the girl i cheated with i like a lot but im not going to see her ever, and i feel terrible that my girlfriend doesnt know but if i tell her i know she'll feel terrible and we'll break up. i dont know what to do, this feeling is killing me
2006-08-07 11:11:21 · 12 answers · asked by jdoggs1128 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the girl i cheated with i like a lot but im not going to see her ever, and i feel terrible that my girlfriend doesnt know but if i tell her i know she'll feel terrible and we'll break up. i dont know what to do, this feeling is killing me, when i say cheated, i kissed this girl twice, for a maximum of 15 seconds each, if that changes anything
2006-08-07 12:02:17 · update #1
talk to ur mom bro...they know all
2006-08-07 11:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Keyon F 2 · 11⤊ 4⤋
Guess what buddy, while I empathize with your situation, you have made the choice to completely throw the relationship into the toilet. That was your decision, not hers, and the only person who has a hope in hell of redeeming the relationships is her, but only if you're honest with her and she's somehow able to forgive you. You have to find a way to tell her, you have to promise never to do it again (and you have to keep that promise) and you have to throw yourself at her mercy and hope to god she forgives you.
Here's a tip for the future. Think in advance. Was this girl that you liked sooo much but will never see you again worth it? I doubt it.
Again, I do empathize with you, you sounds like you want to tell her, and if you do, you're doing the right thing. It takes strength to be man enough to admit something, even if you know it will probably ruin the relationship. We all make mistakes, but only by the price we have to pay do we learn. If you don't tell her, the relationship is doomed to fail. If you do tell her, at least you have a small chance of redemption, the choice is yours.
2006-08-07 11:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest so she can make an informed decision about your relationship. If you don't come clean the lie will haunt you. One lie always has a way of turning into several small lies before you know it. I'm not sure how old you are and how far the cheating went, but if sex was involved she has a MAJOR right to know.
2006-08-07 11:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by lnfinitelylnteresting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "You have no other choice. Sorry. Waiting to tell her will make things even worse, because you're hiding something from her, for a period of time. Your conscience will get to you one day, and you will tell her. Better to get it done now, than later. You'll have a second chance with someone else. From that point, be honest with the next girl, and treat her like royalty."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-07 11:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude just chill out the feeling will go away.Its not the end of the world and if you do tell your girl then you got that fight on your hands and the other chic you say you will not see again so just let it go and keep your damn mouth shut trust me I have made this mistake more then one time
2006-08-07 11:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by dj19991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, she does...while you're so traumatic which you will desire to positioned up here you're a primary candidate for her to cheat. females scent weak spot and you come throughout as vulnerable. Plus you do not spell alright the two.
2016-11-04 02:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never ever cheat on someone u love....it's wrong and hurtful to the other person.....but you have to tell her.....if not she'll be ten times more furious when she finds out that u hid it from her.....plus....if u like this other girl more, u shouldn't be with ur gf....that's not fair either.....but if u ask me she should dump u....my guy cheated on me once(actually that's ex-guy and it's b/c he cheated on me) and I felt so horrible.....I just kept wondering why I wasn't good enough for him.....and now u did that to ur girl.....smooth move.
2006-08-07 11:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by badhair92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you have to tell her! Hopefully you have learned your lesson in that cheating only hurts you, yah it may feel good at the moment, but afterwards you always feel like crap. I "cheated" once and never have since that time. I still feel guilty for it.
2006-08-07 11:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest.... and why are you regretting it know!!! I seems you didn't have any problems cheating on her. And if you don't love her leave her.... she does not deserve this.
Why are men such PIGSSSS
I hope you tell her... and I hope she is intelligent and...... well you know!!!!
2006-08-07 11:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell her, but if you don't just start acting like a man, and do what you have to do.
2006-08-07 11:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth and if she loves you a lot then she will forgive you!
2006-08-07 11:36:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋