I met this guy online and we live in diff states, we've been talking daily for about 10 months, and have developed feelings, i told him i loved him, he says he is in love with someone else but has very strong feelings for me what do I do, don't want to loose friendship we are like best friends ,and i don't want to loose the chance of possibly being with him He's coming to see me soon how do I handle this? What do I do????
2006-08-07 07:59:38 · 19 answers · asked by Sexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not in a relationship, we are both single but see othe people.
2006-08-07 08:13:27 · update #1
i kno it's hard to love someone and be there friend but u have to realize everything has a season so u keep being there for him and keep being his friend watch u will get your vhance with him or God will send u someone better.
2006-08-07 08:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by G Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so u poured your heart out an dhe rejected it by saying he loves someone else... I think he just wants to be friends. If u guys are best friends like you say then just keep it on friendship level. Dont bring it up again either. If the thing with the other person doesnt work out then he knows he's got you, you know?
Im not saying be he's back-up plan either. You guys just be cool and enjoy each other and if its meant to happen it'll happen.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-07 15:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, don't do this to yourself. what are the real odds of you too having a relations living in two completely different states? i know you have strong feeling for each other but if you won't be able to act on it, you really shouldn't put yourself in this situation. in the end you all both will be hurt b/c it just can't happen - one because of the distance and two because he's in love with someone else. i say cut off all ties with him until you are over him. b/c even if you are still friends, you will still be hoping you two can be 2gether
2006-08-07 15:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange to meet with him when he comes into town. After all, you have been conversing daily for 10 months. I certainly wouldn't lose this opportunity just because he is in love with someone else, and/or as long as he is ok with the idea of meeting.
2006-08-07 15:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just went through this a few months ago. however it was reversed. he was in love with me but i wasnt in love with him. first, make sure to just be yourself. dont let words get in the way of your friendship. show him around and do things that you would normally do with your friends. in fact go out with a bunch of friends to make it seem like less of a date and more of an outting. im sure you wont loose the friendship as long as the boundries between friends and lovers are held up.
2006-08-07 15:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by hunnyz_heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your significant other should be your best friend, the two go hand in hand. However, if he's in love with someone else does that mean he;s in a relationship? Might be a warning flag
2006-08-07 15:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your feeling. When you see him, you may discover if your love is of friendship or more than that. Are you willing to wait for this man however long it takes? Keep an open mind and wait and see. But don't lie to yourself or your friend?
2006-08-07 15:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by thebillshow2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is posible but it is very hard and if your not a strong person then it is not a good thing to try. but you could always try and stay friends with him and then when he comes to his sences he will relize that you have been here for him and he will want to be with you.
2006-08-07 15:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by girl in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act like you normally do. how you would feel comfortable around him. my best friend, hes got a girlfriend now and ive got to learn to put up with her. but just act the way your most comfortable with. if you use a "mask" to hide behind, and he finds out, it may ruin the relationship. i had a mask for a while, but when my best friend got his girlfriend, it shattered. hes somewhat sympathetic to me because my mask was hiding some pretty bad scars and irrational feelings and fears. it kinda creeped him out. but unless youve got something to hide, just act yourself. i only had a mask because of the things that i didnt want martin to find out. my ex-boyfriends didnt like the real me or the mask. the first one was cruel and the second one didnt really care at all.
2006-08-07 15:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful of what you believe of online relationships. He might be married or worse! At least he told you he loves another person. I would back off.
2006-08-07 15:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋