Absent parent financially supporting, with no form of contact.
2006-08-07 08:34:44 · 21 answers · asked by Guillardo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The fact that you THINK you are losing your mind is a good sign. So often some noncustodial parents think their parental responsibility ends with sending the check each month.
Keep swinging, Daddy. Send gifts, letters, cards, make telephone call, whatever it takes. Don't give up! If your ex has poisoned the well, you child will know it in time. Don't put down Mom. Fight for your children. Kids are smarter than parents give them credit for.
2006-08-07 08:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can feel like it. First thing is to TRY and keep calm - it can be so frustrating but keep all lines of comunication open, if you can't by your ex, then for eg via grandparents even if that's only through a solicitor, it's something - and if you have been a good daddy, i'm sure the child would speak for his/herself in wanting to see you - knoweledge is power, know your rights, let the child know that even though mum and dad don't love each other anymore, you still love them - i wish you all the luck in the world
2006-08-07 08:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by merciasounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it your choice not to have contact?
If you want to see your child/children then go see a good family solicitor who can help you get access.
Its up to you to work at it...if you don't try to see them now, you can't blame the mum in years to come if you don't do something to rectify the situation.
By the way, its a legal and moral requirement to financially support your offspring, it doesn't give you visitation rights.
2006-08-07 09:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by lippz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.. It's a bummer, to say the least, that you don't have any contact with them. About the 'losing your mind' part though.. If you can manage to hold onto it, you'd find that you're best off that way. Losing your mind just means going even longer without getting to see them. Good luck.
2006-08-07 08:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know about the daddy, but I can tell you that my kids really suffered when their father refused to visit them, contact them, send them birthday cards, etc. It was cruel and no matter how I pleaded with him, he simply couldn't be bothered.
Grownups make the mess, their kids suffer. You're a grownup. Do what it takes to make your children's lives as secure and peaceful as possible. Kids come first. They/re not just for Christmas, you know.
2006-08-07 08:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is a good dad then you have no right keeping him away from his kids, especially if he is supporting them as well.
If there is another reason for him not being able to see them then yes, if he is a good dad then it would break his heart.
I have two friends who love and support their kids but cannot see them just because their ex's are vindictive, lying bitches and it makes me angry to see them go through hell just because the women don't want them to see their kids.
After all, its the kids who are being punished by keeping the father away for no reason.
2006-08-08 01:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bob Simons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't he have a relationship with his child?
How long has this been going on?
How old is the child?
If this is a new problem, the I would give it time and maybe it will all work out.
If not he can always go to court and get some rights instated.
2006-08-07 08:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a father or mother is not able to see a child they are very close to , they some times get depressed. My son has been going thru that. He got a divorce 3 years ago. Since then he has just gone down hill. He was so close to his daughter , The best father. But he has to come out of it and think of him self. I im his daughter alot or she ims me. But he don't know we do. I do not tell her how bad off he is, but know she knows. He lost his wife , his job closed everthing just fell apart all at once. But losing his daughter was his life. he get s
very up set if I mention her name. Her mother remarried last year and they live out of state. Makes it even harder. He about last his mine but I pray he will come back to reality. If you are going thru this please think of your self and then about how you can see her or him again. Please work it out. Pem
2006-08-07 08:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me over 20 years ago she poisened the kids away from me and now both of them have very serious issues my son hates his mum and my daughter knows she is a liar but keeps sucking up to her,it is not the parent who suffers but the kids
2006-08-07 08:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for you, i do think that at the moment fathers are not given as much rights as they should. you are expected to support the children but are not allowed to see them, assuming that the father is not alcoholic or anything similar that would deem him an unworthy father, they should be allowed contact with the kids
2006-08-07 08:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by gingajen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋