Sisters constantly emotional since my father died help!?

Question

Ok where do I start? Ok my father died of cancar and it's almost been a full year without him. Next month on the 21st he'll have been gone an entire year. He battled cancar for 3 and a half years. He and my mother adopted me and my three other siblings. The youngest of my siblings was 12 when my father passed away. She crys over the littlest things. Caskets on tv,fathers hugging there kids on tv or in reality. She gets emotional all the time. Its embarassing. My older brothers and sisters feel the same way. She gets an attitude and yells at me whaen I tell her to stop. She tells me that I need to get out of her life. What should I do about her? My mother always takes her side. I think it needs to stop. She needs to control her emotions more. She does it in public anywhere you name it. What should I do?

Answer 1

It's really hard to get over the loss of someone that you really loved, and I still occasionally find myself tearing up over the loss of my brother over 2 years ago. But that's just a momentary thing, when I see something that reminds me of him, and I just wish I could share it with him. But after nearly a year, your sister should probably be adjusting to life without your dad and not feeling quite so emotional. It's normal to miss him and to feel sad at times, but our lives do need to go on. I bet that your dad would have wanted your sister to let go of her sadness and to enjoy her life.
It sounds as if your sister is a very sensitive girl, and that makes it harder to go through the difficult parts of life. Instead of being critical of her, though, it might help if you can make some loving suggestions. When your mom is in a good mood, tell her that you are concerned about your sister and think she needs some help to be able to manage her grief. It really helps to talk to someone, whether it is a minister or priest at church, a school counselor, or a trusted friend. Your health insurance may cover some sessions with a counselor. But I am sure your mom wants your sister to be happy again, too. So just try to talk to her in a way that emphasizes your sister's emotional needs instead of your embarrassment and frustration with her.

Answer 2

I agree with your mother and your sister. Leave her alone. People grieve differently, and there's no "right" way to do it and no proper time to "get over it."

So things make her cry easily. It sounds like she is a little more tender hearted than you are. Also, the early teen years are very turbulent and emotional anyway--hormones going crazy. Why should her getting emotional embarrass you? Her behavior is no reflection on you or on anyone else.

She doesn't need to control her emotions more--even in public. Most people feel compassion for someone who is hurting, even if it makes them uncomfortable. She only needs to get help if she feels like her emotions are beginning to interfere with HER life.
Your older brothers and sisters need to leave her alone and let her grieve in her own way for as long as it takes.

Answer 3

she needs as much positive support as she can...we all have our ways of grieving and the process takes longer than others. close family and friends will help her deal, with lots of open positive communication. do not make her feel bad for being so emotional. if other family members believe that she could use professional counceling, then find the best way to help her. my mother grieved for 15 yrs when my oldest brother was killed, but we were all patient with her grieving process and yes, she had many days of emotional chaos. but, we never held anything against her. i am not sure if she is completely over it, i don't think she ever will.

Answer 4

Everyone's grieving time is different. She needs time. Maybe she should consult a therapist. Your way of grieving may be different than that of your siblings. Give it some time. Don.t pressure them. Be supportive. Tell them that you understand that it is difficult but that they should try and focus on something positive.