I am seeing him for a month now. We let each other know from the first day that neither of us want kid. I am on birth control for years. and he used condom. He kept asking me when I will have my period even I kept telling him that I am on the pills. He said some woman tried to get money from him claiming she was pregnant ( she was not) so now he is paranoid about it. . How should I handle this situation? to make him trust me that I don't want kid and on the pill. Is it OK for him to ask me that, it was very awkward and strange to me even though I understand his situation.? I do want a long term relationship with this guy but let's me know if this is a bad signal so I can move on..Thanks for the answers
2006-08-07 08:32:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him your period date, and Show him your bloody pads twice, and He never ask you again ;)
2006-08-07 08:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Reza Shahran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a huge issue in a long term relationship. You need that trust in order to be happy together and if trust is not there then something is wrong. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel that he doesn't trust you and explain to him that without trust or communication there is no relationship. If this hurts you or makes you angry then he needs to know how he is making you feel. Guys are very paranoid when it comes to having kids so you need to reassure him that you don't want any either and that you are not like the women in his past. Just keep in mind that trust is EXTREMELY important and you need to have that to be happy together. The choice is basically up to you and follow your gut instincts on how you feel cause they always tell you the truth.
2006-08-07 08:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_italia4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's any of his business if you've gotten your period or not. If he can't trust you, then that's his deal. You've only been seeing him an month and your already sleeping with him? My opinion, it's too soon and but if it's done, it's done; however, it sounds like he's a little paranoid and needs to either try to trust that you are taking the pill as you say or you need to find another guy. Show him the packet of pills so that you can show a little faith on your part, but explain to him that you don't feel comfortable with his asking if you got your period yet and ask him to stop.
2006-08-07 08:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the same way. He is paranoid. Just give it time its only been a month. Ive been on the pill for 10yrs and he is still paranoid. The pill is not 100% so its not a bad thing to use two forms of birth control. He is being responsible. Its not a bad sign.
2006-08-07 08:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is often normal for a guy to worry about a pregnancy even if you took all the normal precautions. There may have been something that didn't feel quite right when everything was complete. And if he has a history like he does, this will cause extra paranoia. This will be something that you two will have to work on if you want this relationship to last, but you do need to let him know that his questions are bothering you.
2006-08-07 08:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by FH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paranoia is really bad and he seems to have a major case of it.
There are two solutions
1. Wait it out to see if it gets better and in the meantime show him in person while he stands there that you are taking the pills. If that doesnt work if he still needs more proof (which i think is impossible to give) time to move on to solution number 2
2. Leave him and move on
2006-08-07 08:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by Hinari Fumasu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY sister was in a situation similar to this.After that loser told her that he wanted her to have his kids they tried and she was pregnant indeed.Thing is he started talking about not putting him on child support and how he was already on child support from a previous child and how he didn't need anymore responsibility on him than he already had.He moved on and he started telling the other female that my sister was lying and that he wasn't the father and wanted nothing to do with her.All the time he was calling her begging her not to ruin his life and how she was ruining his new relationship.So my thing is be careful and don't give this guy any kids because he doesn't want them.
2006-08-07 08:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is one thing to be paranoid, and another to be weird. How could anyone have sex and want a long term relationship without trusting that person completely? I guess that is a question that I should post.
2006-08-07 08:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u start ur period let him change ur kotex...lol no really!!! why is he so worried about it ? If i was u i would not sleep with him ..and when he ask why tell him that because of he keeps asking about that one question that annoys you...maybe the he will stop being such a paranoid guy
2006-08-07 08:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok for him to keep asing that question.Next time he asks tell him you haven't and see if he is someone you should be having think of having long term relationship with.
2006-08-07 08:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by bimby babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to purchase a home pregnancy test and take it with him present. Let him see that you are not pregnant. If he won't buy the pregnancy test, tell him to stop asking you.
2006-08-07 08:36:29 · answer #11 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋