The wedding will be adults-only, and some guests will need to fly in from other states to attend.
2006-08-07 10:58:46 · 24 answers · asked by Annika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sunday on Mother's day maybe you could have a little get together will all the mothers that are in town for your wedding to celebrate it! Saturday is the wedding so I dont see a problem with it at all. It is YOUR day after all. :) If they come great if not, still get married with or without them! Not bad etiquette. Have perhaps too a little small gift for the moms on Sunday with a luncheon. Try talking to a few moms you know that will be attending and from out of state and see what they feel before setting the date. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 11:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by yeppers 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is inconsiderate to have an adults-only wedding on Mother's Day weekend. Normally, adults-only is totally acceptable, but you will definitely get a low attendance if this is the position you are taking.
There are ways around the problem:
Arrange for a babysitter in a suite so the Mothers that have to travel can have their kids in town with them, and know that they are taken care of.
Have a special gift for the Mothers acknowledging that you are stepping on their weekend. Like a basket, or spa treatment, or something else pampering that you can afford. Maybe even a special dance for all the Mothers.
Or: just be OK with knowing that a few people will be offended and most will let you know by declining your invitation to your special day.
2006-08-07 11:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to disrespect every mother that is attending. However, if it's already planned, make it a point to announce or acknowledge all the mothers in attendance at the reception and thank them in a special way, along with an apology for the ones that are flying in and missing their own special day. Mother's day only comes once a year! Moms work hard all year long just to get burnt toast, runny eggs and something that looks like bacon for breakfast, and open home made presents that we need help figuring out exactly what they are. When you are a mom, you'll understand how important that one day is for you, and you'll realize that having your anniversary the day before wasn't the brightest of plans.
2006-08-07 11:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette is not the issue here.
If you are unable to choose another date just invite those who you know who have no problem with it.
Sunday is Mother's Day not Saturday. Best thing to do is send announcements to everyone. You are likely to get feedback.
Later send invitaions to those you know don't have a problem with it.
If you don't like this idea go to Las Vegas, and get married on the money you will be saving on the reception, due to no shows.
People don't think that far in advance. Even if they said they will come, about a week before the wedding they will realize it's a conflict, and just not show up.
2006-08-07 11:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married the saturday before mothers day at our mothers request they said that was the best gift we could give them. As far as guest from out of town that have children arrange with a friends child or some one else to provide childcare for them that way they get to go to the wedding and still have their kids with them.
2006-08-07 15:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother of the bride and the mother of the groom might like that idea. Seeing their children marry on such a holiday could be viewed as a gift. Plus, you're not actually having it on Mother's Day, so I say go for it. The people that might not show because of it being on that weekend would be people you're not that close to anyway. Anyone that is a relative and is close to you guys would make it no matter what. Good luck and remember to have fun!!
2006-08-08 03:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necesarrily bad ettiquette, When I worked at a bridal shop for 7 years we always had weddings on that weekend, the only thing I will say is about the flowers are going to be really hard to get you have to take in account all the proms going on and mothers day both!!
2006-08-07 11:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem a bit inconsiderate of your guests, and etiquette should be all about consideration, but that is just my personal opinion.
Also, your wedding anniversary may often fall on Mother's Day weekend in future years. Speaking as a mother and a wife, I prefer to have them separate! No, not for maximum gifts, for maximum sexy feeling of the anniversary.
2006-08-07 11:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by mellexical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if some guests are having to fly in, then you might want to reconsider the date that you set. they're going to want to be home with their moms or families for mothers day and might not want to go to the wedding if they already made plans for sunday.
hope everything works out!
2006-08-07 11:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pick mothers day weekend to have a wedding. Because for the simple fact that most people wont be able to be there because they will spend it with there mother. good luck
2006-08-07 11:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋