Same sex families......?

Question

why are some people so adamant against it. Please don;t answer with gay men will rape their children, since the majority of pedophiles are heterosexual males. Do you really believe that they will try their hardest to turn their child gay? Why is it so hard to believe that two men or two women can give a child a good life, filled with love. Really what is the threat?

Answer 1

There is no threat. I work in a school district where there are quite a lot of gay families and the kids I deal with (from those families) are the most well adjusted, loving, tolerant children I have ever come to meet. I have been working with kids for over 7 years now, and I have seen plenty of heterosexual parents who children are either f@cked up, uncontrollerable, ignorant, racist, just plain sad. These same parents could not even give a sh!t on how their child should look. You would be suprised.
When I see a kid with two mommies or two daddies, I see that kid and say to myself, "That kid is going to be alright." And you know what? They do.

Answer 2

I suppose there is not bodily threat to a child, but there is a standard for family life because a child needs both a mother figure and a father figure. Studies have shown that infants react differently to the way males and females speak, walk, smile, cradle and they do better when exposed to both. Unless you live in San Francisco - there is a good chance that the child will be teased mercilessly about their two mommies or two daddies.

I don't think anyone would try to "make" their child gay. But I also don't think anyone is born to be gay. It is a choice that is made at some point in life. My parents really like math, as a result my brothers and I like math because we were surrounded with positive reinforcement. My husband and I really like to read, and our son LOVES books, because he sees how much we like them and has learned to like them too.

AND BY THE WAY separation of church and state IS NOT in the constitution, I've read it. So should you. Thomas Jefferson wrote in a letter to a friend that government should not make mandatory a religion in this country that would require the people to worship a certain way.

Answer 3

Amen to that, there is nothing wrong with gay marriage, or being gay. The constitution of the United States of America calls for a separation of church and state. Therefore, if the governing body of this country wants to recognize a marriage between same sex partners it has the authority to do so. Whether it upsets "religious" people or not. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Any one without sin?........Me neither, so drop the act of being so appalled by the fact that this it going on. And don't give me this crap that the term marriage was made by Christianity. News flash jackass, it's been around before Greek Mythology. Homosexuals should be allowed to be married, think about if they are in a 15 year relationship, they break up, who gets the stuff? That's what is needed. If anyone is so bothered by it, then stop sinning, then you can have your stones back kids.

Answer 4

Because every child need a mother and a father. Each parent of a different sex brings a different kind of love and a different kind of dicipline. 2 men or 2 women aren't equipt to raise a family. there are certain things a mother can only teach a child and a father can only teach a child. it's not right to raisea child with out those influnces. If 2 men have a daughter what will they do when she goes through puberty? they have no experiances in that they could only offer books and not real advice. What about a boy with 2 moms? He wants to get a girl friend his 'mom's' cannot give him advice because they never did agree with hetero relationships.

Answer 5

Same sex families does not necesarily offer problem in bringing up children. The difficulties is how to really start bringing up a child with a normal sex orientation easily. How they can well be prepared, in time when in their idealistic age they will encounter a lot of questions, ridicules from peers and in search of their identities that could be different from those who raise them. Many best things however, do happen to several children raised by parents with same sex.
Oftentimes it is not by having two normal parents that brings up a good child. But as long as the same sex parents immediately let their children know about how they were brought into this world honestly, the problem may not even occur.

Answer 6

because kids need a mother and a father. each teaches them different things. If the parents are 2 men, the child won't have a true mother (and all the little things they learn from a female mother). And if the 2 parents are women, they're not gonna have a true, male father figure. sorry, but those things are not replaceable by proxy. yeah, the kid will still prolly be okay. but to say "same sex marriage is just as good as opposite sex marriage" is being either ignorant or misleading

Answer 7

As with most things in life, there are no absolutes. I know more than one lesbian couple with children who are seem to be doing a pretty good job of parenting.

That being said. I believe children need role models of each gender to provide a balanced development. I believe this is particularly true with young boys. Boys need the example of good men to help them develop a healthy attitude about the more base emotions that men experience when they reach puberty.

Conversely there are a variety of emotions that I'm sure girls experience when they "blossom" that we guys just simply don't get.

Additionally, both genders need an adult model of the opposite sex to teach them how they can have a deep relationship with someone of the opposite gender without the whole sex thing getting in the way.

Answer 8

I don't have a problem with it. The children I've known from situations like that were the most loving and tolerant you could ask for.

As far as the bit with "gay parents make gay children" - not too long ago there was a woman on this board who said she was Christian and her daughter was a lesbian, and she didn't know what to do.

If being gay is "taught" (i.e. if gay parents make gay children so that's why gays shouldn't have kids), then what was this woman "teaching" her daughter that made her daughter gay?

For the record, I think the "gay parents make gay children" argument is complete garbage. It's just another smokescreen that people try to throw up to justify their bigotry and narrow-mindedness.

Answer 9

History shows that families are best at rearing children when there is one mother and one father as parents.

Yes, two gay men or women do a better job at raising kids than the state does (orphanages). But a father and mother do a better job at raising kids than gays, because each brings their own uniquely male/female perspective and gifts/talents/instincts, which produce the most well-rounded children.

Unfortunately, nobody will listen, and we will wait for a generation to see how badly millions of gay-raised children do in society.

*sigh*

Answer 10

There is none.

Not only are the majority of pedophiles hetrosexual males, Its actually 99.5% consider themselves hetrosexual and are considered hetrosexual by their communites. There have been hundreds of studies and the results are always the same (not to mention rather scary), so that blows that theory out.

The chance of gay parents turning out a gay child is also exactly the same statistically as hetrosexual parents turning out a gay child, which means its genetic.

I know several homosexual couples who are parents and they have wonderful kids. My friends' son (who is straight, btw), is not only the most polite, kind young man I've ever met, he's going to Harvard!! He should be the poster child for gay parents.