What am I doing wrong here?

Question

In general, girls tend to love me. Girls I've dated are always crazy about me at first, then one day they start acting weird and then finally decide they don't want to date anymore (it's almost like the spark dies or something). We never argued, and were always having fun. This happens not only with ex's but with other girls too (one day they don't really call anymore - like they've lost interest). I must be doing something wrong but I don't know what it is. What is my problem?? Honesty and details please!

One person did call me clingy before, and I don't rush things. I try not to be needy, but at the same time care.

Answer 1

may be u feel that but cant u change ur personality?
i think u r selfish person ( sorry ) and cool same time
having more girls is not indication that u r lovely boy
they may want u for something else or may wants u for ur personality
take rest

Answer 2

Jon, I will tell you the same thing that I told my son. Girls are not the same as boys. Women are not the same as men. You can not judge yourself on what the other sex does.

Let me give you an example. A man ask a women to marry him. When she tells her girlfriends they jump and squeal. But the first questions are always: what car does he drive? Does he own his own home? What does he do for a living? On the other hand, men ask what she looks like. This is what we do.

Do not be hard on yourself. Study hard, get a nice car, house and a good job and the rest will be standing in line.
Remember, as long as you understand that they are all absolutely, 100%, with out a doubt, definitely crazy and that they are the last person you want in the boat when you are rowing across the river. Do what you will. P.S Have them sign a prenup!

Answer 3

Perhaps its because you might be rushing in too fast, or too slow. Perhaps you have some type of personality that may be overbearing, controlling, and manipulative. The problem most people have is their inability to change their behavior. We become too used to our selfish ways. We think nothing of it and one day we find ourselves a long and wonder why.

My advice to you, is to speak with your family members and or friends, and ask them this very questions you've presented. Maybe someone has hinted to you in the past and you didn't listen to them. Perhaps you could figure out the pattern on your own, simply by being honest with yourself. Good luck, man because I know a couple of my friends who have personality problems when they date and no matter what their friends say; they go about their own business and wonder why.

One more thing; perhaps you could call one of the ladies and ask her why. Let her know, you're only asking for improvement. If she worth her salt; she'll answer with honesty and without condemnation.

Answer 4

Hmm... You say that "one day they don't really call anymore". Maybe YOU should call THEM. It shows you care enough to notice that something's up. When you call them ask if something's up and that you've noticed that they've changed. Warning though: the change conversation can end badly if not executed correctly. But really I think you need to analyze your behaviors around women, have your best friend to come with you on a date and get him to tell you what seemed peculiar.

Answer 5

If you've really asked yourself that questions and have really done some deep self examining and have failed to come up with a response, then maybe you truly need to ask for a honest answer from some of the women you've dated in the past. Hopefully they'll respond truthfully.

Answer 6

Are you independent? Focused on your own goals or too wrapped up with them? Do you have a good group of friends? Do you spend time with them? Do you call her too much? Make yourself too available? Ask yourself these questions. As odd as it may sound, women like a good challenge, too. If you are not making yourself a "hot commodity", you will be treated as such. :) I am not saying play games by any means, just get a little more wrapped up in yourself, your goals, etc.
Good luck to you---you'll be fine.

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like you had good communication with any of these women. Go into every relationship telling them up-front that you want complete honesty with their feelings (that'll win you points too!). Once they lose interest, it's too late. Don't date anyone you wouldn't want as a best friend.

Answer 8

would have to hear more about the progression of a relationship, but it is possible that if you are really laid back you might not be giving enough "drama" (read attention) after that initial spark wears off. try and keep things spontaneous and keep the girls on their toes. good luck!!

Answer 9

I cant answer this for you, you are going to have to look into yourself or call the girls and ask them.

Answer 10

maybe you don't show enough interest ? ... a relationship needs to be "sparked" up on both sides... ? just a thought