Theres a girl. She has a great attitude and personality, its just that im not fully physically attracted to her. Is it ok to date her?
2006-08-07 08:57:55 · 15 answers · asked by lilbiggyadam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is ok to date someone if you not fully attracted to them but just make sure to be upfront and honest with her, don't lead her on, make sure you are clear about where the two of you stand. I am in a situation like this right now and even though I have been upfront I feel like I am going to have to cut things off because if the attraction is not there then I know that I would never take it to another level (physical) and so now even though I have layed all the cards out on the table with him I still feel guilty about him paying for dates ect. when I know that I am not interested romantically ( he is) I feel it will only lead to someone getting their feelings hurt and its not me, sence I know its not going to lead to anything more, even though I have a decent time on the dates, I feel like I am wasting time by not trying to go out and meet someone with the whole package, someone with great personality, good attitude and that I am physically attracted to.
2006-08-07 09:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 17⤊ 4⤋
yep! been there done that. maybe you can become good friends. she might have a friend that better suits your physical taste and wa-la! I dated a lot and quite often just for fun. Just don't kiss and hug and lead her on besides that you just really like her. Tell her that. How nice and her great attitude makes you feel good kinda stuff. How you want to just hang out and do things together. Keep bringing up the word friends. That is all you want at this point in your life - with this person. If you do meet someone else that you find physically attractive then you have one friend and one lover. If you have any friends that comment that they like her then make a referral. Please remember to ask first. Good luck and have fun!
2006-08-07 16:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Physical attraction is a part of dating someone, although you don't sound very shallow by acknowledging that she has other great attributes.
Perhaps you should just br friends before things get too serious between the both of you. You don't want to lead her on. That's not cool.
2006-08-07 16:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be sure that you don't lead her on, if it looks like she is getting even slightly emotionally attached you're in to deep.
Or, you could be upfront with her and tell her you aren't looking for a physical relationship just a friendship....she'd probably appreciate that.
2006-08-07 16:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say yes, but I would definitely watch what I said around her so not to give her the wrong idea. Good luck.
2006-08-07 16:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe right now you wont feel a very high physicall attraction, but maybe she got some other good things u'll like about her that u haven't notice jet.
2006-08-07 16:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by mrs. cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u feel that her looks is going to give u deception .. then don't even attempt. keep her as a friend until u feel u are ready and comfortable with her looks.
2006-08-07 16:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yea. If she's a nice girl then that comes before looks.
2006-08-07 16:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, but there needs to be some chemistry... you will never date Angelina Jolie or Shakira, remember beauty is superficial
2006-08-07 16:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Luis T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you somewhat like her then yeah. See if you can begin to like her. But if you don't like her at all then save her the pain and tell her no.
2006-08-07 16:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋