2006-08-07 08:17:59 · 59 answers · asked by Trouble Maker 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
NOOOO! A daughter needs her mother more than ever during that time of hardship. Most gorls that get pregnant at teens end up depending on their mothers love!!! Good Luck!!
2006-08-07 08:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...daughters need their mothers support throughout their whole pregnancy...they don't really have anyone else. I'm 23 and am 32 weeks pregnant and I feel it is a blessing having my mom their for me to answer questions and concerns. I couldn't imagine being pregnant as a teen but even worse I couldn't imagine my mother turning her back on me if I was. Everything happens for a reason. And people do make mistakes, especially when they are young. Just because your daughter will have a baby to raise, still being a teen doesn't mean anything. She can still graduate from highschool, go to college and better her life. It just might be a little harder and take a little more work since it's just not her that she has to look out for...even more of a reason for mom to be there and be supportive!
2006-08-07 08:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by kerri_lynn01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that situation is difficult for parents - however it used to be a lot worse than it is today. Sometimes those situations make the relationship stronger. So I guess it just depends on how much trouble the teen has been for the mom... if she's been difficult to handle and rebellious - then maybe the mother feels "you wanted to do your thing - now deal with the consequences". Personally, there are so many childless couples out there who really want a child and are ready to give him/her a wonderful life - so the teen needs to decide what is best for the child. It's hard because it's an emotional issue for all... the bottom line is that a child is forever, a responsibility forever; make sure the teen is really ready for that commitment.
The mother is already raising a teenager so you have to kind of understand that it's been a lot of years of raising for her - and she understands the commitment the teenager is going to have to make.
2006-08-07 08:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Way No matter what the daughter did she is still that mother's child not that I condone premarital sex or teen pregnancy she is human and she made a rather significant mistake. What that mother needs to do now more than ever is stand by her daughter and try to give her the best example of parenting that she can so her daughter can be just as good a parent she can possibly be.
2006-08-07 08:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by denise e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother doesn't turn her back on her child that robs the forbidden cookie jar.Instead she lovingly yet firmly teaches the child that there are consequences for every decision made and they must be faced.
This lesson should be taught to the pregnant daughter too. Only this lesson will be a long one (18 years long or more).
Mom should show daughter that she still loves her but that the NUMBER ONE caregiver of the precious new one on the way will be........none other than the mommy-to-be. "Grammy" will NOT be "nanny" and care for the child 24/7. Yet "Grammy" will be there as a mentor to show her daughter how to care for her child and find joy in doing so. In the end, hopefully,because her mother remains lovingly firm in teaching her the ways of life-- daughter will learn her lesson and wait for the right time in her life to have another child.And the new baby--though young-- will be learning the same lesson from mommy AND grammy both as he/she grows.
2006-08-07 08:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by ZEE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't give up your daughter now this is the time that they're gonna need you most....just think if u got pregnant when you were a teenager u wouldn't want your mom just to turn their back on you and not help.......you know the guy will probably leave her newayz then where will she have to go nowhere.....plus if you turn your back on her you'll never get to see your grand-children because you know she'll probably have more....you just have to be considerate even if she's not ready to be a mother you are and at least you know the child will be in good hands....best of luck
2006-08-07 08:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its when she needs you the most and it is your grandchild. She has made this one 'mistake', I am not saying the baby is a mistake but your daughter made a huge error in judgment and will need all the help she can get to make it through it. In saying that though she shouldn't have to face the consequences of her error because she has too or she will not learn from them. She just needs to have support while facing the coming months. You didn't say whether or not the father is involved or plans on raising the child too....I know this will be difficult but you have to forgive him too and he's probably as scared as she is if not then turn the guy loose. Just remember she did not do this alone and just they both need to bear the burden of their mistake. Be there for her and your grandchild and the father if he's a decent kid who also made a mistake...it will take great compassion and forgiveness on your part and alot of patience but it is only a few short months and as you well know things do not remain the same as they will today.
2006-08-07 08:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by hell_in_a_handbasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a VERY tough question (and yes, I am a single mom and parent to a son and daughter who are both late teens). My insurance carrier (health) will NOT cover the prenatal or birth care of any pregnant teen -- period. If my daughter made that poor of a choice (god forbid that she will not do that through her college years), then she needs to take responsibility herself for her choices -- meaning ... if she is old enough -- get a job, continue her education, IDENTIFY the male that impregnated her (so I can have him served with a court order for DNA testing), and be WILLING to prosecute this male so that he can be HELD RESPONSIBLE (Financially and every other way) for the care of the daughter during pregnancy AND the care of the baby and help with the expenses.
It is ok to be there for her emotionally, but financially -- well, that is another story all together. Personally, it takes two to make that baby, and instead of focusing on the teen girl -- the real question should be: WHY are all these irresponsible SPERM DONORS (including my ex-spouse) ALLOWED to continue to NOT support the children they create, and NEVER Get legal consequences for their actions!!!!!
2006-08-07 08:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!!! I was 17 when I first got pregnant and if it weren't for my mother I don't know where I'd be today. She was not happy about it but she sure didn't turn her back on me. I now have 3 daughters and I would never make the decision to turn my back on any of them. I pray they think a little smarter than I did. But, I'd never walk away from my children. They need their mother.
2006-08-07 08:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Maybe her back was turned to her daughter and that is the reason why her daughter is in this position. She found attention and "love" elsewhere.......
If my daughter becomes pregnant in her teens. That means I haven't done what I needed to do to be a parent. So, I need to educate her further and give her the options to go forth. I won't be a grandparent raising my grandchildren. I will help but she needs to know she made her bed and lay in it. I can give tough love at the same time giving carring love.
2006-08-07 23:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋