Im tired of finding guys that only want me for sex.Any out there I dont have to sleep with to be with?

Answer 1

I'm not saying that you sleep with all these guys, like a lot of these other people are. It irritates me that they assume you are sleeping with all of these guys and that's why they only want you for sex. Guys don't have to get some to want some. I have guys that want me for sex only, and I don't hang out in bars and I don't put out. I don't know what makes them think that I would want just that. It is crazy. I'm still looking for those same guys you are looking for. Don't worry, we will find someone eventually.

Answer 2

Ask yourself:

Why do I feel that I have to sleep with a guy to keep him?

When you can answer that question; you can work on changing it.

By changing yourself, you break the dating patteren you are in and you will attact a different "type" of guy that is more to what you wnat, not what you get.

Start with setting a "date"; "i will not sleep with the next one for 6 months or a year or 40 dates or any other "long, measurable, time".

Then stick to ; even tell the guy, you are not going to sellp with them until you have been going out for a year; the ones that feel you are GREAT will be willing to put the time in to make the relationship work and will be willing to wait; cause you are worth it. the ones that just wnat to get into your pants will run; and you don't wnat them anyway.

Good luck;

jewells
30 months and still here.

Answer 3

What are your interests? If you like books, join a book club. If you like to play cards join a group.
find an interest or hobby that you enjoy, then join a group of others that like the same things. Meeting and dating someone that you have like interests with, will make it easier to have a relationship that isnt based solely on sex. Want to have a relationship based on sex? Then hang out in bars on Friday night.

Answer 4

I live upstate NY and I am older, but I would like to chat on line with you if you just want someone who isn't looking for cyber sex or anything like that. I'm 38, but I look 21 and act 17, so I guess it is true what they say, men mature slower than women.

Answer 5

Well I'm not sure if you're wanting to hold out til marriage before you have sex or if you just mean you don't want guys that are 'only' interested in sex. To answer you though: There are guys out there that don't 'just' want you for sex. They want you for sex and all the other stuff that people get out of a relationship. I'm pretty sure they're out there somewhere. Then ofcourse there's a good number of guys, as you'd mentioned, who just want sex. It sucks. Just try to weed them out as best you can. Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all, anyone that you HAVE to sleep with is not worth your time, as they have clearly shown that you have no value to them except as a mattress.

Secondly, there are plenty of men -- I married one -- who not only respected my decision of waiting for marriage, but take the marriage commitment seriously enough that they waited themselves.

Find a man like THAT and you have a true gem.

Answer 7

If you keep getting guys like that then you are sending the wrong message in the way you act and or dress. Ask your friends what it is about you that makes you that way and then you can change. You can't get mad because then you will not get anymore advice on how to behave.

Answer 8

Get over it. A lot of guys are probably tired of meeting women as beautiful as you that turn out to want nothing to do sexually with them. Now THAT is something to cry about.

Answer 9

This falls under one of my favorite sayings "all men are like parking spaces all the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped (mentally so)"

Answer 10

check out the church singles groups. i would also quit given any out if you are, give them time to get to know the you outside of the bed. The ones out there for one thing aren't worth it anyway don't waste your time. Or get what you want and them boot them out. Let them feel used.