,,,,, If you had a open, honest marriage you wouldn't have to worry about it. A lot of people don't want to be with just one or two people their whole life. Have fun and loosen up.

Answer 5

I dont cheat any more, even though I have been offered plenty of grade A booty. In fact women have called me gay and got real mad at me because I turned them down.

I had enough extra sex, I can just bang the hell out of the one I got.

Besides with HIV going around its just not worth the risk.

Answer 6

People cheat because they are unhappy in their relationship for whatever reason, and aren't mature or responsible enough to resolve the problem (either through talking to their partner, or ending things).

Answer 7

its all about temptation and the more you resist the more you realize how much you love your partner. If you do cheat, there is no reason and excuse why. Then you obviously dont love tham as much as you think, and you truly dont respect them enough to break up with them before you go and do something like that.

Answer 8

because the men or women that the person is cheating with is ruthless careless heartless and frankly a cocksuckin ***** ***** who doesnt deserve life itself

sorry but thats to anwser. no human on earth has 100% self control and when they meet those people this kind of thing happens

Answer 9

Well being that I have done it, I can honestly tell you I don't know. I don't think anyone does. I can say I think it's that something is wrong with the relationship so you turn to others to fullfill what is missing or messed up.

Answer 10

cause they feel like missing something in their relationship,i mean there has to be something wrong . for exemple if one doesnt feel like getting the affection and love he/she used to get, one would cheat