His wife gave up custody to his mother, and his mom shuffled out the time to him, which was once a week, for two hours. He questioned this, and the mom stopped bringing his daughter, all together. In the meantime he cried on her birthday, because the mom refused to let him see her. His mother then, filed for custody. Now him, and his father is on good terms, and he found out that his father had his daughter on her birthday, and now his father shuffles out time for him to spend with his own daughter. Although, his father says that he don't want to be in the middle of the court battle between him, and his mother. I say that the father should let him spend a couple of hours with her, alone. I also say that the dad, has indeed, made himself apart of the court battle, and he should ball out his dad. It is like, they wont let him be apart of her life! I am angry at the fact that there are many men, who don't want to be apart of their children's life, and here it is, a father can't.
2006-08-07 11:43:42 · 16 answers · asked by aadams45669 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok, it is the grandmother, and her boyfriend, and the grandfather, and his girlfriend. I mean, the girl needs her father, and these couples, are trying to rekindle a family, while my boyfriend is trying to know his daughter.
2006-08-07 12:30:46 · update #1
I am the girlfriend, seeing this child shuffled, back, and forth, and seeing that she needs to know that her dad wants to be with her, and he don't have the bank account, that his mom, or dad has, to hire an attorney.
2006-08-07 12:35:02 · update #2
wow.
2006-08-07 11:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tim D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that he has done something that would make people believe that he is not the best thing for the children to be around... even if it is dating someone before he is divorced! This may not be something you want to hear, but young kids in the middle of a divorce is a very dangerous situation for them to be in. There are many adverse affects that this could have on the kids when they are growing up. I see this type of thing every day in my own household. You may think that they are too young to comprehend some of the things that go on in an adult world, but they do know that people are coming in and out of their lives, which can really scare a little kid!!! The best thing that you - or the father can do - is carry on your relationship outside of her view. She is young, and she needs to know that her world is a safe place for her, even if that means that you cool down for a while with your boyfriend. If they are not even divorced yet, she sees that her mother is gone. This presents her with a lot of anxiety, whether you see it or not! Do what is best for her, and don't try to make her get used to you until she is ready. All of the young people who are answering this question... be careful! What you see as okay in a child's life can be extremely damaging to them in the long run!!! The grandparents may already know this, and he may not. What is good for him may be something like getting back into a relationship with a good, attractive woman. On the other hand, what she might need is for her life not to change as rapidly as it has been... she knows her mom and dad are no longer together, but she may not be able to verbalize it. BE CAREFUL -- FOR THE LITTLE GIRL'S SAKE!!!
2006-08-07 11:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by monarchfly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were married then how did the wife give up custody to the grandparents without his consent anyway? I think your bf needs to find this out. His parents are wrong for keeping him from his child UNLESS he in some way abused the child and then they have every right to protect her. If he is on good terms with his dad and getting to see the child then I wouldn't say anything to endanger that as if he makes the father mad then again he looses access to his child. Document everything so that when you go into court he can prove he has been trying to maintain contact with the child and please tell me he is paying support. A good attorney can work wonders and he needs to file his own petition for sole custody.
2006-08-07 11:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a much better idea to follow your gut and get a divorce from your wife. What is the point of letting yourself stay in an unhappy marraige where you two don't get along? it would make sense not only for the two of you, but for your daughter too. She would not have to see you fight all the time and see that you're both unhappy. It would make your daughter happy to see that her parents are happy, even if they are not together. I myself wish my parents would divorce because I can see that they are no longer happy together, I'm in my 20's but I still have to live with this. From someone who's in your daughters position, it is truly the right thing to do. It may seem difficult, but in the long run you will end up a happier, more fulfilled man. You know there is better out there for you and you can find someone that makes you a better person and who is a better influence on you and your daughter too. So go for it, you have nothing to lose and so much to gain. your wife can live stubbornly if she wants, but that does not mean that you have to live that way along with her. She can find a selfish and bitter person to grow old and unhappy with but you deserve so much better. Good luck! I am glad I got to read your story and give you my input
2016-03-27 02:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should get himself a good Family Lawyers. He needs to Petition for Dissolution of marriage, and have a Petition for temporary relief for temporary custody of his child or children. The grand parents have no rights to custody. Your boyfriend is the biological father and has many rights as the custodial parent.
Have him seek out child support too. Wage with holding from the spouses employer as well as IRS and State tax refunded to him if the spouse doesn't pay the support on time or gets delinquent!
Crying about what is going on is not working or helping any1.
Get ready for the battle of WILLS....It's going to be who can better serve the needs of these children and who can show stability in supporting these children too.
A decree will establish visitation, child support, and many other things that your Boyfriend is entitled too...Seek out that Lawyer today and quit procrastinating the inevitable!
2006-08-07 12:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he truly is a good Dad, then he needs to get a lawyer and DO IT NOW!! Don't let the courts think that he was not being responsible. It sounds like he has some deep family issues if his own parents are not supporting him (and that hurts like hell too). Try to be reassuring to him and push push push him to get an attorney...he will regret it forever if he misses his window of opportnity. Especially since the Mom ditched off. Good luck!
2006-08-07 11:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of crying about this he needs to be in court. It doesn't matter who wants or doesn't want to be in a court battle. There is a little girl who needs her father at stake here. Sounds like a lot of selfish people to me. Tell your b/f to go to court. Speaking to the people in the family isn't doing any good, get to court. That's the only way.
2006-08-15 09:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should NOT be with a man that is still married. I dont care if he is "seperated". It is still not equal to a divorce which is what he needs. Dont date a man that is already taken, legally!
If he wants the child then you need to tell him he should never have given her to his mom. Next he NEEDS to / HAS TO go to court and file for full custody. He should not let his mom take his kid away, that is just crazy!
2006-08-07 13:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about get a loan to pay to go to court. i think he should apply for full custody because these other guys obviously don't know what to do with her. if money's an issue there's always child maintence benefits. (i think... that's what we get in the UK)
2006-08-15 10:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to go to court to get custody of the daughter. if he doesnt want to do that, why is he crying. his family shouldnt have the dtr at all. doesnt sound to me like he really wants to be a part of her life, just makes it look like he does
2006-08-14 08:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go in to court.and file papers for custody.and allowing both sets of grand parents,week end visits.he has not given up parental rights.and she gave up custody,,you can get a court appointed attorney.................just don't stop fighting..
2006-08-14 02:38:56 · answer #11 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋