My boyfriend and I are going through some mess right now. I feel as though he puts his baby mama's happiness before mine. Keep in mind this has nothing to do w/ their daughter. Here are some examples:
1. It is disrespectful for me to come over when she is there (it is his moms home) but not disrespectful that they share the same bed (she stays there cause she is too ashamed to go back home to mommy (just turned 18)).
2. He is moving out and she is coming w/ him and of course they are going to share the same bed
3. He is way to busy worrying about what she is doing and who she is with.
4.Has left me at his friends house with no word of where he is going but 1 hour later he calls me on the cell to tell me that she is gone you can come over. by that time i was at the gas station on my way back home.
I have repeatedly tried telling him how I feel but his response is always negative or just making lame excuses to justify the situation.there is more but too much to type serious posts
2006-08-07 07:49:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not dumb don't get me wrong. i just making sure i'm not being insecure. i just wanted to here the opinions of others. cause truthfully this relationship is getting ready to end cause i'm not putting up with this anymore
2006-08-07 07:59:17 · update #1
oh yeah we have not had sex yet. i've not gotten to that point in our so called relationship yet....thank god!!
2006-08-07 08:01:22 · update #2
Sounds like like somebody is getting played. I mean read your question and then ask yourself why am I putting up with this crap? It doesn't make since. He's lying to you and he's still sleeping with her. He cares about her and not you. Your just some random chick to him. Move on find someone without the drama.
2006-08-07 07:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what my son farther treats me the same way and I can tell you if they are sleeping in the same bed then they are definantly having sex. He is still not over her and he still feels like their family no matter what. He also may feel that he is not going to get in any other commited relationship because he Loves his baby mom. He will date and do his thing, but commitment forget it.
My son farther told me that the girl is just a friend, and it is nothing serious you know. I wanted to respect his space if they were going together, but he would say no you can come over if she is here, you don't have to wait out side (if I was picking my son up or droping him off). If I need a place to stay he will let me stay there and all that good stuff. We have such a tight relatioship that even if we are not together the bond that we established while together is hard to sever. So, it's crazy because we can be with someone else, and if he needs anything like tissue, his colthes washed (say if I were to wash my son clothes and his was included in the bag) I would wash his things. I could go over to his house and stay the night with my son, cook him dinner and put him in the bath. My son farther could come over my house, stay with my son, put him in the bath and make him dinner.
I think both the mother and the farther want to see each other doing good and feel some type of olbilgation to the other. We care if they have food,a place to live, etc.... and yes it even effects possible relationships.
From my experience they still have not found a way to just be the baby mom or the baby dad because of history.
It's all about what you are going to do now that you know their possible thoughts.
The girl my son farther said was a friend, they are no longer friends. I know she felt the same way you do. I used to tell my son farther that, that's not right. I wanted to respect their space but what he was telling me was different. I knew it was more but, I couldn't say anything because I did not know how the girl would have took it, if I would have asked what was really going on and ect.....
keep me posted
2006-08-07 09:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 00:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if he has no respect for you at all. It is time that you tell and show him how serious you are. If you have a place to stay and a livelyhood to support yourself, then go and never look back. If you don't, then give him an ultimatum and show him that you mean business. Talk to God about it. I am also here 24/7. Let me know how it goes.
2006-08-07 08:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by sashshae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you know better. He is still hitting that. He has all but done her in your face. Don't accept another day of this disrespect. It will continue as long as you allow it. He has way too much baggage. Let him go and allow yourself to be free to meet and appreciate someone who values and admires you. You are the only person who can change this situation. He is having his cake and eating it too. Leave him and let him get choked off that same cake. Or else, you will continue to play second string.
2006-08-07 07:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl they are having sex I'm going throught the same thing with my baby's daddy's girlfriend except we dont live together but i can tell you from experience its not going to stop their are feelings their that he will never have for you. And yes its disrespectful but as women we have to stop be gullible why are you with him? Why would you want a man with children? Wake yo game up and find somebody who wants you and only u preferrebly some body who has no children
2006-08-14 10:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Khais Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very clear that he cares more about her than you.
He puts her before you, she's sleeping in the same bed as he. This seems to be more about them and not the child. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to see it for what it really is. Dump him and find a man that will love you and treat you with the respect your deserve.
2006-08-07 08:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
i'm a father and the mother of are little girl comes over on weekend to see her but i would never talk to who with out my wife i have now being there with me.
2006-08-07 07:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by ardgo2112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems pretty clear to me that you should kick him to the curb. If they're sleeping in the same bed, don't you think that something will happen? Get out of it before it's too late.
2006-08-07 07:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by bonjovifan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, drop this man like spoiled meat! Send him back to his mama or his baby mama right now!
2006-08-07 07:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Babs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋