2006-08-07 09:32:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, it is (I know what you mean!). My husband did drugs for a long time. A co-worker of mine (a health/career teacher) said that a person's maturity comes to a grinding halt at the age when he/she began using drugs. Not sure if this problem applies to the person you are speaking of, or not. And of course, the only person you can control is yourself. Controlling your responses to him are what you can do; you cannot change him. Pointing out the behavior when it occurs in a patient, semi-humorous way can help temporarily.
I try to think of the unwise decision my husband made and the fact that his brain cells have been adversely affected. Sometimes I just want to scream because his actions/speech/behavior are worse than that of our two kids (ages 21 and 15).
If you love the person, however, then you must find ways to deal with it, whether that includes therapy for yourself and/or him; getting out of the house when it starts to really bug you; concentrating on other things.
Nobody can tell you whether it's worth getting out of the relationship. The plus/minus comparison is up to you.
2006-08-07 09:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you , I have been in a relationship for 10 years and he is absolutely a child. There are times that he is OK but it seems that he is childish at the most inappropriate times. I have learned that if I give him the MOM look & he quits. I think it's more embarrassing for him to argue with me then to act like a child so, once he See's that look he knows that we are about to argue and he stops & he does apologize later. Once he realizes that he was behaving in that manner then he tries not to do it again.
It's really hard to be with a man like that. But I love him so I guess it's worth it.
2006-08-07 16:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other person acts like a child because of alcohol or other addiction issues, you might get some support from Alanon. It is for those affected by the behavior of addicted people.
2006-08-07 16:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Larry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what it is like. I have a "Man Child" of my own, and am frustrated when he acts like one of the kids. I actually had to have a very grown up talk with him so that he would act more like a grown up... it seems to be working but we have our moments. I would try to talk to him when it is just the two of you and there isn't any distractions. Good luck.
2006-08-07 16:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer you seek lies within yourself. You might want to consider talking to a therapist if you can afford one. There are a lot of deep, underlying issues that need resolved.
2006-08-07 16:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I had one like that and I quit and I'm not sorry.
2006-08-07 16:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i belive it is really hard!
2006-08-07 16:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Olcia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋