I have had several relatives die of cancer and a couple of good friends that have survived cancer. my dad was the last one and since then I have a hard time dealing with anyone who has cancer especially his sister. Can anyone help me get over this feeling or at least cope with it?
2006-08-07 09:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by lanell1963 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to go visit your aunt. If she dies and you are knowingly avoiding her it will make you feel a lot worse. It is hard when a loved one dies, but you need to remember their memories live on. It does not have to be for her why you are visiting, do it for yourself. So you can say " I feel good about the way my aunt and I and the way we get along". If you need someone to talk to find a good friend, pastor, or youth leader. if you don't go see her you will regret it in the long run.
2006-08-07 15:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this instance, I think you need to be strong and get over your fears. If you were in your aunt's place, wouldn't you want relatives to come visit you? Death and dying are hard to cope with, and you have already lost a number of people close to you. You must be suffering emotionally and possibly wondering why so many people you know and love are dying in this way.
Life isn't fair. But I think it really would be a kind, thoughtful, selfless act for you to take a deep breath and go visit her. If you don't, then you may regret not doing it because at some point it'll be too late.
2006-08-07 09:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you from experience that being scared is not always a good thing but you can learn a lot from this aunt before she passes away and you maybe not be able to make yourself want to go but you need to go you need to see her cause you could have a lot of regret when and if she passes on and you did not even know who she was in life or what you could even teach your children and grandchildren someday of her wisdom so you should think of this and make yourself go as soon as you can because if you do not you could regret it later so you should go and you should try to spend as much time as you can because you could miss her more then you know so go and see her
2006-08-07 10:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry youre going thru so much loss.youre on overload,you are not cold or unloving,youve just been thru so much sadness lately ,u dont want to feel that way anymore.that's understandable.maybe,deep down ur worried about this disease urself,because its affected so many around you.maybe u can write a heartfelt letter to ur aunt,tell her about funny or enjoable times u have had 2gether,send pictures of urself,ur friends-postcards and things to make her laugh.thats easier than going in person,but ur still communicating ur love and support and brightening her day.for ur feelings,school or church counseling may help,bereaved support groups,etc. whatever ur comfortable with.give urself permission to grieve,but also permission to nurture urself,go to movies,out with friends,etc.u cant give to others unless u are full urself,so its ok to have a "grief" break.also,empower urself,eat right,exercise,always have medical checkups on time,even early,if something runs in ur family.ur not alone,others have faced this too-ur feelings are normal.remember,when emotional painr uns its course ,u will rise again to ur "set-point' OF HAPPINESS,AND THESE EXPERIENCES ARE PART OF WHATS BUILDING UR STRENGTH,CHARACTOR AND COMPASSION.ITS TERRIBLE U R GOING THRU THIS,BUT BE GOOD TO URSELF.''smooth seas do not a skillfull sailor make".take care of urself!!!!
2006-08-07 09:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart breaks for you! I'm sorry for your losses. But you really should go to see your aunt if you are close to her. Enjoy each other's company while you still can.
2006-08-07 09:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see her, it will be hard but not as hard as trying to cope with not visiting her (if, God forbid, she passes).
2006-08-07 09:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by murphly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were your aunt i would feel like you dont like me for some reason ...so even if you dont like to see her in this situation you have to suck it up and just go...it's family and you will regret it so much if you don't go and it's too late. just go
2006-08-07 09:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you call her and explain that its not a lack of love or respect that keeps you away its just that too much has weighed on you of late but that she is always in your prayers ?
2006-08-07 09:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋