I mean only to urinate. My husband gets freaked out about this. It's not because when I flush it'll scald him...he just doesn't want anyone in the bathroom with him. And it's not like I'm going to fling open the shower curtain or anything. He's also funny about it with me. When we're going out and I have to get in the shower because we're running late, I tell him to go ahead and come in and finish brushing his teeth, put on his deodorant, whatever while I'm showering, but he won't do this. Anyone else like this, or is my husband just weird?
2006-08-07 09:42:06 · 64 answers · asked by brevejunkie 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's how I knew the honeymoon was over. If you can't respect your husband's "space" in the bathroom, then where? Even though we have two bathrooms and I was shaving, my wife comes in to take care of number 2. That's when the honeymoon was over and the door started being locked.
Your attitude about this is common among married women. All of your husband's friends are scum, all of his pre-marriage furniture is trash, all of his accumulated savings are "available" for your "whims", his relatives are nosy, controlling, uninterested moochers or degenerates and he doesn't love you if he disagrees with your choices. On top of this, you withhold "affection" until he "comes around" to your way of "thinking".
2006-08-07 09:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Intelligent and curious 3 · 9⤊ 4⤋
It's an individual thing. Many people are that way. They want complete privacy when in the bathroom.
I wouldn't lose any sleep over it unless it creates a problem. Best long-term solution is to get a house or apartment with at least a bath and a half. That way you don't have to "hold it," and he gets his privacy.
He may have had privacy issues growing up. If he's otherwise a good husband I wouldn't worry about it and I'd just try to find a good way to come to some sort of common ground on this issue.
A lot of people don't want company in the bathroom when they are bathing or otherwise using the facilities.
Have you ever tried showering together? That might be one way to break the ice.
2006-08-07 09:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand the not going to the bathroom thing, but brushing teeth or deodorant? There is some serious issue here. You two are married and you are supposed to be comfortable with each other in every way. If he can't go in the bathroom when you are showering, there is some sort of issue going on there that you should find out about. Talk to him about it.
2006-08-07 09:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Hockey, Guns & Beer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just your husband...lol. Maybe over time he will loosen up. My wife and I routinely share the bathroom while showering. For brushing our teeth or urination kind of things. I think over time that will take care of itself. If not, make sure and get a home with two bathrooms!
2006-08-07 09:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no unplesant smell involved, then why not? Do you ever shower together? I'm not sure what the reservation is, it just seems practical to brush your teeth while the wife is in the shower. Condense actions to save time.
I don't think it's you that is weird, but maybe some aqua-therapy or hydro-counseling will help him : )
2006-08-07 09:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by winton_holt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
athroom time at all (except when my friend Jenni comes to visit - we are water babies and always shower together - her husband hates that).
You know if I were you I would just respect your husbands wishes - I mean normally men don't have a lot of hangs ups about different things - this is kind of cute and your not respecting it tells him that you don't care about his feelings.
2014-09-25 10:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and they go to work with me too. The bathroom is about the only place I can go to alone. I prefer to be left alone while in there. I have even been known to sit on the floor in there to just get away for 5-10 minutes!
2006-08-07 09:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with number one. Number two is definitely a no-no because of the smell and that is way too personal and graphic.
However, everyone is different and if he doesn't want to be in there, then you can't make him. It's not worth having a fight over.
Maybe you can introduce "taking a shower together" for fun and see if he goes for that as an intro. to sex. He might get over his hang up if he is eased into it.
2006-08-07 09:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like sharing any bathroom time at all (except when my friend Jenni comes to visit - we are water babies and always shower together - her husband hates that).
You know if I were you I would just respect your husbands wishes - I mean normally men don't have a lot of hangs ups about different things - this is kind of cute and your not respecting it tells him that you don't care about his feelings.
2006-08-07 09:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm similar. The bathroom is a private place. I'll brush my teeth together, but when someone is showering or using the toilet, I think that they should be left alone. Old fashioned I guess...
2006-08-07 09:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by luv2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is OK. My husband always comes in and uses the bathroom while I'm in the Shower and the same with me. The thing is we only have one bathroom.
2006-08-07 09:47:28 · answer #11 · answered by speedsgirl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋