how can i deal with stress?

Question

my family is really gettin on my nerves everthing i do is wrong they keep on buggin me and i am so nice and i am tried of goin away and cryin i keep help i just don't know wat to do

Answer 1

Oh, girl! We all get stressed. I think being alone is the best cure. Read a book, watch T.V., search the web. Also, take preventative steps. Such as finish all your work and make sure you sleep early so that you can handle whatever is thrown at you throughout the day. Thinking about the last time you were stressed and how you got over it is also a good way. Try lighting candles and taking a bath (if you only have an hour of spare time a day). Keeping a diary is also very good. You can release your stressful thoughts by means of writing. Recording the times you were stressed and happy are a good way to give yourself a reality check one inawhile. When you read something happy that happened to you when you are down, you feel lifted. When you are happy and you read something sad that happened to you, you feel grounded and grateful. Hope this helps. Hope you release some of that stress!

Answer 2

when i was young im experiencing the same thing as you do. The worst part was that i was being beaten by my mother whenever i made a mistake. So dear, you're not alone and i symphatized you. (",)

Here's some tips that i wish might at least help you:

1. Find some group activities like i did, like for instance, a choir in church and school and you'll see the hurt inside will be gone
whenever you're with them. And you'll learn some new good things as well!

2. Do you have any hobbies? Like making beads accessories and the likes? If not, then start to make some hobbies now and you'll have something to release the stress.

3. Go enroll for a yoga class, or aerobics, or go for a full body massage.

4. Listen to some music and relax, sing with it, or dance. Free yourself with the music.

5. This i guess is the most great thing to do if nothing else work,
When your mother is not angry to you anymore...go and have a serious, quiet "HEART TO HEART" talk with her, ask her what does the family wants you to do, so that everyone will love you, show to her that you dont really want to do mistakes and turn out the bad one in the family, its just that, you just dont know yet how to do the right thing, and most importantly tell her this "THAT YOU NEED THEM ALL SPECIALLY YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER TO GUIDE YOU TO EVERYTHING, MOST LIKELY IN YOUR DIFFICULT TIMES AND THAT IS WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE"...then swear to your mom that you wont do the same mistake again and really do it okay? LEARN HOW TO TALK AND EXPRESS YOURSELF IN A VERY MATURED MANNER. AND THE REST WILL BE OKAY.

Answer 3

Excercise is a great way to relieve stress and relieve anger.

If this is not what you had in mind, maybe find a hobby for yourself to get your mind off your family. Something like Art or a book club. Your local YMCA might have some fun classes to join.
You can also look into volunteering your time at an animal shelter? or an old age home.

If this doesn't work...... Shopping at a mall is ALWAYS the best cure to anything!!!
keep your head up! Family can get like that from time to time. It gets better!!!! Believe me!!!

Answer 4

There are manythings you can do to relieve stress. My method is based solely on keeping yourself busy in the sanctity of your room. Incense is a great start, as the soothing aroma will calm you down. Next, try something with your hands, such as chinese massage balls or a stress buddy, you know the things you squeeze and they bulge. Ha! The last thing I would recommend is a hobby or something that makes you laugh. They say laughter is the best medicine, so put on your Richard Pryor records, or dust off that Weird Al cd, but the most important thing is to enjoy yourself.

Answer 5

I think you should talk to them and get them to try to understand. Bring it out in the open. Get some counseling from a school counselor if possible. Good parents will do anything for their kids and it seems that your family maybe just overbearing. But then at certain ages, family always seem overbearing.

Please do not shut them out or ignore them. Shutting them out and ignoring them just makes them try to get into your life more which is the opposite of what you want.

Try to understand why they are doing what they are doing. Perhaps you don't understand them as much as they don't understand them.

Also don't try alone. If you cry, share it with others perhaps they will see the seriousness of your situation.

Realize that it will take time and courage to get through any problems but also realize that others have and so will you.

Good luck!

Answer 6

well depends on what type you can always take a nice hot bubble bath at the end of the day or while at work or school take a couple seconds to take a deep breath and count to ten and think pleaseant thoughts before dealing with anything stressful or even go for a walk or do what i do i cook and bake wether it be in the morning or at midnite i am cooking and or baking when i am so stressed out and can not sleep

Answer 7

I don't know how old you are. If you are legal age distance yourself from them a little. If not, find a hobby, read a book. Call a nice friend. Answer questions on here. You can help someone else with your input on a needed answer. and it will get your mind off of it for a while.. Take a deep breath. Hang in there. We love ya. Peace.

Answer 8

Take up Martial Arts, it is a very good stress releif. I have a very stressful job and started martial arts a year ago. I lost 20 pounds and feel great. I even went to China with my Martial Arts school last month, it was an awesome trip. I do Kempo with United Studios of Self Defense but any Martial Arts would be a great stress relief. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

How about instead of going away from them, at some point in their moments of irritating you, try and take a deep breath and ask, "can't we all just get along?" (say it in a funny tone to ease the tension) Just remember, just because someone's a parent, doesn't mean they're not just as frustrated as you and trying to learn how to get along and find common ground between each other.

Maybe talking it out is a good route to take, you're all probably frustrated and scared of family bonding?


I hope this helps.

Your friend,
Mick

Answer 10

You sound like me. Conflict stresses me out. I think you need to stop being so passive and start defending yourself. You don't have to do it aggressively. Try to use I statements like, "When you keep bugging me, etc. I feel frustrated and hurt." Be honest and calm. Maybe you can't reason with them. But it's better to stand up for yourself, as you've tried retreating from the problem and that hasn't helped. Maybe you and your family can come up with a solution that doesn't leave you feeling so used.