She screams when you annoy her or something doesn't go her way or sometimes just because. It is really nerve racking and I will not have a spoiled brat. What should I do?
2006-08-07 09:16:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
duct tape her to her chair..and then the mouth..that should do it.
2006-08-07 09:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by G-Bear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 15 months old and does the exact same thing. As some of the others have said, ignore, ignore, ignore. They are easily frustrated at their age because that they cannot tell you what they want. Therefore, they sometimes resort to obnoxious behaviors such as this in order to "communicate". (Don't you just love that high-pitched scream when you're in the middle of the grocery store?) My son's pediatrician has four children and I have several friends with multiple children and they all say this will pass. I firmly believe, with a 15 mo old, ignoring such behavior is the best way to change it. Why? Because it teaches them that it doesn't get them what they want. I've begun consistently ignoring my son whenever he screams, whines, or throws a tantrum and it definately seems to be working. He still does all three from time-to-time, but the duration is short-lived because he can see very quickly that it's not going to work.
2006-08-07 23:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people might disagree with me on this, but I know someone it worked for, so I'll say it. Try giving her the same (brief) scream right back, consistantly, and then pay no further attention to the outburst. (If you're in public you'll have to skip your scream and just remove her from the situation and into the car. If she's still screaming, you can scream there.) The effect is that it should startle her, make her stop screaming at least momentarily, and then reinforce in her the condition that you will not further react or negotiate with anyone who is doing what she is doing. This is one of those really difficult things that you have to just take a stance on and tough it out. It won't (or shouldn't) last long ... it will just FEEL like forever. I'm sorry. Good luck. Keep silently chanting the mantra, "This, too, shall pass."
2006-08-07 16:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT IGNORE SCREAMING. I cannot stress this enough. Ignoring obnoxious behavior will only make your child more frustrated because you are refusing as the parent to confront the problem.
And you must deal with this problem and very swiftly. If getting in her face and saying NO very firmly does not work, then spank her hard. Just one good swat on the bottom will do.
When a toddler is screaming you have to get their attention immediately.
Screaming is just another form of defiance and good parents must also meet defiance head on and show the child who is the authority figure.
This also applies when the child screams after you disciplined them for something else. For example, if you send them to their room and they start screaming in their room, they are openly defying you. You would have to go in there and confront them verbally, or with corporal punishment.
Don't worry that your child is becoming a "spoiled brat." At 15 months she is just testing the waters (this is normal - it starts way before they are 2) and now is your chance to confront the rebellion head on.
You cannot talk softly to a screaming child or they will think you are crazy! You cannot tape their mouth up because that will register with them that you can't handle the situation or make them stop by using your legitimate authority.
A screaming child is actually DEMANDING that you discipline them swiftly. She wants to know her boundaries. Don't disappoint your daughter!
2006-08-07 16:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get right in front of her and talk really softly. Many kids are curious enough to stop to hear what you are saying. However, this won't work if the screaming is emotional, only if it's a bad habit. If the screaming is emotional, there are a variety of philosophies to deal with it:
* Some say ignore and let self-soothing begin,
* Others say sit facing the child directly with a calm, serene look on your face, to encourage the child to come down to your mood level
* Still others say some kind of startling like clapping of the hands or a touch is the best way to stop it.
You have to do what you believe is right, just remember: no timeouts until age 2 and then only 2 minutes each and No hitting of any kind at all, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics.
2006-08-07 16:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of kids like the sound of their own...uh...loud voices. That doesn't mean she'll turn into a spoiled brat. However, she is obviously getting your attention with her screaming when she doesn't get her way. Do you give in to her to keep her quiet? Wrong move.
When she screams as a direct result of not getting her way, move her to a safe area like a playpen, leave the area and let her scream away! She'll learn that that kind of behavior doesn't "pay" and she'll eventually stop.
It might take a few weeks, but she'll stop. She's too young to understand time out's, but that's essentially what you are giving her even though she's processing the situation on a more primitive level.
2006-08-07 16:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GIVE IN!
Bend down make eye contact but be at a slightly higher plane then your child (the young mind interpretes this as you having authority)
In a firm but clear voice say no. if the screaming continues punish immediately (cause and effect will be learnt)
punishment can be a time out, no TV, removal from the room, or a swift, swat to the bottom. the idea is to make a lot of noise but very little if any pain - followed by a loud (not screaming) and clear NO! YOU WILL NOT SCREAM.
2006-08-07 16:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Circuitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom of a 16 month old, I empathise. Screaming doesnt bother me as much as whining does ---- aaaaaaargh.
Best way to handle screaming, take the kid out of the room, go anywhere else. I have even taken him to the bathroom and opened the taps, taken him to the balcony to look at some tree. If all else fails, distract. And the best way seems to be just picking them out and changing the environment. Children forget easily (thank god) and hopefully your daughter will forget why she started screaming in the first place
2006-08-08 02:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Easternmistique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter started this at 11 months. The doctor said while it is very annoying it is perfectly normal and they will outgrow it. He also said it is partly due to the fact that they can not yet tell us what they want, and get frustrated easily. With my daughter I have found that ignoring her does the best. If she starts it in the kitchen I walk away or at least turn my back. If she doesnt have an audience she stops quicker. I dont give in to whatever she wants, and tell her no and walk away. If you pay attention and try to soothe her constantly she is getting attention for that behavior and will continue. It is a very hard stage, and one day will pass. Good Luck and remember "this too shall pass"!
2006-08-07 21:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scream the same way at the same time (when you're at home of course). I'm serious about this. She'll probably be so shocked that you screamed she'll stop. This may take a few times. It depends though on your daughter she may also think it's funny then you're in trouble....and I'm sorry. Try it.
2006-08-07 17:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by jojoladay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really: there's not much you can do.
She's only 15 mo.
All you can do is just ignore her. It's hard, but eventaually it will sink in that screaming does absolutly nothing to stop anything.
If nessisary, just leave the room and let her scream it out. So long as she's not in any danger, you just got to let her get it out and relize that it won't do anything.
2006-08-07 16:21:47 · answer #11 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋