who else here is scared to die?

Question

sometimes i get a heavy feeling, usually when i try to go to sleep and i just think about what i would do when my husband dies and he is not there to lie by me at night when i sleep. or the other way around. idont want to die

we are catholic, and last night when i got so scared, i went and read verses from the bible and felt a little better.

i do have a kid starcow, but im am still young.

Answer 1

Why fear the inevitable? As an agnostic I used to be afraid, then realized it's probably especially pointless for me to waste time fearing death as I might waste the only time I have in existence worrying about my inevitable nonexistance. I know you must not agree with my take on it, but it's something to consider. If I, a person that has no faith in an afterlife (becauseI feel like I am too dumb to know where I am going after this lifetime), can find a reason not to fear death, then you, a person who has faith in such a great thing as eternal life after death certainly can find plenty of reasons not to worry.

Answer 2

I understand! Sometimes when I have difficulty going to sleep, I just lie awake and think about the fact that someday I will no longer be here. I start worrying about what it "feels" like to be dead, or be buried, or cremated. I almost start obsessing, but I have no answer for you as to how to get over the fear.

I am not going to even bring up the people who start asking "have you accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior," because I don't have that kind of zealousness.

It is only human to wonder about death/dying and not want it to happen. Just concentrate on today, living your life as best you can, loving your family, accomplishing whatever you want, and let go of what you cannot control or change. Easy to say, not so easy to actually do!!

Answer 3

It's natural to be 'scared' of death. It's what makes you get out of bed in the morning, and find food to eat. If you weren't 'scared' to die, you'd simply let yourself starve to death.

But our brains, which sometimes can be too smart for our own good, allow us to imagine that we're more important than we really are. This causes our natural fears and instincts to warp themselves into irrational behavior.

The key to happiness, imo, is to learn to live for the moment. And I don't mean that in some sort of poetic, philosophical way. I mean it in a very real way. Concentrate on the present, and be aware of the fact that your life could be taken away from you a split second from now.

You are not guaranteed to live until tomorrow, and you are not guaranteed eternal "life" after you die. You exist right now, and there are wonderful and terrible things that you can experience and/or avoid. Make the best decisions you can right now, and value every bit of happiness you experience, as it happens.

Answer 4

i used to get that feeling too. so i started learning more about heaevn, and it's pretty cool! The bible talks about a rainbow in heaven, which suggests an atmosphere with moisture, and probably rain! it alkso talks about gold and gems, which suggest some kind of earth-like elements. it also talks about chariots and horsemen, which suggest that animals are in heaven!
So, according to the bible, Heaven is a lot like earth, and probably better! Since it will be unspoiled and such. basically, a more complete version of earth!
Those few years without our husband will be hard, but in the grand scheme of eternity, it won't seem like that long at all! and once we are in heaven, we will be outside the concept of time, so it's not like we'll get bored!
I think heaven sounds like an aweosme place!

Answer 5

I am not.
Although I cherish this temporary existence called material life, I have no fear of what is to come. In fact I look forward to the experience.
I am human of course, so I do feel the selfish attatchments to others and will mourn my losses when friends and family shrug off their mortal coils, but will be thankfull that they have transcended this base plane.

Entropy exists for all things. It cannot be denied. Sorry.

Answer 6

wait til you have kids -- then it gets even scarier on a lot more levels. But it has to happen. If your husband dies you'll continue living and eventually be OK. Everything you have, you'll lose eventually, even your own life. And because we have no choice but to let it go, we do. The nice thing about our own death is that when it does happen, it will just happen and be done. No more worrying.

Answer 7

I think of it this way.You wouldn't get to enjoy the good things in life if you weren't born and the scarry part about life is sometime you must die.I was in viet nam years ago and I learned that life was a very temporary thing so I get up each day and strive to enjoy each day and to do some little thing I enjoy.And I trust God .Live your life with God every day and you won't fear visiting him when your time comes.And loved ones never leave us I think of my Mother and Father often and they inspire me to do good as they did.

Answer 8

That's natural... Even religious people with a promise of life after death have those fears sometimes.

I wish I could help since I know how hard it can be, but all I can really say is do your best in life and take things as they come at you, worrying about it gets you nowhere.

Answer 9

yeah I just had that feeling the other night when I was in bed. i am not really afraid of where I will go after I die...I am just scared that it will hurt when I die. i am also scared to die too young...i wanna live my life and when i have i probably wont be afraid of dying.

Answer 10

Well I don't believe in god but I think that you will meet up with the one you truly loved..I'm not sure where you will end up but its not heaven or hell and I won't know yet till I pass on which right now I don't really want to think about ,If I was you I wouldn't worry too much! :)!