My boyfriend and I broke up on Fri. night. He left me at WeFest and went home, 250 miles away. He did give me the option of riding along, but I said no, thinking he wouldn’t leave and we could talk things over and work things out. I was hoping to work things out once I got home, but he had my car packed with my things and said over the phone I should just get in and drive away. He then left me a “wonderful” e-mail, where he told me he hopes I “rot in hell”. I know that being with him isn’t the right thing, and I will be better off without that kind of an attitude, but I still hurt a bit. I hope I did the right thing, but I need your thoughts. I know you don’t know the whole story, but what do you think? I never did anything to hurt him, and think he would have cheated if given the opportunity. Help? I am running out of room and can't give too many details anymore, but will if you need them. My e-mail is the same as my member name...
2006-08-07 08:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I never cheated on him. It seems that the more negative things he could point out, the more he thought I'd become "better", I only heard what was wrong with me. I agree, though, with some of them and have made many improvements to myself, but as a result, my self-esteem isn't the highest either, as all I hear is negative. Ugh! I hate this feeling!
2006-08-08 06:29:56 · update #1
well, the deal is done. You already feel the pain, right? Pain only lasts for so long, then you heal. Obviously your intuition was right. If I was him and I cared for you, i wouldn't have left, unless you were sucking face with another guy, but I don't think that was the case. He evidently had other plans that day to leave you and return home. I would almost guess that he had someone with him for why would he leave you and go over 200 miles without you? You would be best to leave the situation as is. You decided not to "ride along" and there was a reason for that. Go forward and if it was meant to be, then things will come back full circle and you will get what you want. If it wasn't meant to be, things will still come full circle and you still will get what you want. Love is uncontrollable and sometimes down right cruel. You always hutrt the ones you love, and his biggest mistake was to tell you that he hopes you rot in hell. That to me does sound like a cry for attention and he realizes the mistake he made. But words are like fists, once unleashed, the damage is done. No taking it back. What was said was said. So don't take that kind of abuse and keep on truckin towards the true love, or the greatest relationship you will encounter in the next coming days and learn from all of this. I don't know how long you two were together, but make sure you read what you wrote in this question. you say you know he would cheat on you if given the chance, is that any way to live and call it love? Your free from the drama, so go live the freedom. hope this helps along with the many other suggestions and opinions you get. Just remember, you will love again and you definatelly will be loved again. Peace.
2006-08-07 08:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Breaking up isn't easy but in your heart of hearts you know, as you said, he wasn't right for you. I often think women make life extra hard on themselves and look for the good in a guy, give them the benefit of the doubt, apologising for things they don't need to apologise for... when they know the guy's not suitable, but really, this wasn't long term because you know you'd end up getting more hurt. The hurt is natural but it will pass and you will meet a more suitable person - just be brave for the next few weeks and don't go back just because there's no-one else right now.
2006-08-07 08:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Empea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel men and women can believe unfastened to have the opinion that they wish. They will have to be ready to precise there opinion, and people who concentrate (which will have to be plenty of men and women) will have to have an open brain, and perhaps difference there opinion. Some evaluations won't transform some thing, however it doesnt imply there nugatory. Even if no person treasures your opinion, you will have to. Its what makes you who you're.
2016-08-28 11:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like an all-around jerk. he's not worth ur time. if he treats u like that i say good riddance to bad garbage.
of course it hurts to be rejected but think of this as an opportunity. a gr8 opportunity! the guy who's been treating u like dirt and has been wasting ur time has finally left u. celebrate! the only attachment u hav for him is from when u thought he luved u. he doesn't. u dont need trash like him. find some1 who will appreciate u.
2006-08-07 08:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on from this guy, it sounds like a very bad relationship and why would you want to put yourself through that kind of abuse? i know that you've probably heard this before but there is someone out there that will treat you right, with the respect that u deserve not that jerk!!!!
2006-08-07 08:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of things, he wasn't a very good person for you anyway. Just move on to the next guy.
2006-08-07 08:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is if he truly loves u, he wouldn't leave u dat night and will try and make it up with u immediately.
He doesn't care bout u, y don't u just move on.
2006-08-07 08:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, with trial and error you will find mr. right. don't worry just move on. the best revenge is having a good life.
2006-08-07 08:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never make up with him because the relationship would go nowhere.
2006-08-07 08:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by ransomschoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. If he can talk to you like that, even when he's angry, then he's not worth your time.
2006-08-07 08:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by hangoutandtalk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋