Today was her first day of kindergarten (my eldest baby) and I'm picking her up from school. She had a VERY rough morning (she has separation anxiety--we heard her crying from the parking lot). She and I have about an hour before the family gets home...
2006-08-07 10:50:19 · 22 answers · asked by Jen-Jen 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
you have her home by the time I'm writing this. I hope she was one of the many kids who stop crying within 5 minutes. I was very lucky when my twins started school (last year) they were fine and when i asked if I could go they looked at me with a surprised look that I was still even there. (In Australia we go in with the kids and can stay for a little while, after 2 minutes i left as they were so settled, the advantage of twins....someone to sit with the first day) Then there was me when I first started school. I made life hell for my mum. I cried every day of kinder and 6 months of Prep(thats our first year at school)as I had never been left before. The teacher gave me a new student to take care of and after that i never cried again. So if she continues to cry ask the teacher which child would be a good friend for her and encourage that friendship as much as you can both in and out of school. Good luck, i hope tomorrow goes better
2006-08-07 16:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is having trouble adjusting a good thing to do today would be to just have fun and talk about how proud you are of her. Tomorrow go into school early with her and talk to her teacher and have your daughter show you her spot and talk to her about her class room etc. Then when she comes home get REALY excited about her day and about all the stuff she showed you ask about her day and what she did and the kids she met and tell her how proud you are and how big she is...try coming up with some responsibility or initiation like a right-of-passage for her becoming a big girl. Pretty soon she'll see how excited you get and she'll relax a bit because she knows she will have something good to share with you.
2006-08-07 23:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Babydoll_Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must have been heartbreaking. But, as a teacher I can assure you that the crying did stop and that there were probably some fun things that she was able to do. Take her out and celebrate her braveness with ice cream! Tell her how proud you are of her. Let her bring a picture of you to school and ask the teacher if she may call you on break times if the sorrow is too bad. However, she may only tell you good things that are happening. She can't cry to you or belly ache.
2006-08-10 02:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww....i'd say just spend time with her...go to the park, watch a movie, do your nails, get some ice cream or a snack, bake cookies, and talk to her about school.....she's lucky that you really care....i cried during my first day of school and i told my parents I didn't want to go back and I wanted to stay home, so my dad yelled and scolded me.....i was so scared....i cried the next day at school, and the teacher had no compassion at all...she just told me to cry all I want....i didn't like her for the rest of the year.....but I did get to like school after I made friends and everything.....do something fun with your daughter that also gives you an opportunity to talk about school.....ask if it was fun, and tell her why she has to go to school....but make sure you show her that you understand and care for her....be gentle with her.....within a couple days/weeks, i'm sure your daughter will be okay....and I hope you guys get to continue this 1 hour before the family gets home so she'll have separate time with you...and she'll also grow up to know that her mom is always there for her to talk to and she'll always understand.....
2006-08-08 15:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her pick out what she wants to wear to school tomorrow. Talk about the things she liked about her day. What she didn't like. Did she meet any kids, make any friends? Here's a hint I did for my daughter when she started school. Most of her clothes had pockets and for the first week she carried a photo of myself on my first day of school. It was a little reminder that mom had been there too. Makes them feel a little less "alone".
2006-08-07 23:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could do a number of things with her..when one of our kids goes to kinder....my wife picks son/daughter up and takes them for a treat ice cream/happy meal...then they go to the park..but i know she also has just come home talked about the day if any homework has been given then they do that first after that watch a movie or go play in the back yard...
2006-08-07 18:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make play dates with some of the other kids but start hanging around the kids less and less. That way when the kids see the other kids at school, he or she won't think about you as much.
2006-08-07 20:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bekah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read a story about doing brave new things! Children love stories and can usually relate to the story if you take time after to discuss and explain and answer any questions they may have!
2006-08-08 21:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out for ice cream : )
Another cute idea is to make an award (print it out on your computer) for completing the first day of school.
2006-08-08 09:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arts and crafts is always nice. it would relax her and she would feel happy to be with you alone, and proud to accomplish something. It could be something of what went on in school. Or what kind of day has she had....really could open up the lines of communication too.
2006-08-09 00:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by magicalblessing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋