Well, it is day 2 and I decided to take the offer of moving in with my bd. He felt that it would be a good idea to save money etc. And we would eventually help each other financially. Well heck, I mean, I hadn't been around him, almost 3years. Well, our first night 2gether was great! Good convo, good company and we got some concerns out of the way. Well, day 2, not much of anything. He got off of work, saw a friend, came home, went to bed. We have seperate rooms etc. This is a strictly business deal. NO BOOTIE! He dosen't want a relationship etc. But when I woke up the next morning......I saw him sleeping. Shirt off, legs......I wanted him.....badly. What should I do. Move out?
PS. we have a child together
2006-08-07 10:21:04 · 29 answers · asked by lukin4answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's only the second day dear. take a cold shower and relax. in time either it will happen or it won't but take it one day at a time.
2006-08-07 10:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Siempre Sincera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Jesus. You moved in with the father of your child and he's not sleeping with you?! What happens when he starts bringing other women home? You are in for quite a difficult time if you don't discuss what you want and set up some house rules for your arrangement.
COMMUNICATION!!! Talk to the man about what you want. But don't nag his ear off or you won't get any where near what you want.
Good luck with your "purely business" roommate arrangement.
2006-08-07 10:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself in a good one. I think you do want him and he wants you in some ways. Let's face it, living with an ex that you have a child together with is a very good guard against getting into a serious relationship with someone else. It would take an extremely secure man/woman to be cool with dating either one of you. I think you need to really figure out why you really wanted to do this, and ask him why he really offered. I think you two need to have some very real, honest adult communication. With a child involved you two can't play games and move in and out with each other, you both need to figure this out.
2006-08-07 10:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a time when playing hard to get might fit the circumstance...making the first move will assure him your their for the bootie whenever he wants it...not having a commitment means he has no obligation to you...and by giving it up will put you in a dysfunctional situation ..play your cards right...make him want you...make him respect you...make it right, so you both want the same thing out of life...good luck.
2006-08-07 10:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have a child I would stay in the appartment with him and help take care of the kid. Tell him how you feel and he might feel the same way about you. If he does then you won't have to move out.
2006-08-07 10:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by yoda_0072002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let lust get in the way of love. I've been there and it's not pretty! Only have an intimate relationship if you truely LOVE someone. It's good that you have separate rooms. If you can't control your lust for this man, I would suggest different living arrangements. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 10:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with no strings attached sex. Unless you're worried you might become emotionally involved again. Maybe you guys should just talk it out and if it's just sex then go for it. If it's more than that I'd think about moving out if one of you isn't into a relationship.
2006-08-07 10:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Fatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've had sex previously, it's not likely that you're going to be able to live together without having sex again. If you really want this to be a "business only" relationship, you're going to have to control your feelings. I honestly don't think living with him is a good idea.
2006-08-07 10:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by parachute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh and I'll bet he looked hot, hot, hot! A nice set of wide shoulders tapering down to a slender waist with a nice butt drives me wild!
Do you think he let you see him on purpose? Maybe you should wear something skimpy to bed and let him catch you "sleeping". Who knows what could happen from that point?
If you want him go for it!
2006-08-07 10:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"yeah"
"wtf"
"he||"
this is some freaked up 5hit!
the coment of "this is a strictly business deal" kinda goes down the crapper if u have a child and u still want him!
i say "i shouldnt have even answerd this question"
2006-08-07 10:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by sage knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch a couple episodes of Judge Judy.
2006-08-07 10:26:26 · answer #11 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋