Daycare molestation?

Question

Hi,everyone I am a concerned parent wondering about a daycare my child attends.My daughter is 2 years old have been touching and feeling on anyone.I'm wondering where did she get this from.So, I went to the daycare and seen a little boy touching on another girl the same way my daughter was touching me. I saw two boys touching each other..I dont know what to do. What actions should I take? She started this fondling when I enrolled her in this daycare.

Answer 1

you need to look into it..dont start assuming the worst just go ask questions..did you do research on the daycare before you enrolled her?....my kids have all gone to day care and nothing of that sort ever happened....maybe its not even the teachers at the school it maybe be kids who are getting molested at home and bringing that into the daycare not know what they are doing....you can also go to the police and see if any reports have been field under that day care...i hope things get better man dont think the worst before you get all the facts...and please don't just pull her out if you dont like whats being done as far as her and other kids touching them self...look into it cause if something is happening and you take her out before finding out your just leaving it there for another kid to go through...take action for all the he kids not just yours

Answer 2

This action could have came from one child in the daycare who is either seeing too much at home, or is in fact being touched like this from someone and is repeating the behavior at the daycare. I wouldn't assume this is "daycare molestation" when you are talking about kids touching like this. Are all these kids in the same age group as your daughter. Because children naturally become curious of body parts and in their innocent minds, see nothing wrong with this. But now, there comes a time to define the touching as excessive. You need to talk to the director of the daycare and try to pin point the cause of this behavior. Is it natural child curiosity? Is there this one child who started the touching, and if so that issue needs to be addressed. Get more facts before crying molestation, that is a very damaging word, plus i don't think it possible for 2 year olds to be capable of molesting other 2 year olds.

Answer 3

Definitely don't let her go back. I've quit my job to stay home with my children because of a similar situation. My daughter was being sexually molested by another boy at her daycare. He was able to get her pants off and perform several acts on her. He was only two years older than her and had to have learned it from somewhere also. I spoke with the daycare teachers and staff and after denying it they called me later that afternoon and admitted that they boy said he did it and an employee said they caught him doing it once. There argument to me for keeping him was that he comes from a "good family" and he's been with them since he was just weeks old. I was very upset that they hadn't watched my children properly and that no one seemed concerned about where the boy learned it. Something was definitely going on in that daycare! I called the local police and DCFS became involved. Although in the DCFS report stated that it happened and everyone admitted to it they finished the report by saying it was unfounded. Don't you love our system?! No one will love and/or take care of our children the way we do. The daycare I had my children in was a very popular and upstanding institution. You never know where the abusers will be. I wish you success in your endevour to seek the truth. Always believe your child! They are more honest than any adult and know more than most give them credit. Good luck and God bless you and your little one.

One more thing... The director of the daycare tried convincing me that it was normal behavior for little boys to pull down little girls pants and lick them. She said, "They usually forget about it." It wasn't comforting. Go with your gut! Your daughter is counting on you to take care of her.

Answer 4

I would first ask a local law enforcement officer. Call your sheriff or police station. Tell them what you saw and ask how to proceed. You could also call your local social services office and ask for advice. If abuse is occuring at the daycare, they may not want you to confront them directly and tip them off. If a child is experiencing this at home, then they can help the daycare identify who. I would not have much faith in a daycare that did not pick up on this.

Answer 5

You need to bring it up to the caretakers asap and discuss why you are not notified of children being unsupervised to the point they are able to touch upon one a another like this. If you are able to walk in and see it in view site and nothing being done about it, I think it is a form of neglect.

Also, this little boy could be a victim of home molestation and acting it out on other children. That needs to be brought up on concern.

I wouldn't take my child their no more. I wouldn't trust it if my daughter was being fondled on and them not taken care of it. I imagine it has been going on for some time more than just one time.

I work at pre school/day care and just got another job working at other location site. We stop that asap. We teach respect of other bodies. It is ok to feel and learn about our bodies. but we encourage them to do it in private and to themselves.

We also encourage the children that if they are being touched inappropriately on their private locations (we decided to use private as talking as a whole class as the word since some parents don't want penis and vagina and we do point to the locations though) to go tell an adult. We encourage vocal of "I don't like to be touched there". It is normal to be curious. It is another for it to be consistent.

Answer 6

I would say that she is just curious from being enrolled and around all different kinds of kids...but if there were other children doing the same thing, it makes you wonder...could it be ONE child teaching others? Or could it be a teacher trying to educate, but not instructing properly? You should talk to her teacher, and if you do not receive adequate answers then go to the owner.

Answer 7

This might be stemming from some kid acting out molestation that happened in his home life but I would take her out of this day care just to be safe and contact CPS. Some sexual exploration among children is normal but this seems really young for a child to do this out of her own curiosity.

Answer 8

Speak to the carers. There is a serious issue here. The child who started this may have been experiencing innappropriate behaviour at home and may be copying it. Let your child know this is unacceptable without being cross with her and tell her she must tell an adult if this happens to her again.

Answer 9

This is a no brainer "Take your child out of that day care now