Do you think that fathers should have rights to their unborn child?

Question

What do you think should happen in this situation:

A man gets his girlfriend pregnant.

She wants an abortion.

He wants to keep the child.

Should he have rights to the unborn baby?

Why or why not?

If the man and woman were married, would it be different?

Why or why not?

Answer 1

I believe he has a right just as much as she does.It did take two to make that baby and it needs two to raise and love that kid.Nowadays,kids are growing up without their dad in the picture and I believe that he has a right to be in his childs life,just as much as their mother does.If parents cant get along,why bring a baby into the world,just to hurt him.her.It isnt right.A kid has the right to know both parents,not just one.

Answer 2

First off, it's his baby too and if the woman is so selfish to want to just use abortion as birth control, she shouldn't be having sex in the first place. It's a shame a child has to suffer today because it's mother is too self centered. I would definately let the man have his baby, afterall if it weren't for his sperm (half) she wouldn't be pregnant in the first place. If she's going to terminate her parental rights (not the baby) she should have that option, but so should the guy IMHO. Again, this should also depend on the mental state and how responsible the other half is as well. It's never a childs fault that the two responsible for making them "messed up". God doesn't make any mistakes. That's why there is adoption, so you can selflessly give a child to a couple who really wants to be parents but cannot. A baby is a baby whether you are married or not and should be given a chance at life no matter whether it's with the biological parents or adoptive.

Answer 3

The law sides with the mother on this one since it has determined abortion is her "right" but the law can and should be changed.

It's crazy that when a woman wants to abort the baby, the man has no control over this. But if the woman wants to keep the baby, then he is forced to pay child support!

This type of system is illogical because it is based upon the flawed principle that whatever the woman wants to do is the "right" thing to do. That makes no sense. How could it be right to call it a mass of tissue and abort it and also be right to call it a baby and keep it? It has to be one or the other.

This system also punishes many good men who actually want to take responsibility and be good fathers. It's crazy! Many of these men also want to stop the abortion because they actually care about the women and don't want her to go through that experience. I know men personally who still cry years later because they were unable to stop an abortion. They not only lost a child, but they saw the physical and emotional pain that resulted for the woman and they could do nothing.

We've had laws in the past like this that made no sense and thankfully they were changed. Remember when the Supreme Court said a black person was only 3/5 of a person? Shameful!

Answer 4

Here is my thoery: If the woman does not want the child, but the man wants the child, then you know what? Since she has to carry it, he should be there for her. Make a deal. Take her to lamaze, be there for her morning sickness and pay for the bills for her cravings. Then, once she has given birth, give her money as if you were going to adopt a child from the birth parent (which would be her). Compensate her for 9 months and for the pain and labor. Talk to a lawyer and see what is the price for adoptive parents who wants a healthy newborn, and he would tell you how much people are willing to pay. Then, get some papers up so that it is documented that the mother never wanted to be the mother in the first place, but gave the child life for the sake of the father. That this will secure the mother of said child as well as the father. Then the mother, who is recovering, can take the money, part all ties with the father and baby, and move on with her life. He can be that child's guardian.
Then there is no problem. If he wants the baby so bad, do what prospective adoptive parents do: make sure everything (and everyone) is taken care of, sign the papers and be the daddy you always wanted to be. Simple, huh?

Answer 5

You are not a Father until the child is born. (Neither is the woman a Mother.) Adoptions are not even legal until after birth-when the paperwork can be signed. As it should be.
No one should ever be forced to bear a child against their will; married, or not. That thought alone should be enough to stop your line of questioning. What would even compel a person to put someone through that? Selfish, beyond measure!

Sex can create some messed up situations. The good news is:
You have the right to abstain. You have the right to correctly and consistently use effective birth control. You have the right to choose your partner.
Sometimes you have to take premeditated personal responsibility, rather than looking for the State to correct your mistakes of judgment.
If you want a child, or you don't believe in abortion, then you need to choose a similar partner.
If you think both partners should be in agreement about a child, before it gets born, then choose a similar partner.

Sex can lead to children. Personally, I never had sex with anyone unless I was prepared to accept whatever circumstances resulted.

Answer 6

In this particular situation... yes he should have the right to unborn child. Two people engaged in an activity that has its SOLE PURPOSE is to create babies! If 2 people are foolish enough to engage in this activity unprotected and then she gets pregnant, and he wants to keep the child... he should be able to. That child is as much his as hers. YES I know that SHE is the one that has to carry the child throughout pregnancy, but then again...SHE should have thought about that before she had unprotected sex. If it was protected sex...I think that would actually change the answer. The intent to have sex and NOT create children by protecting themselves obviously insinuated that children were not wanted. Thus, if a child were to somehow be created it would likely be the mothers choice to abort it.

Tough question... i dont know if my answer made sense. I'm just sick of guys not getting any choice in the matter. It seems like mothers can abort their pregnancy, give the child up for adoption, or run off without telling the father, and we have no rights (or very few). THIS IS A PARTNERSHIP! if one side wants out... then there is still another person there waiting. Give them a chance!

On a side note... i think that if a man asks his gf to abort the child, and she refuses... then she is taking sole responsibility for the child. He should not be held liable for child support. I believe that he has given the mother adequate warning that he doesn't wish to be a part of the child's life, and allows her to decide whether or not she can raise the child on her own, or whether she should give it up for adoption.

Answer 7

I absolutely think he should have rights, as long as he is willing to take 100% responsibility for that child once he/she is born and the woman who doesnt want anything to do with the baby can safely sign away her rights then yes, he should be able to decide. Where did we ever come up with the brilliant plan that he cant stop the murder of HIS OWN child. Had this been a living child this would be a travesty, a court battle, a 6 o'clock news hog etc,,, but people tend to downplay the fact that the baby isnt here yet so its not a person. We have some really f'ed up laws and thinking habits

Answer 8

It's a tough one, but my opinion is that you can't give a father shouldn't be able to force a women to have an abortion, so the other would be true. Because of the discrimination pregnant women face, I would say that I agree with the supreme court and things should stay the way they are. It doesn't matter whether or not the parents are married or a one night stand. It is the mother's choice.

That said, I think that the mother should come to a conclusion based off of discussions with her partner.

Answer 9

I think the father should have some say about what happens to their child. If the mother does not want the baby then the father could take over once the baby is born. Same goes if they are married. If the girl does not want to have a baby she should take the proper steps to keep it from happening. Birth control or keeping her legs.

Answer 10

that is tricky and a very slippery slope.
if it were me and i was the unmarried girl who wanted an abortion, well, it would take a court order to keep me from having an abortion.

as for the married prospect....that is a whole other ball of wax. that situation calls for tremendous amounts of discussions and understanding.
i wasn't thrilled at being pregnant at first, but after my husband and i discussed it, well, i realized it wasn't the worst thing in the world and i'm pretty happy about it now. it just took some getting used to.

so, yes, the father should have some rights, however, it is ultimately, the woman's body and ultimately, her choice.

here's one for ya....
what if unmarried woman is pregnant and wants to keep the baby, but father doesn't want the baby out in the world.
should he have a right to make her get an abortion??/

interesting question. guys kind of get the short end of the stick, but at the same time, women are the ones who get their bodies taken over for 10 months!

it's tough.

Answer 11

I have known too many women that 'forget' to take their birth control pills hoping to get pregnant. Reason run from trying to trap the guy into marriage or just cause she wants a baby. Then, he is forced into supporting a child he did not want. I told my boys if they don't want to be daddy's, wear a rubber. If the girl says no to one, then RUN! Abortion has made it possible to have sex and no responsiblity (expect to pay up if you are a guy). Where is the women being responsible for her sexuallity???? fry the baby if you don't want it, make the guy pay if you do want the baby . and the man has no say. I think abortions will drop in half when they come out with male birth control pills.