I feel very bad. Please help me.?

Question

I live with my grandmother. I pay for my expenses. I've been living in this house all my life. Now that Lebanon is under attack, our realtives from Lebanon have come to stay with us. They are my aunt, her son and her daughter-in-law. Ever since they came, my life has been turned upside down. My aunt moved me out of my room into the guest room because she likes my room better. I can't get access to my stuff. My stuff are being used without permission and put where they don't belong. I have been on a diet for a while. Now I can't cook my diet food anymore. They order my grandmother around about what to cook. They ask about everything I do. I can't go out with my friends anymore becasue my cousin would want to come with us and I don't like him. Now I've put on weight. I feel very bad. What should I do? Should I go away to stay with a relative for a while? Should I try to resume my diet and try to go out and fight my way through it? I am imprisoned in my own house. Please help me.

Answer 1

hun i would go live with another realitive for awhile sounds pretty bad over there espcially if they moved you out of your own room. I wouldn't try n fight your way through anything they might get offened then you will get into some family problems.hope everything works out.

Answer 2

Wow these other people that answered aren't very helpful.

I would demand to have your room back and get your stuff. They do not own you or your things. Go back on your diet if that is what you want to do. What counts is what makes you happy. They have no right to take your things, and run your life. You are a person too.

As for you going out with your friends, just tell your cousin no. And if you are guilty for that... just say that your friends don't like him. Not a hard thing to do, and I am sure your friends would understand if you did that.

If this stuff doesn't work, then try to move in with someone else, and take ALL you stuff with you so maybe they will get the hint.

Good luck! I hope you get everything straightened out.

Answer 3

Stand up to them, your aunt has no right to order you or your gran around like that! What gives her the right to be in charge all of a sudden? Try to talk about things reasonably; tell her you want your room back, or at least your stuff. If she says no, wait til she's out the way and get it back yourself. If you think that will cause too much trouble then staying with another relative might not be a bad idea. However don't forget your grandmother in all of this. Talk to her too, and see what she thinks and how she feels about the situation. Good luck xx

Answer 4

Well,sweetie; Depends on how old you are. Can you make it on your own,or with a room mate? I,would try and work towards getting your own place. Then you could invite whom ever you want to come over. This way you can not have your Aunt over or your cousin. Stay on your Diet,who in the hell says that you have to eat what these people tell you to eat. Stand up for you grandmother! I,know that I would! No body should feel like the are imprisoned in there own house! I,really feel for you on this. I,hope that things work out for you soon,better sooner than later....Good Luck Oh,and if they are going through your things you could always buy some sort of trunk with a lock,and keep your things inside this trunk,and wear the key around your neck,anyways good luck to you.

Answer 5

Oh, bad situation. I don't see there's much you can do, except to move out. If they are staying for a shorter period of time, be patient. But, the worst thing is that very often people you helped and sheltered for a period of time (even a few years) seem to forget what you did for them and even become your enemies. Very rarely they are grateful. You can conclude if they are worth your patience. So, I suggest you to do some of the 2 things I've mentioned.

Answer 6

First of all, I'm sorry that yall are going through that. But you and your grandmother need to sit them down and explain to them the rules of the house. I'm serious!!! They should be thankful that your grandmother took them in first of all and for her to be kind of enough to cook for everyone with the high cost of groceries that is something to be thankful for. What gives them the right to tell her what they want to eat? Her home is not burger king and they can't have it their way!!! There is a such thing as walkin a thin line and they are definitely doing it. If they are hungry enough no matter what your grandmother cook they will eat it. It doesn't make any sense for folks to be so ungrateful when someone take you in and want to take over their home. She shouldn't be in your room unless you choose to let them use your room. I don't care who you are, they shouldn't be using your things without askin your permission FIRST. They need to give you and your grandmother respect and they definitely not doing that. Call a family meeting and lay down the law and if they don't like...oh well. Hit the door!!! It is just that simple. Yall do not deserve to be trampled on the way you are..it need to stop and it need to stop NOW. That is a good example why families don't help each other as much as they should b/c your family take advantage of ya.

Answer 7

Wow that's crazy and rude! Are they not in violation of some islamic code of conduct or something?

I don't know how old you are but if you're old enough I would think seriously about getting an apartment by myself. And if you want you can bring your grandmother with you to your new apartment. It's just sick what these relatives of yours are doing; I've never heard of anything like this before. Especially that they are going through your things without your permission?! Is Lebanon that different from America? I'm sure they have notions of privacy over there.

Go out with your friends and tell your cousin No if he tries to go with you. They are your friends, not his. He doesn't have the right to impose himself on you. If anything these relatives of yours should be trying to stay out of everybodies way as a sign of respect. You should kick your aunt out of your bedroom as well. And do not let anybody order your grandmother around. That has to stop asap.

What a mess. If this continues, consider calling immigration. =)

Answer 8

ok i can relate to you, first how old r u? if u are like 20 something then i think you should move out, if you are 12 - 18 more or less then i think you should first move all your stuff from the room where you were and put it in your new room then maybe put a lock on your door. now regarding your food, ask your gramma how she prepared the food and try it on your own. as for your cousin i know relatives can be annoying but try to spend some time with him and let him know you have your friends too. life is about balance you have to try to give everything some time so that nothing is left out. because at the end of the day you can't turn your back on your family.

good luck

Answer 9

Have a serious talk with your grandmother. It is her house, and you pay expenses, so your needs come before those of guests. They need to respect your space and your possessions. If they cannot do so, they should go stay with the other relatives, you should not have to leave your own home.

Stand firm. You do not report to them. Get back to your normal routine, and if they don't like it, they can find someone else to stay with .

I wish you and your family the very best of luck.

Answer 10

I am sorry to hear about your problem.
I do feel bad for you, you had this home and it was all perfect, then new people come in and take over.
The new arrivals may not understand how you are feeling, and the best thing to do is call a family meeting and calmly tell all of them how you feel and why, and then ask them how they feel this can be made better.
Include them in this process, and DO NOT yell or scream at them, but let them know that you are glad that they are safe and want the best for them, but that you feel that they have taken over your world.
Also, pray for them and ask God to help you through this.
He will help you.
Good luck, and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 11

Calm down, sweetheart!! You sound like a very structured person that has just started to deal with uncertainty and chaos in life. I commend you for being there for your grandmother, nobility shines brighter than the most meticulous polished CROWN. In servitude we find meaning.

It is unfair to be moved out of your room, but try to take advantage of the situation. This will give you the opportunity to NOT ONLY appreciate how much you enjoyed your old room, but a reminder of how quickly that precious commodity can be taken away. maybe you will consider moving out on your own, maybe this will spark AN AMAZING, NEW time in your life!! maybe you will bear down and simply get through, all the while REMEMBERING to just breathe and smile..happiness will certainly follow.

I'm sorry to hear that this has affected your diet. Though if you need validation on your beauty please continue to open your heart, I've seen all I need to make my heart empathize with you.


This is like ANY OTHER puzzle in life, just make sure to take care of the one's you love, be assertive with your OWN rights and feelings,and learn how to deal with those people that bring stryfe into your life by being honest and upfront with your feelings.

imprisoned? if you really feel that way you're welcome to cruise the united states on the back of my motorcycle..though unlimited freedom has 'vertical bars' of it's own.. I feel I'm dealing with this COMPLETELY OPPOSITE but JUST AS PARALYZING situation..

As far as what you should do to change...I leave you with a piece of advice that my father has lived by: Life is not about what happens to you, but HOW YOU DEAL WITH IT. Keep your head up and your heart open and you will be perfect.