2006-08-07 10:37:45 · 16 answers · asked by Olderwiser 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll go on a date with you :)
2006-08-07 10:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same way the a-holes do, you ask.
Go to places you like, as there will probably be girls there you already have something in common with. Keep things light, be direct but not pushy, smile and use eye contact! Good Luck Shy Guy!
2006-08-07 10:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by redandkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy go for the shy girl, think about it ur not really goin to find any one decent in the night clubs we're too busy being drunk, dancing and being loud so like friends or frineds of friends just act confident or just get use to talking to a girl you know and when u think your confidence has grown try another girl more practice the better
2006-08-07 10:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by MissElection 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so nice and any single woman missing out on a date with you needs her brain felt, get out there with friends and just be yourself and talk to women, any woman worth her salt will know straight away your decent and your shyness is something to work on between you, good luck.
2006-08-07 11:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness affects most people at some time in their life. Young people in particular find overcoming shyness difficult as they improve their social skills. And for some, shyness seems to persist into adult life, almost as if it has become a 'habit'.
Shyness has its roots in self consciousness and usually dissipates as people mature and become more experienced. However, for some it can 'stick', and then action is required.
Although most people think in terms of 'overcoming shyness', it is more likely that you will become comfortable in social situations by learning the strategies of self confidence along with social skills. Then, shyness is no longer the issue, as social nerves will melt away as a new 'habit' takes their place.
I suggest the following tips to overcoming shyness:
-Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
-Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
-Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
-Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
Overcoming shyness is about doing the things that allow you to enjoy social situations, not wondering why you feel shy!
Once you overcome shyness, you may confidently, and successfully, pursue women that interest you.
I hope my advice helped and I apologize if it didn't.
Take care!
2006-08-07 10:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Even better, why do women dump the decent guy for the one who treats them like dirt?
They may hit puberty sooner, but they seem to be maturing alot slower these days.
2006-08-07 10:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Yote' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I know all the girls go to the club, but most of us shy guys are not into that scene, so it makes it a lot tougher.
2006-08-07 10:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by overcoming your fear...
...it's up to the MAN to talk to a woman the first time- increase your odds by only picking women who make eye contact and SMILE. This requires you to MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT until they smile or look away.
after she smiles you go over, introduce yourself, compliment her looks by being truthful about some non-sexual attribute of hers and ASK FOR HER NUMBER!!!
Call her after a couple of days, talk briefly and set up a DATE.
No confidence, no dates...
2006-08-07 10:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got offered a date with her stop whining and stop telling yourself that you are shy your fulfilling your own prophecy. Be a man 'not yourself' that has not worked so far has it?
2006-08-07 10:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out there n enjoy your self you wont pull sat in the house
2006-08-07 10:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋