I thought I met the one and only true guy for me. he cheated I forgave him, he gets me mad I forgive him. I was willing to give up everything to be with him and to be there for the girls who I have come to love. Today, I found out he still looking for the right girl for him. I thought I was that girl. I want to die right now. Why does it hurt so much?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
2006-08-07 10:16:48 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhhh... I feel like I want to die but just to make things clear I don't intend to kill myself. thank you for all your help though.
2006-08-07 10:37:31 · update #1
Don't ever get that hung up on a guy. If he cheated he wasn't the one for you. Just be patient, have fun, enjoy your life. You will meet someone someday and he will be great, but you will never find someone great until you embrace being someone great yourself. Self confidence, self esteem, and a life that is not worth "giving up" those are qualities that will help you find someone who will appreciate you. Your hurting right now, go ahead and hurt now, but don't dwell in it too long. Watch some sad movies, cry it out, call a friend, then start letting it (and him) go. This weekend, get super pretty, go out and have some fun, you don't need to want to die, you need to learn how to live!
2006-08-07 10:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down grrl!! Ok first off - you're like 19 or so, so don't be in such a rush to find the guy of your dreams - he'll be old news my the time you are ready to get married, start a family and all that stuff. Second - it hurts because right now, in this moment, he is the love of our life and you've lost him - unfortunately nothing can change that - it sucks, and I'm sorry.
In time it'll get better. In the mean time, treat yourself well - it doesn't sound like he did - have some girls over - do nails, watch movies, cry, throw darts at his picture. When you are ready - hit the gym or the track - burn off some stream(and some calories) the go shopping, hit the clubs and knock em dead!!
Hang in there - it hurts - it will again with someone else too, but in the end it makes you who you are - stronger, better, smarter!!!
2006-08-07 10:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by redandkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the deepest of all emotions (or atleast one of the deepest), so just as it can affect you in such a good way, it can backfire and affect you in a way that's very painful and devestating. Right now you're heartbroken and probably feeling consumed with pain. You probably think that this feeling won't pass. It will though. He doesn't sound like he was good for you. Just wait until you 'do' find the guy that is good for you. Think of how amazing he'll make you feel if this guy made you feel as good as he did. Only when you find 'the one' it won't backfire like this relationship has. There will be ups and downs, but not the kind of devestating pain you're feeling now. Endure. Keep going. It will get better. I promise. "The best way out is through." Robert Frost
2006-08-07 10:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're going through but their is a process that you would have to go through first before you could call him and make him made because after a while the ones that leave you always come running back because they remember what they are missing. But my friend she is still dating this guy who cheated on her and she caught him, caught and STD, had a baby by some other girl and didn't tell her, never take her out or buys her anything for her birthday, and he still do what he do but she is being the dumb one and is continuing to be with his stupid a**. So if you don't want anything like that to happen you better leave before its to let.
2006-08-07 10:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by babygirlhollaataplaya2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over it. Not all guys are jerks. You just need to wait a little longer and be more picky about the guys you date. If a guy does something to hurt you like cheating or any kind of abuse, drop him.
You'll learn with time that relationships are not easy. And you'll also get to know yourself and what you need from a guy and not to settle for anyone who doesn't worship the ground you stand on.
In the meantime, have fun and live your life. When the right guy comes long, you'll just know.
2006-08-07 10:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gary H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts that bad because just as you said, you thought you found the one and only. I thought I did, too, and he didn't know what he wanted. So, I went on with my life and found someone new. It will hurt for a while, but don't do anything rash! Take it a day at a time, and you will be able to go on. Don't worry, everything will be all right. I will pray for you. Good luck. And if his name is Geofry, kick him in the b*lls for me.
2006-08-07 10:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you were in love with him, and that's why it hurts so much.
If he's still looking for someone else, then unfortunately you weren't the one for him.. you did more than your part though, even through bad times, you still took him back, but he just wasn't connecting.
It's best to let go of him, and find someone else, it sounds easier said than done.. but eventually those hurt feelings will fade.
It's bad right now, but once you get rid of the source of the problem
Let him go off and find whatever it is he's looking for, you don't want to constantly put up with his cheating..find someone better.. one that won't cheat!
2006-08-07 10:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by xx_ladyxluck_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not hurt right now if you did not love him.
Keep this in mind as you now begin to heal from this heartache. Relationships must be mutual. Everything related to that relationship has to be shared equally between the two partners. You nor he should have to give something of yourself up to be together. Yes, you have to decide to be exclusive in your dating, but giving up dreams, hobbies, friends, things that make you who you are should not be required to maintain the relationship.
The time has come for you to make two decisions.
Decision # 1: You need to decide what you need, and want from a relationship with a man. Once you have indentified those things, do not compromise just to be with someone.
Decision # 2: You need to decide everything you know you can give in a relationship. Again, do not compromise just to be with someone.
Once you have decided these two things, you need to look for the man who most closely fits what you need in a man.
Men and women both get themsleves in to some big heartbreaks, all because they have decided they need someone in their life more than they need to have the one that is right for them. Be careful out there. Look out for yourself, I guarantee no one else is going to watch out for you.
2006-08-07 10:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Christy,
It hurts because it would hurt any normal person, Christy. He's mistreating you and you're letting him do it and you are forgiving him every time. Why are you doing that? There's plenty of lonely guys out there that don't have kids, that would love to have a wonderful girl like you by their side.
Dump this guy and find one of those nice guys, who will treat you right, before it's too late. Happy hunting.
--Rick
2006-08-07 10:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a fantastic song - and actually, it was a Nine Inch Nails song before JC but I'm a big fan of JC. It makes me feel pretty sad as the video is quite depressing, JC looks so old in it and it was just before he died which makes it even sadder.
2016-03-27 02:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋