Is it really that big a deal if ur child dates someone of a different race? I saw someones response to a similar question and was really disturbed.
2006-08-07 09:51:56 · 21 answers · asked by triniallstar_4 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That would be a choice for my children to make.
I would ask only that they be comfortable with what they are doing and that the other person also be comfortable. That would come down to values for both of them.
If they loved each other and chose to marry I would continue to love my child and would love the person he chose to marry as much as I would if she were of the same race.
The only race that really matters is the human race, and--last time I checked--we were all members.
2006-08-07 09:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
We live in a very small town that is 99% white and the few blacks that are hear are often treated unfairly. I have told all of my children that it isn't the color of someones skin that makes the person it is what is on the inside that matters. I love and respect my childrens happiness enough that if they came in and said they were dating someone from a different race that I would look at the same thing as I would a white person and that is how they treat my child and if they are happy. If they treat my kid ok and my chld is happy then I don't care if they are purple there are more important things to worry about in life than skin color.
2006-08-07 13:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any problem if the young people really like eachother and the parents are in agreement. Who cares what the rest of the world thinks? There's nothing wrong in dating, and even if it would lead to something more serious, so what? Nowadays, intermarriage is much more acceptable than it was a generation ago. I think the biggest argument against it was children resulting from a mixed marriage, not knowing which way to go. I have known people of mixed heritage, and they are just like anyone else, having friends of all races. When will society recognize that a person is judged by his or her character, and not by anything as superficial as skin color?
2006-08-07 10:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem with racism. I think too many people think racism can only come from one particular race. Racism is not a "white" thing. There is racism from every race.
I don't see any problem with dating whoever you want. You like who you like. Don't date to impress. I think people are more closed minded than ever right now. This should be a world of love, passion, open-mindedness, friendship. Not the color of the skin or sexual origination, or social scales.
My child could date anyone he/she wished. It is their choice.
2006-08-07 10:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Racism is always going to be an issue w/some people as we see in Tiffany. Luckily most of the responses here are really good. My husband is white and I'm latino so my child is free to date whomever he wants just as long as he's HAPPY.
2006-08-07 10:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my sons dated or married girls of different races it would not be a problem. People look the same on the inside so why should it matter what the outside looks like?
2006-08-07 15:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest, I'm sick of the racism card. Like one persons response, it's not just whites and blacks. It's all races. It gets old. What happened in the past was none of our doing......unfortunately what's done is done. Move on and people need to grow up. I have so many friends and family members who date outside of their race and I see NOTHING wrong with it. We're all human beings. Color should not be seen!!!!
2006-08-07 10:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by It's a secret! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done the inter-racial thing. I have dated black, latina, asian, arab, jewish and of course white. Here is the deal. I have found it is better to stick with your own for multiple reasons.
1. At the rate we are going in a few hundred years everybody is gonna look like everybody else. If God wanted us all to look the same, he would have made us look the same.
2. The cultural differences our outrageous. I would never take a black or Latina girl to a nice restaraunt again, because something, usually miniscule, sets them off then they make a scene, embarass you and you still have to shell out a few hundred bucks for someone who doesn't know the appropriate time and place for their "issue".
Asian and Jewish women have awful families who nitpick, in front of you no less, why you are not appropriate for their daughter. "Why don't you go out with that nice Sheldon boy down the street? You know th one who just got back from Tel Aviv?"
Arab girls? I watched a girl I was seeing get the sh!t kicked out of her by her father for disgracing the family by having sex when he had arranged an acceptable marriage for her. The dude was almost forty and she was fifteen.
Yeah I will stick with my boring, vanilla girls.
2006-08-07 10:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have no problem dating someone of a different race or if my future children did. It is what is on the inside that counts. Plus, I am so pale that it would be good to get some color in my bloodline so we don't all look like ghosts ;-).
2006-08-07 09:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have a problem with my daughter dating someone of a different race. I think it depends solely on her feelings for the person, if they are good to her and if they care about her too. As long as she understands enough about her background and their background to pass them both along to children in the future should they have any. Unfortunately, they would have to be prepared for racial remarks and bad treatment from people who are against inter-racial mixes though.
2006-08-07 10:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by lcombsfan_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋