i've been with 2 guys, one cought me already and is very sad (has been crying and begging me to stop seeing this other guy)... his willing to forgive me... THE OTHER guy is very violent and doesnt know i cheated he thinks the guy that answered my cell phone is some guy that wants us to break up and wants to fight him..but strongly believes i have not cheated at all...WHAT SHOULD I DO???? i hate being in this situation but i cant let them go i guess i like both????? also they both want to marry me and buy me lots of gifts take me out and i just dont know what to do????? i honestly want both???? plz im serious i need helpful advise ..no insults plz i do know its wrong.
2006-08-07 08:26:29 · 40 answers · asked by CALI GIRL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know it is wrong but you do it, so you deserve insults.
You can't handle being dumped so you do what you please and then when it comes to bite you on the a$$ you cry about how unfair it is that you have to have to pick.
I say tell them both what is going on and when the $hit clears and you are left with nothing and you have to crawl up from the porta potty of life you will understand how the guys feel.
Then you will understand cheating is wrong.
I do not see you hanging how you do things at all, in fact I see you doing this more in the future.
Down inside you do not care for anyone. and do not insult me or anyone else by saying you do.
You had to cheat on one the other one you are not cheating on because that person is an extra in the original relationship.
YOU ARE A BAD PERSON. and will always be.
Plus you are asking about advise because you where cought. you think of gifts and money. you are pathetic.
2006-08-07 15:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know that you have or will be causing harm to 2 other people. Crying guy knows and still cares for you. Violent guy believes fighting is acceptable and is going to want to beat someone up even if you told him the truth. Do you really want to be with such a person? Marry you and buy you gifts? Sounds like you should do everyone a favor (including yourself) and drop both until you grow up a bit and can make wise choices. This is the only true way out. But if you must pick, pick the sad guy.... at least he has heart.
2006-08-07 08:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa....you need to take a few steps back and take a breather!!!
You really need to take a break from both guys and figure out what you want before you end up in bigger trouble. Sounds like you are trying to have the best of both worlds...the caring, compassionate guy...and the bad boy....you need to really evaluate which is the more fulfilling and secure relationship...or if both need to be ended. Don't cheat anymore on whichever guy you consider your main one...take time out and get yourself together, then stick to your decision. Follow your heart..and gut feeling. Also if one guy is violent...better have long hard look at that...if he finds out about all this you may be in some serious trouble. Stop lying, stop cheating and get yourself together...you may need help from a counsellor...hey that's OK...we all need help sometimes in our life...but make the right choice..look at all your options and good luck!!!!!
2006-08-07 08:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by toe_roper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl!! Get your act together! Before you can exclusively date ONE man you must decide exactly what you want in a relationship. First I do not know your age, but from the truncated typing I assume you are Waaaaaaaaaay too young to be tied down to one man, in fact I am sure because you WANT to date both. You need to date alot of different men to find out the type that will keep you interested in the long run. Obviously neither of these guys fits the bill if you are seeking more than one person to satisfy your relational needs! Plus you certainly do NOT need a violent and posessive man breathing down your neck. Drop both of them and find one guy with ALL the qualities you like. Take your time and look around... there are alot of men out there! Good luck!
2006-08-07 08:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by kulover613 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of this situation asap.
#1- u are crazy being with a violent man and cheating on him knowing the way he is. you can find yourself in a very tragic situation.
#2- hurting this other guy that has given you his world and is willing to take you back says something.
My advice to you is to let go of both of them for the moment until u are ready to decide what u really want from life. to me it seems u might be confused which means u are not ready for something serious. just apologize to the guy that already knows u cheated and tell him u are sorry and that u need time to think what u really want. and to MR. VIOLENT let him know that right now u fel overwhelmed and u need space for urself to think about things. just make sure u keep it cool with him.
THAT IS THE SAFEST WAY TO AVOID ANY PROBLEMS TO THE OTHER GUY AND YOU WITH MR.VIOLENT.
good luck sweetie.
2006-08-07 08:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...marry me and buy me lots of gifts" sounds more like a material attraction rather something genuine. If it was, then you would've never cheated in the first place if the first had everything you needed. You're upset and confused because YOUR feelings are on the line now, but what about THEIRS? You didn't seen to take that into consideration when you started this charade. Perhaps you should leave both and take some time to figure yourself out.
2006-08-07 08:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that the other guy is violent then why would you even have the word "CHEAT" on your mind. You shouldn't have cheated if you didn't want to be in this situation. You cant have both honey!! You need to make up your mind before they make it up for you an I mean having them both leave you an the only advice that anyone should give you is...... dense.
2006-08-07 08:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by leihuaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the violent guy. You don't want that in your marriage. If the other guy is willing to forgive you, and you love him, then that sounds like you have a keeper. Stop cheating on him and let the past mistakes die out.
2006-08-07 08:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 3 years we were engaged, i threw her out of the house so fast she didn't know what happened. I had the upper hand in the situation, I am 100% glad of the way I handled it and would do it again if the same thing happened to me again. You need to think long and hard about your whorish antics. Her cheating on me messed me up for a long time. How would you feel if it were you. I want to say horrible things and tell you what I think of you. But I think you already know.
2006-08-07 08:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Daxzakk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't go with the guy who is very violent!! That's sounds very Dangerous, I would be scared for you if you were stay. I've been there, done that. He is not the one. He may hit you one minute, and go and bring flowers to ya the next. Please if he hitting or verbly abusive, call WEAVE. They can help. The forgiving guy knows what's he's talking about. if he's begging you to leave the violent guy, that should say something right there. The violent guy is not the choice. Good luck
2006-08-07 08:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋