Seriously guys are all of you shallow? Where are the compassionate guys interested in a respectable girl?
2006-08-07 10:49:34 · 21 answers · asked by Lindz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, so I don't think that ALL guys are shallow just alot. I simply meant to bring up the fact that many guys (especially on the net) are shallow. Sorry if I disrespected any of you decent guys with my poor choice of vocabulary.
2006-08-07 10:59:58 · update #1
i dont think im like that
2006-08-07 10:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by dtstuff9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much a given that the more physically attractive someone is the more shallow they become regardless of gender. I'm not saying that it's impossible to be "hot" and actually care about your partner, but, if you think about it, the more someone is concerned with how they look on the outside the more they are going to want their partner to look good too. Maybe you're just not looking in the right places?
Now if you're asking why guys always think with the "wrong head" that's just hormones... most of us grow out of that eventually. Just keep your standards and you'll find a guy who respects that.
2006-08-07 11:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by segabytes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that people notice is how someone looks -- girls do this as well as guys. You can't help the fact that the first impression you have of someone is what you see.
If someone does not do a good job of keeping her appearance neat, then that implies that she probably has low self-esteem and a lot of bad emotional baggage that you don't want to deal with.
And if she does not post a photo, that implies that she is not comfortable with her looks -- which implies baggage too.
If you are suggesting that guys only ask out the very pretty girls, well, they are the ones who happen to catch your eye first, so she is the one who gets asked out first. The person who stands out from the crowd gets noticed -- and the one who gets noticed gets asked.
I don't think that it is possible to have a romantic relationship with someone to whom that you do not feel any attraction to at all. On the other hand, guys are usually physically attracted to anything that looks remotely female, so that shouldn't be a problem. The problem is how to stand out from the crowd.
2006-08-08 05:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, guys are not shallow. True, we notice the outside alot more than women do, but we have been wired that way since the beginning.
I notice attractive women as much as I do cool cars, lakes, and sunsets. There isn't an emotional connection like I have for my wife, but I don't notice them any less.
Like one of those bad *** muscle cars they gawk at, they wouldn't know what to do with a bleach bottle blond bimbo if they got one. Like the cars, they re high maintenance.
A normal down to earth respectable girl next door (like mine) is definitely a keeper, not a passing fancy.
2006-08-07 10:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Yote' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately the opposite is true. I have seen many instances where the young lady (which in this case should not be referred to as a lady) will try to get out of a nice guy what he doesn't want to give up; his virute, chastity, purity in some instances.
I am not sure what you mean by "inside" but it is my experience that some girls are just not nice on the inside. Likewise for guys. As for myself I respect women; my wife and I hold our relationship very sacred and everything that belongs to it. We strived very hard to maintain our purity (meaning no premarital sex) before we were married and it has blessed us in such a great degree. I am grateful for that in my life.
2006-08-07 11:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Nate-dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, we're not all shallow........ just a lot of us. It's not your fault if a guy won't take the time to get to know you instead of going straight for the pants. Just try to meet a guy who's gonna be compassionate and respectful to you, your wants, and your wishes. Good luck :)
2006-08-07 10:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
compassionate guys are the rear est.theres regular guys that only plan on getting some and the guys that are cute funny caring and mature.most guys only play girl and want some booty.dont worry there's a good guy out there
2006-08-07 10:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by a.m. w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey guy do not sweat over those immature females. I placed on turn flops for all time too. My exgirlfriends did not care and appeared to love me for me not my shoes. I guess some females obtainable want sandals/turn flops on their guy. I placed on them daily till the climate is amazingly chilly. in simple terms forget approximately people who're that infantile and judgemental and stay existence. Later.
2016-12-11 09:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by bienvenu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh give me a break. girls are like that too. they sure are. looks are what first draws everyone into wanting to be with that person. God programmed our sexuality like this (some people screwed it up a bit much..)
relationships book i read:
study was conducted to match college ages students together. participants rated their desires in a relationship, and a lot of them never put looks first. most talked of looks as something as a 6/10 sort of thing. after being matched, and a first date, participants reported back to researcher their thougths. when they didn't want another date with him or her the most common reason was looks!!
'nother book:
guys are created with this instinct to pursure girls..or "yearn to win their hearts." girls want to be pursued...conclusion...some dress like whores to get pursured. (bad game)
conclusion...i must be a woman..i want to have my heart won...
haha.
books are boring. follow your heart.
respectable girls sounds nice. just not boring.
most importantly if you haven't learned this. guys are visual!! pornography..hello? visual we love images..looks. what our eyes see.
women play back. dress sexy to manipulate men later on.
men use eyes. and women fantasize about sex in a relationship, i guess.
i'm not shallow. ..not too much. whenever i see a really pretty girl's face i just think..."what if she's really a total witch inside!" and that helps me walk on.
2006-08-07 11:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by ryan s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats coz all guys wanna do is get in ur pants no matter how hurt you are if something horrible happened to you a while ago but your still not over it they dont care they just want one thing and it sucks coz all guys are that shallow
2006-08-07 10:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha, are you kidding? Men can never be as shallow as women. Women are genetically wired to deceive and manipulate to put themselves in a position of power over a rich and attractive man. Women are never happy unless they are getting everything they want, but when they do, they stop respecting the guy....
2006-08-07 10:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋