Why do we act like we not lonley when we are?

Question

For instance in the club we got our lives all together.
Especially in the bar alcohol is a stimulant but a depressant afterwards.
When we in groups its easy to hide.
And why are guys so macho..those are the loneliest ones .
The amount of guys who pay for sex is rediculous
The ones who lie about it is even more ridiculous
Ever notice how the most unatractive people have the worst attitudes?
Its true "After the laughter comes the tears".
Being lonely is very exspensive guys buy cars jewelery spend allot of doe and travel in packs of 7 & 8 like wolves
whats up with that?

Answer 1

I'm not exactly sure, but there is One who can fill the void in anybody's life.

Answer 2

I am never lonely when I am by myself, but i am always lonely when I am around the wrong people. I am good company to me. I am not lonely around people who love me.
Many guys use and lose women to avoid intimacy. They're scared of being disappointment, and not being able to satisfy one patner. Some need to convince themselves they're not gay because they can't keep a woman around.
Some loser guys actually have to PAY for sex! Too bad.....They must really suck if they have to pay a girl to pay attention or to have sex with them.
They lie because they are ashamed of it.
Not all attractive people have bad attitudes. Just the ones that are gun-shy on being pre-judged because of their good looks. Other people think they have nothing more to offer than good looks.(and sometimes they believe it).
Alcohol can pick you up, but it can also intensify feelings...so if you're sad or frustrated, those feelings are magnified.
Some guys spend a fortune on "stuff" to impress others. Some guys have status-anxiety, and screw others over to get ahead.
Ever heard this: "The more you have, the more it owns you"?
Some people define their self-worth with material things. It's called PROJECTION. It is pretentious and shallow. It is also transparent. They need to try to impress others (with status or material things) to feel more worthy as people. Too bad for them.
They really need the approval of others to feel ok with themselves.
They should focus on their redeeming personal qualities. The ones that will last a lifetime. Self esteem is based on one's recognition of these qualities. Anxiety hides them. Focusing on other peoples' qualities will distract one from anxiety....and let the personality show through.

Too bad they don't realize that by being nice to be around, and inspiring others to feel good about themselves, then more people would want them around. They don't have try so hard. When they try to impress you, it hides their REAL personality......

Whatever thought yu have or had, someone else in the world has or had the same thought.
YOU ARE NEVER REALLY ALONE......

Answer 3

I have thought about why guys travel in packs like wolves. I have to say they are not like they were when I was in my 20's. Everywhere I look I see a bunch of guys standing somewhere together. Makes a person wonder what they are doing? What happen to the normal guy who is interested in women anymore. They are still around somewhere. Women are begining to speak up for themselves and i'm very proud of their actions today. Most households have at least one woman working. You go Girl! For the reason people act like they are not lonely when we are is because we have to keep our motivation up.

Answer 4

Most women worth having don't want anything to do with guys that are "pigs". Nowadays, it's so easy to be a pig because society in the U.S. promotes pigness with tv, internet, Hooters and porn in general. Feelings of sacredness are a great cure for lonliness, but sacred goes out the window as soon as some guy gets caught playing with himself over a magazine. That stuff never leaves a woman. So...the guy gets dumped or cheated on, turns into a woman hater and goes on the hunt for a non-blow up woman to take care of him sexually, because afterall, that would be man's primary obsession. Since most men don't "get it" they think they can lure us with money or cars or tough guy talk, but they don't realize that us girlfriends get together and make fun of them over it. All men want love, as do women, but again, with the way society is and with the way most men's minds work, they will be on a never ending journey of disappointment. And, unfortunately, for the men who do finally "get it"...they've already wrecked the one relationship they want most. And the cycle continues.

Alas!! Men that are truly confident in themselves and have a little depth to them already know that if you behave faithfully, we will baby you and give you more sexual gratification than you thought women could. If you act like pigs, you may as well go join your pig friends at the bar....and then come home and be lonely and blame us for it.

The other ***** of it is...we woman can lure and get you men quite easily...but it's not the other way around.

Answer 5

I think it's just human nature to want the company of another person (or people). The reason people try to act like they're not lonely is because no one wants to admit, "hey, no one seems to want to be around me as much as other people... there must be something wrong". So often it is because people don't want to be rejected by others, so they take the safe way out and stay solo. Then if they do go out, alcohol makes it way easier to be social and lose your inhibitions. I guess the guys (and girls) running in "packs" is just another "safe" way to be around others, but not be singled out for rejection. Just some thoughts.....

Answer 6

I think it's embarrassing to appear needy. It's easier to maintain the macho thing if you're in a group of guys. I kind of feel bad for the guys that are like that. If they use the bad attitude thing for emotional self defense, they're hiding what could be a perfectly good guy. Ever seen a picture of a guy and thought "nah, not attractive" and then you see him in action and he turns sexy? All in the attitude. Doesn't matter how much money a guy spends, he's still the same guy. Might as well be himself, he might be surprised at who he attracts.

Answer 7

www.match.com, www.eharmony.com

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/subjects/self/self_cds2.asp?PID=145&z=y
Check out the Self Improvement section of Barnes and Noble...

I'm not sure if this question was referring to people around you, or to your own life, but either way, reading about specifics will help.

My personal opinion? Who wants to admit anything like that? Why would a "man" want to show weakness, particularly one which could be cured by a woman?

Be the one with the bigger "balls", heal yourself, get comfortable, take up a hobby, and then when you're happy with who you are and conscious of whatever it is that causes these "temporary" solutions, you'll be able to love yourself...and even better, love somene else. Goodluck ;)

Answer 8

I used to act like I wasn't lonely. Even though it was a lie. I was so used to being rejected and hurt that I set up walls around myself to protect myself. It worked. But it turns out that not only did the walls keep others out, they kept me in. I had built my own prison. Today I still struggle with loneliness but I have my Savior Jesus Christ to help me, and He said He will never leave me alone. And He will do the same for you if you will call on Him......

Answer 9

Simply: Denial.

Some people think if they say they are lonely then they are having a pity party or something.

You can get lonely from anything and being lonely is different from being alone. People think if you surround yourself with people then you won't be lonely; you will.

I embrace when I am lonely and I try to figure out what is REALLY missing in my life and go from there.

Answer 10

We lie about being lonely because we don't want people to pity us. If we admit to being lonely, that's like admitting that nobody wants to be with us & that means there must be something wrong with us. Being lonely makes us feel like losers, because there's nothing in us that attracts people to us. You need to like yourself before anyone else will like you. Talking to a counselor about these feelings would probably make you feel a lot better...

Answer 11

I wouldn't know. I am lonely and believe me, I act it. It's taken over my whole life. I don't go to bars alone or in packs. I sit home and wish for the impossible and it never happens.........I like myself by the way and if people feel sorry for me, theres a valid reason, so it's far from pity.........