Are there any good men left out there?

Question

Hello,

I've still to find a serious partner as I've been busy with my studies I just want to know if there are men out there that still in this day and age know how to treat a woman?

As I've seen so many girls being ill-treated by horrible guys, what do you all think is it possible to find a good man or are they gone into the past?

Thanks,
Jessica

Answer 1

Nope. We are still here.

What drives the best men is the need to be known: to be understood. Also, a gentle touch in conversation, a smile, a non-judgmental attitude from the woman, does wonders for the man's self esteem.

Some of us men are well meaning, just as lonely as you and other women, but can't face rejection. Deep down, rejection wears away at our self esteem, makes us feel that maybe we are monsters, and we've no right to seek love, sexual expression or even just tenderness. I know that there are a huge number of women who feel /exactly/ the same.

I can't give you any magic formula to find your partner - I can't even find my own - but all I can say is that you should look for those men who, while not exactly in the Brad Pitt league, might still have an awful lot to offer you, if you only go up to them and talk to them.

Answer 2

The thing with finding good men is that their a rarity. Most men just want to get into your pants. These days a "nice" guy simply barely exists...maybe we are going into the past.

You really have to look for them, I mean don't go to a club and look for prince charming there. He's not going to be there holding up a sign directing you to him. Look at what you have right now. Maybe you should give one of your close guy friends a chance or something. I know people that have the best relationships that were started by friendships. Trust me, the nicest guy might be right under your nose.

Answer 3

Yes of course there is one or two good men out there!
I regard myself has one of them.I am not just saying this,I know how to treat a lady right.
Its a lost art though.A good man hard to find.A good women hard to find also.
I believe in romance.There is not many men skilled in the art of treating a lady right but some men still believe in such things.
Hope you find someone who you deserve.And hope I find someone that I deserve!

Answer 4

Yes - I used to have a thing for the bad boy type (alcoholics, drug addicts, mental health issues, violent or disturbed or any combination of the above) and wondered why all men were monsters, before realising that it was me that was seeking them out, looking for excitement and rebellion. After sorting my head out I am now seeing a very nice man who is wonderfully and absolutely unique and exciting without being crazy or dangerous. I think you just have to kiss a lot of frogs before you recognise a prince, let alone find one... Good luck, be sure what you're looking for and stay safe out there..

Answer 5

Jessica,
The older you get, the fewer nice guys you will find. That's because we get spoken for. But since I'm an older fella n yer a doc, that's a really good match fer me. We old gents need a woman who will care for us when we are ill, that knows what she's doin. If ya own a bass boat yer da perfect match.

Answer 6

No, there are plenty of good men. You call them geeks and won't date them. :) If you change your perspective and begin to approach some of these nice guys, you will have plenty of good men to choose from. Quit looking at ONLY the following characteristics:
Tall
Funny
High Income
Perfect family

When you get over the above fixations, you can finally see that there are a lot of good men out there with good hearts that you have been ignoring this whole time.

Answer 7

Yes you can still find one, but good is a very wide term. Still you'll have to make some compromises as there is not such a good man in all life aspects. He can be good in things and less good in others and even very bad in others. By the way, finding a "good" man is as hard as finding a "good" girl.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

There are plenty of good men. The question why haven't you met any? Easy because now you are actively looking for them and we become elusive when hunted. The best way to find the right person is not to look. just continue with your current life style one will come along that fits. Good Luck. reaper out.........

Answer 9

There are some good guys left Jessica and chivalry isn't completely dead. I wonder sometimes if there are any good women too. I believe your partner should also be your soul mate, I wish you all the luck and perhaps we'll find them soon.

Answer 10

There are still plenty of us around but we're hard to spot. Most women tend to hunt out and find the rebel type figure. you know seems a good laugh etc, a bit of a bad boy but these are not the right one!!!!!