wedding help?

Question

my friend recently sent me an invite that had a littkle bit of card in saying " it is your presence,not your presents that will make our wedding day, so please don't feel obliged to give a gift away for those who want to thankyou very much vouchers or money for our saving pot would be great for us but most importantly we request that you turn up as our wedding guest!"
i think that is great and want to put something along thise lines but don't want the same does anyone know of any sites that does this? or of any little poems that could go inside an invite,definately not a gift list card,that is just wrong!! also thanks to everyone that has responded to my other questions, i have taken all your answers on board! please help wedding is fast approaching and need to send out invites asap!

Answer 1

Gift information is only acceptable in shower invitations. Tell all your close family and friends that you only really need money gifts, so they can tell anyone who asks them. It's inevitable that you'll probably get some stupid gifts from well-meaning people anyway. I still have mine in a box in a closet. Others went to Goodwill. Anyway, have fun, and congrats!

Answer 2

Because it is a faux pas to mention wanting money, your friend thinks she has come up with a way to disguise this, with her clever poem & wanting "your presence not presents".

As you can see by most of the responses, she didn't do a very good job.
Unless you want to be placed in the same category as your friend, I wouldn't enclose anything with my invite but an RSVP card and a map, if necessary.

Answer 3

Mentioning gifts in wedding invitations is considered rude, and actually mentioning giving money is even ruder, although I know that is not the intention at all. Better to mention your preferences in person or on the phone, or ask friends to spread the word.

Answer 4

I'd skip any mention of gifts in your wedding invites. Most people are more apt to skip the wedding and reception completely when things like that are included. It comes across sounding greedy and self-centered.

Answer 5

I would not do that. I hope you rethink doing anything along those lines. It is not wedding etiquette. A wedding invitation without any kind of mention like that would be best. Trust me--

Good Luck! Happy Wedding!

Answer 6

My eyes!

"Because you have shared in their lives by your friendship and love, you are invited to share with our daughter and when they exchange marriage vows and begin their new life together on at "

Go to any old wedding website where you can order invitations, and set up like you are going to order an invtiation. They usually give you a few options.

Answer 7

Here's the link....
www.etiquettehell.com
The have a link to some cheesy woman who makes up rhymes like that.

I must say it is very bad etiquette on your part to do that. Personally, I would make a point to give you a gift that can't be returned. My sil wanted people to buy them vacation vouchers for their honeymoon, we defiantly did NOT do that.

Answer 8

Please don't do that. That is atrociously rude.

It is rude to mention gifts in ANY WAY in your invitations, even if it is to say that you prefer not to receive any. Anyway, that's not what your friend is saying, they are saying "no gifts except cash" which is just about the rudest thing EVER. (Extortion by way of wedding.)

Please don't do this. Have some sense.

Answer 9

If a couple really doesn't want gifts, I guess it's okay to say so. But IT'S NOT OKAY TO ASK FOR MONEY - that is just very rude and tacky. Don't ask for money or donations at all!

Answer 10

This is very bad ettiquette any metion of gifts in an invite is considered rude and not tasteful I would not do this if I were you.