what percentage of american women have a long marriage w/o divorce, I am afraid to get married because my father, he cheated and got divorced so many times and now I find it hard to trust men, I love them, but one thing I learned from my dad is men only care about sex and themselves, I am scared that I am going to be like my mom and my step-mom, miserable but refuseing to give up
2006-08-07 08:44:45 · 5 answers · asked by princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not all men are like that. You just have to be careful and make sure you know someone very well before marrying him. My husband and I lived together for 5 years before getting married this past June, and there isn't anything that I don't know about him. We openly communicate with each other and don't keep secrets from each other. As long as you're careful, you'll be okay. But I have read that children tend to follow the same patterns as their parents, so you should just use extra caution.
2006-08-07 09:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to ask yourself if that's a risk you're willing to take. There are both good guys and complete cads out there and most of the time, it's hard to tell the difference until it's too late . . . but true love is worth the risk. I was divorced for 13 years before I remarried and even now my husband has his good days and the days I could divorce him in a heartbeat. Bottom line is that I do love him and deep down I know he loves me in his own twisted way and, yes, there are things I would change if I could, but we'd still be together.
Don't let the men in your past (including your father) color your judgement towards all men . . . you'll find a good one soon enough.
Good luck!
2006-08-07 16:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate is between 50-60%
2006-08-07 15:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably help you to talk to a professional counselor about these fears. It is normal to have them in your situation given your history, but they seem to be interfering with your life, and talking about them with a professional will make it less likely that you will "play out" the same themes as your mom and step-mom. The self-awareness you gain will help you avoid repeating the pattern unknowingly.
2006-08-07 18:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by mellexical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be very careful with what you do around here
just be kind to him and love him
i used to have a guy for care for me but as soon he heard i had to move he didn't care anymore about so be very care
2006-08-07 16:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by goodfriendsgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋